S L O W D O W N !
Take a few deep breaths. You're not fighting with your wife. You are fighting to save your life! It is called QUITTING and it sounds like you're doing it right, brother!
There are no short-cuts, tricks or easy ways out. Rage is normal...rage is expected. But there are better ways to handle rage than yelling at your wife. Go easy on her...she didn't do this to you, you did it to yourself. You, and you alone, are responsible for the fix you're in. But the good news is that every mother-effer on this site is here to help you. We've got your back, Bignasty!
Here's what you need to do. Don't think, just post roll, drink water, stay glued to this site, exercise, come back to this site. Set a goal to read every word on this site...twice. Then do it again. Vent, rage and spew your bullshit all over us. We can take it. We were once where you are now. You're among brothers and sisters in the fight.
I can't take away the pain, but I can tell you that it will be a lot easier when you see it for what it is...nicotine withdrawals...nothing more. It is a right of passage. You must earn your freedom one day at a time.
YOU CAN DO THIS, BROTHER!!!
If you really think you need professional help, please seek it out before doing something stupid.