im not giving you a response you want .I already answered all three of the rhetorical questions asked of me.you dont care about 30 days? 30 days gives me 29 more days of quitting experience than my day one which makes me better equipped for the nuances of my journey. Like I said yesterday, my day one, ask me in thirty days
You like to fight.
I like that.
But, dude, you are picking the fight with friends instead of our enemy.
First of all, the three questions are not "rhetorical". "Rhetorical" questions are asked with the intention of not soliciting an answer. We want answers because we want to help you be quit.
Stop. Listen for one second. (Your quotes appear below and my responses are in italics.)
(1) What happened to me friday the 21st? I let my job get to me.
Ummm...How did you get the chew you used? Did you stop and buy some? Did you bum one off of a friend? Did you lick that wad in the urinal at lunch hoping there was some nicotine left in after 40 guys pissed all over it? Did you still have a can in coat? What were specific actions to cave?
What you have offered ("I let my job get to me.") explains nothing.(2) Why did "it" happen? If "it" means why did I stop and buy a can of grizzly? Chewing was my way of coping with the stress of everyday life struggles.
OK..so you bought a can of chew. I'm really glad. That urinal thing was kinda gross as I typed it and I was hoping that was not the right answer. Whew...
Although I abhor the rest of what you have written here, I love the one word you wrote: WAS. Chewing was a way of coping for you. You used it to escape into a nicotine buzz for a momentary piece of ectasy. The problem is that every chew you take is less of a buzz, and as an addict, you spend the rest of the time searching for that high again. It's kind of pathetic when you think about it. You were willing to sacrifice your time, money, and body to a cancerous weed, but...
You made the decision to quit. Why?
Surely, using is not all rainbows and cupcakes.
Did that one can you stopped and bought fix all of life's problems? And, if it did, why are you quitting the magical elixir?
Why did you decide to quit? Why was it so difficult that you couldn't even make it one day? Why didn't you reach out to anybody on this board and ask for help? Why do you think that you are the only quitter here that used nicotine to cope? Are you a special butterfly?
(Those are all rhetorical questions. You need to answer the "Why did it happen?" question still.) (3) What am I going to do different? Today I got through without the overwhelming urge for a chew. It is a process of retraining my brain to deal with stress differently.everyday is a different day with different challenges thrown my way and i have to man up and deal with each struggle independently.
Once you realize the answer to this answer, you're going to kick yourself.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN THIS QUIT.
I don't know if you remember the show Seinfeld, but it had this one scene where he tried to rent a car. He had made a reservation, but the car company didn't have anything left. The lady working the counter told him that she knew what a reservation was, and he responded "I don't think you do. You see....anybody can take a reservation. It's the holding part that's really important." (in a much more comedic tone)
Anybody can promise not to use nicotine, but only a quitter knows how to hold that promise. This board is built on trust and brotherhood: I trust that you won't use once you sign your name to roll call, and I will do anything in my power to help you stay quit today. I don't know shit about you, but I'm willing to go into this battle with you no questions asked.
Your day (whether it is day 1 or day 30 or day 1000) begins with a promise to yourself to stay quit. You back up this action by posting that promise here and we promise to hold you accountable. Then, you reach out whenever you are in need. We deal with huge amounts of quitters every day. Some days are easy. Some days are hard. When times are good, we practice for the bad. When times are bad, we lean on what we've learned.We ask that you answer these 3 questions (not for us), but for you. Quitting here isn't about flailing your arms and being a leaf in the wind. Nah. Quitting here is about saying you want to be quit, planning to be quit, and understanding why you have failed in the past. The future will take care of itself if you understand the answer to these 3 questions. As I've said in the past, the KTC can be your biggest, baddest weapon in this battle...but it's up to YOU to pull the trigger.
So, back to your original post....
I could give a flying fuck about 30 days from now because it has no bearing on today. Did you post roll today? Good. Back that shit up, and do everything in your power to stay quit today. If that's too long, worry about this hour, minute, or even second.
We have such pleasures to show you...