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Offline Kdip

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Re: My story.
« Reply #4 on: January 15, 2014, 03:09:00 PM »
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Quote from: KindCanMan
Hello Quitters-

I hope that doesn't come off wrong. We're trained and raised to go through life not quitting because quitters never win, right? In this case, when I call you Quitters, I say so with reverence and admiration. I hope to join your league.

My story, I suppose this goes back to college or even before. I went all through high school and up until my senior year of college before I ever even attempted to try a tobacco product. I was an athlete. I didn't touch the stuff. In fact, I despised and still do despise my mother's smoking habit.

Sometime after I gave up running track and before I entered into the "real world" I picked up smoking on the side. A disappointment to myself. Some days I smoked more than others, mostly it was social but I was still addicted. I discovered cycling again, a sport I took up in my pre-teen years, and I started my slow journey towards quitting cigarettes. I met a girl, now my wife, and I didn't want to be a smoker anymore. I quit. Quite literally on the spot. I maybe smoked a handful of cigarettes from that point forward. I went without tobacco for several months, years even. Sometime around the time my wife, at that time my fiance who is now a dentist, was going through her board exams halfway across the country, I was settling on my first house and starting a business at the same time while working a full time job. The urges came back. I didn't want to smoke and had tried smokeless tobacco once or twice before so I figured I'd give it a go. To stop the anxiety and relieve some stress.

In all honesty, the habit has been touch and go. My usage since I began has been more frequent at times than others. It's something that I've always done in private and in my mind it was always a means to an end - it was something I did instead of smoking and to me it was never going to be something that I did. I wasn't a dipper.

Two years later, I'm using more often than I would like. It's the only secret I've ever kept from my wife. If she didn't know, like know one else knew, in my mind I wasn't using it. Somehow, that's how I justified it to myself.

There is no justification. I'm addicted and it needs to stop. That's why I am here. No more lying, no more pretending, no more hurting anyone else. It hurts my wife and it is hurting me. 

So, to all of you Quitters out there. I hope to be amongst your ranks. 100 days from now, 100 days after that and more after that. I have no doubts this won't be easy. Bare with me.

Cheers fellas (and ladies),

-Adam
Welcome Adam, glad to have you amongst us "quitters." Don't be sorry, we're damn proud of it!

Thanks for sharing a bit of your story. You my friend are not close to being alone. We even have a term for you: ninja dipper. I was a ninja dipper. Most of the people on here were ninja dippers. Your story is so very similar to mine and many others on the site.

Your biggest reason for using: it was a stress reliever. WRONG. One thing you will come to learn if you stick close to this site: 1 problem + nicotine = 2 problems. I know I used to justify it using the same faulty rationale. We're doing ourselves a favor by dipping instead of taking it out on somebody else. Wrong again.

"Using more often than you would like" is not good enough. When you quit on here, you QUIT. No mas. Finito. The awesome part about quitting on KTC is we only quit today. That's it. We don't worry about tomorrow or the next day or the Super Bowl. Quit today. One day at a time (ODAAT). It won't be easy. It's simple, but not easy.

Read everything you can on the site. Go to the pink welcome center tab in the top left of your screen and start with why we post roll. By posting you're making a commitment to yourself and everybody else on this site that you will not use nicotine in any form today. No social cigs, no "just one dip", no patches, no nic gum. Keep reading all the information you can, it will help your resolve and increase your accountability to quit once and for all.

After posting roll, check in with some of your fellow April 2014 comrades. Get to know them, it will again help strengthen your quit because they will be there for you when it seems like it's too tough.

I will quit with you today and any day you're willing to put your life and your wife's happiness ahead of a can of carcinogenic worm dirt. You can do this. You WILL do this.
Welcome to the site Adam! Use our program as intended and you WILL quit!!! My only advice is fess up to your wife that you have fallen back into using nic and are serious about quitting. That way you won't have to go through this journey alone.

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Re: My story.
« Reply #3 on: January 15, 2014, 02:42:00 PM »
Quote from: KindCanMan
Hello Quitters-

I hope that doesn't come off wrong. We're trained and raised to go through life not quitting because quitters never win, right? In this case, when I call you Quitters, I say so with reverence and admiration. I hope to join your league.

My story, I suppose this goes back to college or even before. I went all through high school and up until my senior year of college before I ever even attempted to try a tobacco product. I was an athlete. I didn't touch the stuff. In fact, I despised and still do despise my mother's smoking habit.

Sometime after I gave up running track and before I entered into the "real world" I picked up smoking on the side. A disappointment to myself. Some days I smoked more than others, mostly it was social but I was still addicted. I discovered cycling again, a sport I took up in my pre-teen years, and I started my slow journey towards quitting cigarettes. I met a girl, now my wife, and I didn't want to be a smoker anymore. I quit. Quite literally on the spot. I maybe smoked a handful of cigarettes from that point forward. I went without tobacco for several months, years even. Sometime around the time my wife, at that time my fiance who is now a dentist, was going through her board exams halfway across the country, I was settling on my first house and starting a business at the same time while working a full time job. The urges came back. I didn't want to smoke and had tried smokeless tobacco once or twice before so I figured I'd give it a go. To stop the anxiety and relieve some stress.

In all honesty, the habit has been touch and go. My usage since I began has been more frequent at times than others. It's something that I've always done in private and in my mind it was always a means to an end - it was something I did instead of smoking and to me it was never going to be something that I did. I wasn't a dipper.

Two years later, I'm using more often than I would like. It's the only secret I've ever kept from my wife. If she didn't know, like know one else knew, in my mind I wasn't using it. Somehow, that's how I justified it to myself.

There is no justification. I'm addicted and it needs to stop. That's why I am here. No more lying, no more pretending, no more hurting anyone else. It hurts my wife and it is hurting me.

So, to all of you Quitters out there. I hope to be amongst your ranks. 100 days from now, 100 days after that and more after that. I have no doubts this won't be easy. Bare with me.

Cheers fellas (and ladies),

-Adam
Welcome Adam, glad to have you amongst us "quitters." Don't be sorry, we're damn proud of it!

Thanks for sharing a bit of your story. You my friend are not close to being alone. We even have a term for you: ninja dipper. I was a ninja dipper. Most of the people on here were ninja dippers. Your story is so very similar to mine and many others on the site.

Your biggest reason for using: it was a stress reliever. WRONG. One thing you will come to learn if you stick close to this site: 1 problem + nicotine = 2 problems. I know I used to justify it using the same faulty rationale. We're doing ourselves a favor by dipping instead of taking it out on somebody else. Wrong again.

"Using more often than you would like" is not good enough. When you quit on here, you QUIT. No mas. Finito. The awesome part about quitting on KTC is we only quit today. That's it. We don't worry about tomorrow or the next day or the Super Bowl. Quit today. One day at a time (ODAAT). It won't be easy. It's simple, but not easy.

Read everything you can on the site. Go to the pink welcome center tab in the top left of your screen and start with why we post roll. By posting you're making a commitment to yourself and everybody else on this site that you will not use nicotine in any form today. No social cigs, no "just one dip", no patches, no nic gum. Keep reading all the information you can, it will help your resolve and increase your accountability to quit once and for all.

After posting roll, check in with some of your fellow April 2014 comrades. Get to know them, it will again help strengthen your quit because they will be there for you when it seems like it's too tough.

I will quit with you today and any day you're willing to put your life and your wife's happiness ahead of a can of carcinogenic worm dirt. You can do this. You WILL do this.
"I am a nicotine addict and there is nothing I can do about it; I am also a quitter, and that, I can do plenty about." - Grizzly25

Today I choose to quit because today is the only day I have control over today. Tomorrow is a new day and when tomorrow is today, I'll control it too, but not until then. I will win this fight with today...

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Re: My story.
« Reply #2 on: January 15, 2014, 02:38:00 PM »
So you've rationalized your decision to quit - good

now, throw away all tobacco and tobacco related acoutrements you have around your home, vehicles, work.

Next, learn how to post roll - you're in the April 2014 with me - glad to have you aboard!

post roll, daily.

drop into the live chat - make a connection or two there

start drinking more water than you think you need - it helps
get back on the bike - this is really helping me out, personally (I commute 10 miiles each way to work - i'm losing weight and my quit is stronger)

post your daily thoughts and updates into this thread - it will be your quit journal

most of all, don't be afraid to ask for help or get advice. Caving to the craving is never worth it.

you're embarking on a journey of enlightenment - congrats. the first few legs will not be fun though - stay true to yourself.

you got this.
QD - 1/7/2014

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My story.
« on: January 15, 2014, 02:06:00 PM »
Hello Quitters-

I hope that doesn't come off wrong. We're trained and raised to go through life not quitting because quitters never win, right? In this case, when I call you Quitters, I say so with reverence and admiration. I hope to join your league.

My story, I suppose this goes back to college or even before. I went all through high school and up until my senior year of college before I ever even attempted to try a tobacco product. I was an athlete. I didn't touch the stuff. In fact, I despised and still do despise my mother's smoking habit.

Sometime after I gave up running track and before I entered into the "real world" I picked up smoking on the side. A disappointment to myself. Some days I smoked more than others, mostly it was social but I was still addicted. I discovered cycling again, a sport I took up in my pre-teen years, and I started my slow journey towards quitting cigarettes. I met a girl, now my wife, and I didn't want to be a smoker anymore. I quit. Quite literally on the spot. I maybe smoked a handful of cigarettes from that point forward. I went without tobacco for several months, years even. Sometime around the time my wife, at that time my fiance who is now a dentist, was going through her board exams halfway across the country, I was settling on my first house and starting a business at the same time while working a full time job. The urges came back. I didn't want to smoke and had tried smokeless tobacco once or twice before so I figured I'd give it a go. To stop the anxiety and relieve some stress.

In all honesty, the habit has been touch and go. My usage since I began has been more frequent at times than others. It's something that I've always done in private and in my mind it was always a means to an end - it was something I did instead of smoking and to me it was never going to be something that I did. I wasn't a dipper.

Two years later, I'm using more often than I would like. It's the only secret I've ever kept from my wife. If she didn't know, like know one else knew, in my mind I wasn't using it. Somehow, that's how I justified it to myself.

There is no justification. I'm addicted and it needs to stop. That's why I am here. No more lying, no more pretending, no more hurting anyone else. It hurts my wife and it is hurting me.

So, to all of you Quitters out there. I hope to be amongst your ranks. 100 days from now, 100 days after that and more after that. I have no doubts this won't be easy. Bare with me.

Cheers fellas (and ladies),

-Adam