Now that you've dropped some serious quit knowledge to a fellow newbie, lets get back to you. Powerful reasons for quitting; no doubt. I've just been pondering a bit about your statement regarding that we all quit for ourselves but we also quit for others. I understand your motive for saying that, and it's definitely with the right intention; but I wanted to share my perspective on that, which goes back to the first thing I said...let's get back to you.
Quitting is always about 1 person, that being you. As addicts we have tried to quit for family, loved ones, etc. We've also tried to quit for health, for lower health insurance premiums, whatever...and when we do that we fail. Every time. I can't think of a single quitter on this site who hasn't tried quitting for said reasons and has failed. The KTC kook-aid says that we quit for ourselves. Look, we all have loved ones and being quit certainly benefits them, but this is how I think about quitting for me.
I quit for me, and me alone. Selfishly 100% for me. Why is that? Because I want to be around for my kids. I want to be healthy. I want to grow old with my wife and be able to live life to its fullest with her. I want to be able to do simple things, like yard work and going for a drive without a turd in my mouth. The list goes on and on. I want these for me, and therefor I quit for me. Now,...as of today I am 323 days quit, and one thing I've learned is that through this time, having built accountability and brotherhood on this site, my quit is no longer just about me. There are others who depend on me to be quit, because they care about me. Because they are proud of what I have accomplished. Because they gain strength from my quit and my support as I gain strength from theirs. These are also things I love about being quit and I want that too. I want brotherhood and accountability and therefor the quit is still for me and me alone.
So you see Reagan, I totally get where your coming from, but I want you to know that your quit is for you. Be selfish and feel free to want whatever benefits come from being quit...these "wants" are for you. In closing, the difference between trying to quit on your own versus quitting with KTC is building that accountability and brotherhood. It's also as simple as the difference between trying to quit (which leads to failure) and being quit (which leads to success). Live it love it breath it.