Hello Quitters-
I hope that doesn't come off wrong. We're trained and raised to go through life not quitting because quitters never win, right? In this case, when I call you Quitters, I say so with reverence and admiration. I hope to join your league.
My story, I suppose this goes back to college or even before. I went all through high school and up until my senior year of college before I ever even attempted to try a tobacco product. I was an athlete. I didn't touch the stuff. In fact, I despised and still do despise my mother's smoking habit.
Sometime after I gave up running track and before I entered into the "real world" I picked up smoking on the side. A disappointment to myself. Some days I smoked more than others, mostly it was social but I was still addicted. I discovered cycling again, a sport I took up in my pre-teen years, and I started my slow journey towards quitting cigarettes. I met a girl, now my wife, and I didn't want to be a smoker anymore. I quit. Quite literally on the spot. I maybe smoked a handful of cigarettes from that point forward. I went without tobacco for several months, years even. Sometime around the time my wife, at that time my fiance who is now a dentist, was going through her board exams halfway across the country, I was settling on my first house and starting a business at the same time while working a full time job. The urges came back. I didn't want to smoke and had tried smokeless tobacco once or twice before so I figured I'd give it a go. To stop the anxiety and relieve some stress.
In all honesty, the habit has been touch and go. My usage since I began has been more frequent at times than others. It's something that I've always done in private and in my mind it was always a means to an end - it was something I did instead of smoking and to me it was never going to be something that I did. I wasn't a dipper.
Two years later, I'm using more often than I would like. It's the only secret I've ever kept from my wife. If she didn't know, like know one else knew, in my mind I wasn't using it. Somehow, that's how I justified it to myself.
There is no justification. I'm addicted and it needs to stop. That's why I am here. No more lying, no more pretending, no more hurting anyone else. It hurts my wife and it is hurting me.
So, to all of you Quitters out there. I hope to be amongst your ranks. 100 days from now, 100 days after that and more after that. I have no doubts this won't be easy. Bare with me.
Cheers fellas (and ladies),
-Adam