Yesterday I was driving to my son's wrestling meet and I was met with a sudden and fierce urge to stop and pick up a can of death. Urges of this intensity are so rare these days that it made me stop and think, "where the fuck did this come from?" In retrospect driving to the wrestling meet brought me back to when I was wrestling and thought my best cutting tool was dip. It wasn't, my mental toughness was my best tool for cutting those last few ounces before going to bed to sleep off that final quarter.
My mental toughness is also my best tool in quitting. I really believe that one of the best things I learned was refusing to allow myself to dwell on an urge/crave. Refusing to look back at the times when I dipped and to think "happy thoughts" about using.
My wife told me a few days ago that she figured I would be too weak to actually quit. I dont blame her for thinking that given our history of me lying to her about quitting. In her eyes I had quit many times only to fail- I actually only got better at hiding it from her. All that hiding and lying takes a toll on a person. I was getting to the point where I really didn't like myself and couldn't see why anyone else would. Things were grim.
And then... I quit.
I am sitting at 196 days today. I dont have the same self image that I once did. I am at peace with myself and I feel like I have something to offer my family.
So, Mr Douglas whenever those urges strike you just remember that you used to hide empty cans on top of the cold air return in your basement because you were too big of a pussy to come clean with your wife and tell her you were owned by UST. Just remember the lying and the toll it took.
Better yet- look into your daughter's eyes and tell her that she isn't worth you keeping your word today.
Today I am a man with integrity and self-worth and I will crush nicotine.
I embrace my quit. It defines me.
I've rambled enough.