The cold hard fact is we were really mean to the guy. He probably came back and read the posts and was like, "These guys are being mean. I said I was going to quit so they should show me respect".
Sorry pal, nothing but tough love here. No silver bullets, no shortcuts unless your doctor will put you in a coma for 100 days, just the cold hard painful truth.
Nothing worse than trying to bullshit a room full of people who were the masters of bullshit until they finally quit.