Are we a cult? I suppose in some ways we are. Recovery from addiction requires focus. It requires dedication. It requires discipline. It is no surprise to me that some would find our approach cult like. The fact of the matter is addicts are a very predictable bunch, neuroscience be damned. We lie, we rationalize, we find reasons to cave... ANY chance of getting around the truth in order to get a fix will be exploited by an addict. We recover from this not by philosophical arguments, but coming to grips with the truth of our situation, and by finding ways to cope and overcome.
The truth is: we are addicts.
The truth is: We cannot have just one. Not today, not tomorrow, not ever.
You want an example of someone who tried moderation? That would be me. Over the years I knew I needed to quit... so I decided that I would "taper" First I would only dip once a half hour.... tomorrow I would add 5 minutes to that. etc until I was up to 24 hours. Seemed like a VERY logical plan to me, seemed reasonable. seemed foolproof.. You know what the end result was? Every day the craves became more and more intense until I bought a can and practically strapped that fucker to my face like a feed bag. Started out as a can a day dipper, ended up using 2 cans when I threw in the towel. I tried this technique MULTIPLE times, and wondering each time why it turned out to be impossible. The law of addiction states : ""Administration of a drug to an addict will cause reestablishment of chemical dependence upon the addictive substance." That law is the reason why moderation does not work with a drug that is physically addictive... and nicotine is nearly at the top of the list of the MOST physically addictive substances on the planet.
Then there were the times that I actually stopped for a little while... cold turkey. EVERY one of those caves was with the intention of just having one once in a while... I was ALWAYS back to my original usage within a week. The law of addiction bit me in the ass once again.
So you have a choice: Continue to be quit by shutting the door on any possibility of just one. OR Continue to think that you can use nicotine in moderation, which in reality will always be a one way street to the slavery of active addiction.