Hi I'm benny. This is approximately my forth endeavor into quitting, and thanks to this website, I feel way stronger about my commitment to quitting for MYSELF!
I've wanted to quit so many times but it always ended in regret due to resentment of someone else, frustrations towards my lady friend and band mates, and all of that anxiety that comes with it, but I have made it two months before. This time I know its going to be hard but I can make it.
I play music full time in a touring post-punk band and I'm tired of begging for change and spending my per diem meal money on cope. two of my guys are also into dipping, so this is a good chance because I am home until the end of the month from tour.
The only fear I have is getting complacent from being home and being aggressive towards my girl.
Wish me luck! I appreciate any support and words of wisdom!
'jedisith'
Benny, it looks like you might be on to something as far as finding hsupport to help you quit. But the first thing you need to realize is that "wishing you luck" isn't going to have a damn thing to do with you being successful at quitting. This is going to take committment, hard work, a lot of frustration and a shit-load of intestinal fortitude on your part. Throw luck in the toilet and flush it with the rest of the cope you may still have in your possession.
And take it from me...DO NOT LET THIS QUIT BE AN EXCUSE TO SCREW UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
Quitting doesn't MAKE you an ass-hole. Lack of nic doesn't MAKE you want to be a total dickhead to others. Those are your CHOICES of how to act and deal with the frustrations of quitting. You need to rant, rage, throw a temper tantrum, get a mean and nasty? Come on in here...we have plenty of patience and experience dealing with all that right in here...you need to get it out or take it out on someone, do so in here....NEVER take it out on your family/significant other.
Read everything you can on this site...post everything....the more active you are in your quit, the more likely to be a success. Welcome to the suck. If you need to talk or need a number, it's yours for the asking....we are here for each other...well, most of us are...