Really need to quit...

[Ginet]

Mollie, ya fucked up. Ok, move on kiddo. It's funny, I was debating this with myself the other day looking at all these younger quitters like yourself. Who has it harder in the quit? Some old fuck like myself who's been willingly putting poison in his lip for the better part of 27 years, or someone like yourself that's only been a slave to Madame nicotine for a few? Older right? Or is it younger? First I thought older, cause I dipped and by definition that means I am a selfish bastard who cares for no one other than himself. I've been chewing for 27 years so man it's got to be harder for me right?... No, it's the younger ones i then rationalized. They think they are bulletproof and immortal if you will. "Hell I have years before I need to quit and then it's no problem, I'll just quit then. Who has a lipper i can bum?" Sad truth is it's neither and it's both. Nicotine has no age tenure anymore than cancer has a preference to those who stand and pee to those that sit and pee (side note: one time I was at a Judas Priest concert with a buddy and we had to hit the head at intermission. I get to the front of the line and dropped trow to my ankles and said "don't ya just hate that guy?" Whole line busted out laughing and my buddy was fucking in tears laughing so gosh damned hard.) anyways I digress. My point is this: your suck equals my suck right now. It's the same. Maybe for different reasons, but we are all (even the hardened vets on this site,) going through the same shit and it's all equally as hard no matter what the age, gender or year stripes you have on your grizzly varsity jacket. I fucked up day 1 kiddo, day fucking 1 and immediately called myself out and answere for my fuckup as many times as I needed to, to as many people that I needed to. However, I didn't do it for anyone other than myself and my family because that is ultimately why you are quitting. The men and woman on this site are doing nothing more than helping you hold yourself to that accountability, because you are to weak right now to do it for yourself. Answer the questions and post an apology, because ultimately, it's for you. God bless and kick some chew ass for me. You will do this with us.

Oxman I think I just did a spit-take

Mollie, this is a difficult time for you (when one caves), but it can be the best learning experience for you. One of those times where when you put in the proper time, effort and inward thought can lead you to success in the future.

Those 3 questions are not to berate but rather to put down on paper your plan. It is showing that you understand what happened and to understand what to do so you do not fail.

Now I have seen some of the ladies here at KTC and they are a part of the baddest that come. Get on that horse and become one of them

You CAN do this.

That took Oxman serious balls to post that Mollie. Let someone in your group like him help you, and go through this horrible time together. As a slave to nicotine we have forgotten what freedom is, and until you allow yourself to quit you will never know what we are talking about. That first taste of feeling good on day 4 or 5 was such a wake up call to me that I became addicted to that feeling, and have strived everyday to feel like that..................and at day 88 it's almost everyday. Join, me, join the Oxman, join the KTC and get living again.

Hi Mollie. The point of answering the questions is yes, to help you get your quit in check. You shoudl realize exactly what went wrong, and how you are going to avoid it. We don't get to test out the water, we have to just jump right in. Everyone here had to jump in. Everyone will tell you it's gonna suck until it doesn't. However, everyone is also going to tell you that you CAN do this, and it DOES get better.

So, I am going to PM you again with my number. Please use it. You can call or text...whichever works for you. You are not alone in this. People are not here to beat you up and pull you down. You will get some tough love indeed, you must realize this. We are all here to help you face this head on, really truly understand that you are fighting for your life, and help you quit just for today. I can do 24 hours. You can too. Then, we can worry about tomorrow when it gets here.

Here is another hand held out to you again.....you HAVE TO GRAB ONE HERE MOLLIE!

[Thumblewort]

Mollie, ya fucked up. Ok, move on kiddo. It's funny, I was debating this with myself the other day looking at all these younger quitters like yourself. Who has it harder in the quit? Some old fuck like myself who's been willingly putting poison in his lip for the better part of 27 years, or someone like yourself that's only been a slave to Madame nicotine for a few? Older right? Or is it younger? First I thought older, cause I dipped and by definition that means I am a selfish bastard who cares for no one other than himself. I've been chewing for 27 years so man it's got to be harder for me right?... No, it's the younger ones i then rationalized. They think they are bulletproof and immortal if you will. "Hell I have years before I need to quit and then it's no problem, I'll just quit then. Who has a lipper i can bum?" Sad truth is it's neither and it's both. Nicotine has no age tenure anymore than cancer has a preference to those who stand and pee to those that sit and pee (side note: one time I was at a Judas Priest concert with a buddy and we had to hit the head at intermission. I get to the front of the line and dropped trow to my ankles and said "don't ya just hate that guy?" Whole line busted out laughing and my buddy was fucking in tears laughing so gosh damned hard.) anyways I digress. My point is this: your suck equals my suck right now. It's the same. Maybe for different reasons, but we are all (even the hardened vets on this site,) going through the same shit and it's all equally as hard no matter what the age, gender or year stripes you have on your grizzly varsity jacket. I fucked up day 1 kiddo, day fucking 1 and immediately called myself out and answere for my fuckup as many times as I needed to, to as many people that I needed to. However, I didn't do it for anyone other than myself and my family because that is ultimately why you are quitting. The men and woman on this site are doing nothing more than helping you hold yourself to that accountability, because you are to weak right now to do it for yourself. Answer the questions and post an apology, because ultimately, it's for you. God bless and kick some chew ass for me. You will do this with us.

Oxman I think I just did a spit-take

Mollie, this is a difficult time for you (when one caves), but it can be the best learning experience for you. One of those times where when you put in the proper time, effort and inward thought can lead you to success in the future.

Those 3 questions are not to berate but rather to put down on paper your plan. It is showing that you understand what happened and to understand what to do so you do not fail.

Now I have seen some of the ladies here at KTC and they are a part of the baddest that come. Get on that horse and become one of them

You CAN do this.

That took Oxman serious balls to post that Mollie. Let someone in your group like him help you, and go through this horrible time together. As a slave to nicotine we have forgotten what freedom is, and until you allow yourself to quit you will never know what we are talking about. That first taste of feeling good on day 4 or 5 was such a wake up call to me that I became addicted to that feeling, and have strived everyday to feel like that..................and at day 88 it's almost everyday. Join, me, join the Oxman, join the KTC and get living again.

[SirDerek]

Mollie, ya fucked up. Ok, move on kiddo. It's funny, I was debating this with myself the other day looking at all these younger quitters like yourself. Who has it harder in the quit? Some old fuck like myself who's been willingly putting poison in his lip for the better part of 27 years, or someone like yourself that's only been a slave to Madame nicotine for a few? Older right? Or is it younger? First I thought older, cause I dipped and by definition that means I am a selfish bastard who cares for no one other than himself. I've been chewing for 27 years so man it's got to be harder for me right?... No, it's the younger ones i then rationalized. They think they are bulletproof and immortal if you will. "Hell I have years before I need to quit and then it's no problem, I'll just quit then. Who has a lipper i can bum?" Sad truth is it's neither and it's both. Nicotine has no age tenure anymore than cancer has a preference to those who stand and pee to those that sit and pee (side note: one time I was at a Judas Priest concert with a buddy and we had to hit the head at intermission. I get to the front of the line and dropped trow to my ankles and said "don't ya just hate that guy?" Whole line busted out laughing and my buddy was fucking in tears laughing so gosh damned hard.) anyways I digress. My point is this: your suck equals my suck right now. It's the same. Maybe for different reasons, but we are all (even the hardened vets on this site,) going through the same shit and it's all equally as hard no matter what the age, gender or year stripes you have on your grizzly varsity jacket. I fucked up day 1 kiddo, day fucking 1 and immediately called myself out and answere for my fuckup as many times as I needed to, to as many people that I needed to. However, I didn't do it for anyone other than myself and my family because that is ultimately why you are quitting. The men and woman on this site are doing nothing more than helping you hold yourself to that accountability, because you are to weak right now to do it for yourself. Answer the questions and post an apology, because ultimately, it's for you. God bless and kick some chew ass for me. You will do this with us.

Oxman I think I just did a spit-take

Mollie, this is a difficult time for you (when one caves), but it can be the best learning experience for you. One of those times where when you put in the proper time, effort and inward thought can lead you to success in the future.

Those 3 questions are not to berate but rather to put down on paper your plan. It is showing that you understand what happened and to understand what to do so you do not fail.

Now I have seen some of the ladies here at KTC and they are a part of the baddest that come. Get on that horse and become one of them

You CAN do this.

[oxman]

Mollie, ya fucked up. Ok, move on kiddo. It's funny, I was debating this with myself the other day looking at all these younger quitters like yourself. Who has it harder in the quit? Some old fuck like myself who's been willingly putting poison in his lip for the better part of 27 years, or someone like yourself that's only been a slave to Madame nicotine for a few? Older right? Or is it younger? First I thought older, cause I dipped and by definition that means I am a selfish bastard who cares for no one other than himself. I've been chewing for 27 years so man it's got to be harder for me right?... No, it's the younger ones i then rationalized. They think they are bulletproof and immortal if you will. "Hell I have years before I need to quit and then it's no problem, I'll just quit then. Who has a lipper i can bum?" Sad truth is it's neither and it's both. Nicotine has no age tenure anymore than cancer has a preference to those who stand and pee to those that sit and pee (side note: one time I was at a Judas Priest concert with a buddy and we had to hit the head at intermission. I get to the front of the line and dropped trow to my ankles and said "don't ya just hate that guy?" Whole line busted out laughing and my buddy was fucking in tears laughing so gosh damned hard.) anyways I digress. My point is this: your suck equals my suck right now. It's the same. Maybe for different reasons, but we are all (even the hardened vets on this site,) going through the same shit and it's all equally as hard no matter what the age, gender or year stripes you have on your grizzly varsity jacket. I fucked up day 1 kiddo, day fucking 1 and immediately called myself out and answere for my fuckup as many times as I needed to, to as many people that I needed to. However, I didn't do it for anyone other than myself and my family because that is ultimately why you are quitting. The men and woman on this site are doing nothing more than helping you hold yourself to that accountability, because you are to weak right now to do it for yourself. Answer the questions and post an apology, because ultimately, it's for you. God bless and kick some chew ass for me. You will do this with us.

[traumagnet]

Answering the questions are for you mostly they are designed so that you think of what happened and where you are going from here. If you holes in you plan then you will guided if.your answers weak again you will guided

[Derk40]

Mollie... Posting roll is a big deal. We take it very serious. You don't get to just cave and stroll back in here under the radar and post a new day 1!

It just don't work that way. You need to answer these because you need to figure out why the heck you posted roll and went against your word. That is BS so let's figure out what your deal is.

Here are the 3 questions.

What happened
Why did it happen
What are you gonna do different this time

[wastepanel]

Molly you need to answer the three questions. Freedom from nicotine depends upon accountability. You need to answer these questions to prove your commitment to your group and rebuild your reputation within the group. They won't trust you unless you follow the program and thus may not support you to the extent you need.

However, freedom from nicotine also depends upon choice. You also need to answer these questions for yourself. When you reflect upon the specifics of why you caved, you will eventually realize you can chose to problem solve and avoid the reasons for your cave. Once you realize you can chose to avoid or problem solve the reasons for your cave, you will realize freedom from addiction is a simple choice to not use every day.

Right now I suspect you would disagree with me. You might tell me choosing to remain quit one day at a time is bullshit because you're in the middle of the suck. Remember you're in the middle of the suck because you chose nicotine, likewise you can chose to embrace the suck and never feel it again. The balls in your court...

There's one thing and one thing in this world alone that you control: your actions. Listen to chargers here. He's spewing some wise advice.

Never again for any reason.

Whatever the reason for the cave, it was not a good reason. Nobody is forcing you to quit or to use. We are only here to help, and we will have your back always. Put everything into your quit you have. We will as well.

You can do this.

[Chargers]

Molly you need to answer the three questions. Freedom from nicotine depends upon accountability. You need to answer these questions to prove your commitment to your group and rebuild your reputation within the group. They won't trust you unless you follow the program and thus may not support you to the extent you need.

However, freedom from nicotine also depends upon choice. You also need to answer these questions for yourself. When you reflect upon the specifics of why you caved, you will eventually realize you can chose to problem solve and avoid the reasons for your cave. Once you realize you can chose to avoid or problem solve the reasons for your cave, you will realize freedom from addiction is a simple choice to not use every day.

Right now I suspect you would disagree with me. You might tell me choosing to remain quit one day at a time is bullshit because you're in the middle of the suck. Remember you're in the middle of the suck because you chose nicotine, likewise you can chose to embrace the suck and never feel it again. The balls in your court...

[bigton16335]

Sorry Mollie, but I am bumping this to the top for your admitted cave and posting a new day 1. Please answer the questions that were given to you in you October 2014 group, and cut and paste the answers in your intro as well. This is the accountability part of KTC. I am not picking on you or singling you out, but if you want our support, this needs to get done.

***bump*** Accountability is key here! You were asked for the answers to three questions yesterday in your quit group when you posted a new day 1 admitting you caved. Today you did not answer them you just posted day 2 and ran. You need to answer the questions for your Titans. The same would be demanded of them if they caved!

[jeeptruck]

bump

[Thumblewort]

Sorry Mollie, but I am bumping this to the top for your admitted cave and posting a new day 1. Please answer the questions that were given to you in you October 2014 group, and cut and paste the answers in your intro as well. This is the accountability part of KTC. I am not picking on you or singling you out, but if you want our support, this needs to get done.

[Radman]

Mollie, I saw you lurking earlier today, what's the scoop? Quitting is not easy, but it can be done.

there are a lot of hands reaching out to help you. All you need to do is grab one of them. It doesn't matter which one. We all will do the same thing, help you quit right here right now. I can guarantee that you will quit one day eventually. Don't let that day be because of death from cancer. It really is time to get serious and get real. You may very well die if you continue to use. I understand everything you have talked about. I understand being scared. I think the fact that someday you may have to have your job cut off is much more scary than putting the can down the toilet. I made my promise today. Are you going to do the same? Grab any single one hand in front of you,  I guarantee everyone else will follow you.

Come on in here and get this done. THink of it like a rollercoaster. Once you make it over that first hill, it's a helluva ride. All you have to do is strap in. The decision is made at that point. Make the decision.

I've read through this thread, and I tell you what I see:

I see Mollie who wants to quit....... who HAS to quit, but isn't sure where to go.
I see a bunch of sucessfull quitters who have the roadmap in hand.
I see Mollie who is hesitant.
I see a husband who should be ashamed of himself for not supporting his wife.

Reach out to some of these quitters if you can't make up your mind. It's a spectacular thing that's available here. We can't quit for you, but we can certainly help. Sing out and the support is yours.

EDIT: Read through my HOF speech and my intro. Those are two stories about a country boy, and his wife and kids. You might find something familiar.

[Ginet]

Mollie, I saw you lurking earlier today, what's the scoop? Quitting is not easy, but it can be done.

there are a lot of hands reaching out to help you. All you need to do is grab one of them. It doesn't matter which one. We all will do the same thing, help you quit right here right now. I can guarantee that you will quit one day eventually. Don't let that day be because of death from cancer. It really is time to get serious and get real. You may very well die if you continue to use. I understand everything you have talked about. I understand being scared. I think the fact that someday you may have to have your jaw cut off or worse is much more scary than putting the can down the toilet. I made my promise today. Are you going to do the same? Grab any single one hand in front of you,  I guarantee everyone else will follow you.

[Thumblewort]

Mollie, I saw you lurking earlier today, what's the scoop? Quitting is not easy, but it can be done.

[chewie]

Mollie,
Tubmlewart and I had the same talk yesterday and now im quit 2 days. come on and join us in Ocotber the Titans of quit. everyone of us is in this together. gather up your spit cups, Cans and pouches, nicotine lozenges, patches and get rid of them. throw them in a public dumpster after you flush the contents get it out of your face! get that reminder away from you right now! waiting even five minutes makes it harder. im telling you as soon as you do youll feel scared, then shortly after very very proud. then all the sudden youll feel better and worse in stages. after that I cant tell you because that's where I still am. IM Jeep and ill be waiting in October 2014 Titans for you

Hey Mollie.
Girl, quitting is hard. It is a battle every single day. It does get better though. You cannot get to "a better" unless you quit, and go through this battle. Until you flush it and just quit, you will always rationalize why "tomorrow" will be a good quit day. You will always have a reason to allow that next dip. We spoke briefly. I understand that your husband uses also. You know that mines does as well. At first, I saw this as an my largest obstacle. I thought for sure, there was no way I could quit because my husband had a can with him at all times. There is one in his truck, one or two in the fridge and one either in his back pocket or within an arms length. My addict brain would listen to that call of what we call "the nic bitch". She is very clever. She will use that fear and doubt and make it intensify ten fold. Posting roll was the only thing that made me push forward and fight every minute if I had to. I gave my word. All I had was my word and 24 hours. It works. You have to trust in it. You can't quit by yourself. You can't plan it out. You are proving that right now. You can quit. You can do this. You HAVE TO MAKE THIS ABOUT YOU. You will NOT get your husband to quit with you. He isn't ready. You have to do this alone. You got yourself here. Get yourself out of it. Use this place for help.

Quit time is now. Wait and die. Its your gamble. It's your move. Go get your big girl pants on and let's do this. You already have my number but I haven't received a text. There are times when a hand is held out for you in this lifetime.....and you need to know when to grab it and take the help.

There is no other place that can offer you the support that is here.

This is honest, not BS undeniable truth staring you in the face.

You can do this.

Seriously Mollie. Post Roll today. Every person here at KTC has gone thru Day 1. We get it. This place will save your life! Just drink the koolaid.....

Day 1 sucks balls... er... whatever the appropriate phrase is.

But you CAN do it. Won't lie and tell you that it'll be pretty, but I can guarantee you one thing... it's SO worth it.

Welcome!