I agree with Menace. Don't listen to the bullies that obviously are overcompensating for shortcomings in their personal lives. Just quit. The trolls will shut up after you put a little time in.
Maybe I shouldn't be personally offended by Cpoz' failure? For some reason I am. Maybe I shouldn't express those feelings to him on this message board so he, and others, might learn? Is questioning someone who fails a rude thing to do?
CopZ - Everyone here is here to support you...the human being, the man that is in there. No one is here to support that addict, caving, pussy mindset that each one of us has within us that prevents our true selves from being alive and well. Each one of the hateful rants you got, was to that douche that caved. So ya, Lipi doesn't give two shits about that caver. We work every day to kill that caving/lying/dishonorable asshat addict within us. But YOU, and only you, have to decide which guy you want to let live. The pussy caver guy, has no place in here and isn't welcome. The badass quitter in there, the man you were made to be, your father's son....he is welcome. He has always been welcome. He had brothers that cared about him and wanted him to live. You gave up on yourself and your brothers.
Now you have to nut up and EARN brotherhood back. It's a trust thing. Once you break trust, you don't just get it back. It takes hard work and time. Every other newbie or vet that reads your cave and the subsequent thrashing that occurs, gets reminded of what a gift that brotherhood is and what it means if you break that. What it means if you break your word to these guys. Honor, integrity, truth are all keys to the way quit works here. The first order of business for any quitter after he/she dumps his can in the toilet is to understand those words, give his word and keep it. We only GIVE a first chance. Second chances, well those are earned by showing you have learned what honor, integrity and truth is and that no matter what, you would rather die than give that up. It's that simple and it applies across life.
Aren't you tired of not respecting yourself? Aren't you just flat fricking tired of knowing others don't respect you? Are you at that place where you scream "no more" and it means more than just no more nicotine, but no more being a lying ass caving pussy that US Tobacco turned you into?
Here's the protocol. Do your job. Quit today. AND build others quits today. Reach out and help the newbies. Don't be that selfish asshat. Brotherhood is two way...show that you can be a brother to others. It'll be there. You want some inspiration....check out my quit brother Nate McPherson. Nate was in my June group. He caved, and then immediately posted a day 1 again. We kicked the shit out of him. He has texted me every single day with his promise to quit and is somewhere around day 150 now I think. He's bad ass. He did it one day at a time. He never sat around and argued about why people were being mean....he knew it and wanted it bad enough to work his ass of for it. I think it's got to be exponentially harder to quit after you cave, so I give mad props and much respect to Nate, as I do another one of my quit brothers Sixer. But let me tell you, both these guys are badass 100% through and through. They have no tolerance for that pussy caver. I hope I get to write about you like these two one day too. The odds are stacked against you, but you can do it, IF, you decide to. Purely up to you.
Bronc - [phone number edited out- please exchange via pm] Use it if you need it.
Here are some links to read:
Why are we dicks?Why the rough treatment?CaversCaves affect everyone by ChewieTo Cavers by SOSThe Sound of CancerRandy's StoryTom and Jenny KernIgnorance and Naivete'