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[Sage]

Tuesday... how you doin' out there in the suck? You need anything, reach out. There's a ton of people willing and waiting to help.

F.Y.I. KTC family...Tuesday is gone. Says her husband didn't approve of her being on this site. He must like chicks with cancer....jk...sorta.

Sage

I would like to say that I hope that is a full joke there Sage, or maybe I should take that hubby aside and bust his jaw out and show him the quick preview of what he would allow to happen to her, but over a longer period of time.

(am not a usually a physical type of person, but seeing that just pisses me off).

The joke part SD was the part about cancer....which really wasn't a joke but I thought it sounded kinda harsh to say her husband liked chicks with cancer. Her husband really did have her stop coming to this site. I like your plan.

I have no kind words for him right now...

Hope she is able to find some help, or at least hope she learned enough to keep it going..

Sage, if you have her number, maybe you or some of the other ladies could just check in on her or text her.. May be the thing that keeps her going.

Just a suggestion.. I'm sure, being a nurse, you are about as busy as you could be already...

Probably would be a good thing if none of the guys here tried to contact her.. If that guy is controlling and jealous ( and it sounds like he is ) he may also be abusive..

I e-mailed scottmacek to put a notice on the August '13 roll to this to give folks a heads up to not contact her...

Didn't know that he was a nicotine addict also.. From the posts it sounds like he was using the tobacco to try to control her as well.

Screwed up jerk.. Totally..

Romandog

I gave her my digits but she didn't give me hers or that would have been my first move. Good ideas Roman, though.

[Romandog]

Tuesday... how you doin' out there in the suck? You need anything, reach out. There's a ton of people willing and waiting to help.

F.Y.I. KTC family...Tuesday is gone. Says her husband didn't approve of her being on this site. He must like chicks with cancer....jk...sorta.

Sage

I would like to say that I hope that is a full joke there Sage, or maybe I should take that hubby aside and bust his jaw out and show him the quick preview of what he would allow to happen to her, but over a longer period of time.

(am not a usually a physical type of person, but seeing that just pisses me off).

The joke part SD was the part about cancer....which really wasn't a joke but I thought it sounded kinda harsh to say her husband liked chicks with cancer. Her husband really did have her stop coming to this site. I like your plan.

I have no kind words for him right now...

Hope she is able to find some help, or at least hope she learned enough to keep it going..

Sage, if you have her number, maybe you or some of the other ladies could just check in on her or text her.. May be the thing that keeps her going.

Just a suggestion.. I'm sure, being a nurse, you are about as busy as you could be already...

Probably would be a good thing if none of the guys here tried to contact her.. If that guy is controlling and jealous ( and it sounds like he is ) he may also be abusive..

I e-mailed scottmacek to put a notice on the August '13 roll to this to give folks a heads up to not contact her...

Didn't know that he was a nicotine addict also.. From the posts it sounds like he was using the tobacco to try to control her as well.

Screwed up jerk.. Totally..

Romandog

[Sage]

Tuesday... how you doin' out there in the suck? You need anything, reach out. There's a ton of people willing and waiting to help.

F.Y.I. KTC family...Tuesday is gone. Says her husband didn't approve of her being on this site. He must like chicks with cancer....jk...sorta.

Sage

I would like to say that I hope that is a full joke there Sage, or maybe I should take that hubby aside and bust his jaw out and show him the quick preview of what he would allow to happen to her, but over a longer period of time.

(am not a usually a physical type of person, but seeing that just pisses me off).

The joke part SD was the part about cancer....which really wasn't a joke but I thought it sounded kinda harsh to say her husband liked chicks with cancer. Her husband really did have her stop coming to this site. I like your plan.

[SirDerek]

Tuesday... how you doin' out there in the suck? You need anything, reach out. There's a ton of people willing and waiting to help.

F.Y.I. KTC family...Tuesday is gone. Says her husband didn't approve of her being on this site. He must like chicks with cancer....jk...sorta.

Sage

I would like to say that I hope that is a full joke there Sage, or maybe I should take that hubby aside and bust his jaw out and show him the quick preview of what he would allow to happen to her, but over a longer period of time.

(am not a usually a physical type of person, but seeing that just pisses me off).

[Sage]

Tuesday... how you doin' out there in the suck? You need anything, reach out. There's a ton of people willing and waiting to help.

F.Y.I. KTC family...Tuesday is gone. Says her husband didn't approve of her being on this site. He must like chicks with cancer....jk...sorta.

Sage

[AppleJack]

Tuesday... how you doin' out there in the suck? You need anything, reach out. There's a ton of people willing and waiting to help.

[Erussell]

Tuesday. I'm confused aren't you about 11 days. I was going thru and reaching out to everyone in the suck and saw you posted 2days but here you had 9days the day you joined. You can and should post your real number of days. Be proud of each one of them, I am sure you are! Glad to be quit with you!

[2mch2lv4]

Tuesday,

Awesome that you are here!

Get to know some of the other women on this site.. Sage, racetrackcowgirl are both fairly new, JulieJan is a vet PM numbers to them and stay close to the site.

It will suck horribly.. Read my HOF speech.. it has a number of things which will help you...

Romandog

Hey Teusday,
My name is Sage and I have been quit for 141 days. My husband chewed too! You are amazing that you have made it 9 days of torture...you are doing so well! Don't worry, all your symptoms will get better. "The Suck" is what we call the craving and bitchiness and all the awful symptoms you are having right now. Every single person here went through it and survived...you can too. We will help. Make sure you read everything on this site. Also, live chat is a great way to get support. The men here are amazing and will help anyway they can in a wonderfully brotherly way. I will PM you, which will show up in your inbox as a email, and send you my phone number. In the 140 days, 3 women have quit and we have all stayed quit. That makes us 100 percent quitters. The men can't say that....just saying. :rolleyes:

Sage

I'm with Sage. All the girls on this site are tough as shit. I was a complete and utter bitch (more so than normal :wub: ). I'm 49 days quit and people around me are just now starting to say I'm coming out of that part of the withdrawal.

Somedays I just knew I was a bitch. Some things that I really should have been upset about, I was downright irrate and irrational. Other things that shouldn't have bothered me (you know "....spilled milk") still would set me off into a tyrade. Somedays, I thought I was actually doing really really well and my family told me I was dillusional and was still being bitchy. It was hard because I didn't want that.

The most important thing i read during the early days was "don't take it out on your family..they didn't put you in this position...take it out on us here on the site". EASIER SAID THAN DONE - and I couldn't help it sometimes but other times I could conciously catch myself and either stop it or apologize really quickly.

You should find my thread "accountability 101" - about page 3. There are some some great things, great perspectives, and great rants - all from a woman's point of view. There is also some GREAT advice that the guys here gave me that got me thru!

PM me if you need anything at all! Girl power all the way!

Well said Sage :) The women on this site are bad ass quitters! There are a lot more than most of these guys realize. I wasn't a dipper but smoked for more than 20 years. In my last 320 days quit I have formed some life long friendships with many of these great men and women. Be serious about quitting... If you're looking for anything else you've come to the wrong web site.
I will PM you my number and be there for you anytime you need someone to bitch at or simply understand how you feel.

Stay classy, sister! I quit with you today B)

Cindy

[racetrackcowgirl]

Tuesday,

Awesome that you are here!

Get to know some of the other women on this site.. Sage, racetrackcowgirl are both fairly new, JulieJan is a vet PM numbers to them and stay close to the site.

It will suck horribly.. Read my HOF speech.. it has a number of things which will help you...

Romandog

Hey Teusday,
My name is Sage and I have been quit for 141 days. My husband chewed too! You are amazing that you have made it 9 days of torture...you are doing so well! Don't worry, all your symptoms will get better. "The Suck" is what we call the craving and bitchiness and all the awful symptoms you are having right now. Every single person here went through it and survived...you can too. We will help. Make sure you read everything on this site. Also, live chat is a great way to get support. The men here are amazing and will help anyway they can in a wonderfully brotherly way. I will PM you, which will show up in your inbox as a email, and send you my phone number. In the 140 days, 3 women have quit and we have all stayed quit. That makes us 100 percent quitters. The men can't say that....just saying. :rolleyes:

Sage

I'm with Sage. All the girls on this site are tough as shit. I was a complete and utter bitch (more so than normal :wub: ). I'm 49 days quit and people around me are just now starting to say I'm coming out of that part of the withdrawal.

Somedays I just knew I was a bitch. Some things that I really should have been upset about, I was downright irrate and irrational. Other things that shouldn't have bothered me (you know "....spilled milk") still would set me off into a tyrade. Somedays, I thought I was actually doing really really well and my family told me I was dillusional and was still being bitchy. It was hard because I didn't want that.

The most important thing i read during the early days was "don't take it out on your family..they didn't put you in this position...take it out on us here on the site". EASIER SAID THAN DONE - and I couldn't help it sometimes but other times I could conciously catch myself and either stop it or apologize really quickly.

You should find my thread "accountability 101" - about page 3. There are some some great things, great perspectives, and great rants - all from a woman's point of view. There is also some GREAT advice that the guys here gave me that got me thru!

PM me if you need anything at all! Girl power all the way!

[Sage]

Tuesday,

Awesome that you are here!

Get to know some of the other women on this site.. Sage, racetrackcowgirl are both fairly new, JulieJan is a vet PM numbers to them and stay close to the site.

It will suck horribly.. Read my HOF speech.. it has a number of things which will help you...

Romandog

Hey Teusday,
My name is Sage and I have been quit for 141 days. My husband chewed too! You are amazing that you have made it 9 days of torture...you are doing so well! Don't worry, all your symptoms will get better. "The Suck" is what we call the craving and bitchiness and all the awful symptoms you are having right now. Every single person here went through it and survived...you can too. We will help. Make sure you read everything on this site. Also, live chat is a great way to get support. The men here are amazing and will help anyway they can in a wonderfully brotherly way. I will PM you, which will show up in your inbox as a email, and send you my phone number. In the 140 days, 3 women have quit and we have all stayed quit. That makes us 100 percent quitters. The men can't say that....just saying. :rolleyes:

Sage

[Hambone007]

Tuesday you are in the right place! Stay true to your word and just set the nicotine down, you can do it! Just one day or one minute at a time!

[Romandog]

Tuesday,

Awesome that you are here!

Get to know some of the other women on this site.. Sage, racetrackcowgirl are both fairly new, JulieJan is a vet PM numbers to them and stay close to the site.

It will suck horribly.. Read my HOF speech.. it has a number of things which will help you...

Romandog

[Wt57]

I am seriously debating the worth of quitting.

If you were imprisoned in a concentration camp in WWII and you could see the killers coming to march you into the ovens and you were presented a way of escaping, what would you do? The way of escaping the slavery of nicotine is right here in front of you, it works, it's difficult and really sucks but it is so much better than the alternative. I wouldn't trade my freedom for anything and even though most days I don't need to promise in order to stay quit I'm here for quitters like you. I'll offer my support to anyone who needs it and is willing to fight. I'm proof it's possible. I had honestly nearly given up on everything. I believe I was figuratively already in the oven and I had prayed out for help and The Lord showed me this way of escaping. I escaped 40 years of slavery.

[Tuesday]

Welcome, Let's break your Intro down a little:

I am new here and do not really know where to start, or even if I really should be here. I am on day nine and having a hard time not caving today

You didnÂ’t happen upon this site by accident so, yes, you do belong here. You obviously have a desire to be quit, so do it. Day nine going solo is amazing! Without this site and these guys I would not have lasted a day.

I don't want them to try to talk me into chewing to make them feel better.

I bet they want you quit so that you can live a long time and with your entire face. What loved one would willfully hurt you?

However, today I am wondering if I am simply being a bitch because I quit chewing. I am seriously debating the worth of quitting.

You are rewiring your brain. You have been putting a drug into your blood, then into your brain, which has fucked it all up. The process to right this wrong is anything but easy or fun but you have to commit to it one day at a time. We can help but you have to quit for you.

I haven't told him because maybe I'm being irrational because ALL I WANT IS TO TAKE A DAMN CHEW.

I was a ninja dipper - no one knew for 16 years and therefore I sure as hell wasnÂ’t about to tell my wife I quit an addiction she didnÂ’t know about. It got bad at home. My kids were affected by my mood. My wife asked if I was having an affair and wanted a divorce because I was so pissed at home. Several quitters here suggested telling her and I did. Things have gotten better to an extent. She still doesnÂ’t understand addiction and the struggles unique to quitting dip, but she does know I am busting my ass every day to remain quit and that without the site and these guys IÂ’d still be lying and using.
The bottom line is you have to want to remain quit. We can help. You have already gotten amazing advice here. Use it.

Thank you!

[Evil_Won]

Welcome, Let's break your Intro down a little:

I am new here and do not really know where to start, or even if I really should be here. I am on day nine and having a hard time not caving today

You didnÂ’t happen upon this site by accident so, yes, you do belong here. You obviously have a desire to be quit, so do it. Day nine going solo is amazing! Without this site and these guys I would not have lasted a day.

I don't want them to try to talk me into chewing to make them feel better.

I bet they want you quit so that you can live a long time and with your entire face. What loved one would willfully hurt you?

However, today I am wondering if I am simply being a bitch because I quit chewing. I am seriously debating the worth of quitting.

You are rewiring your brain. You have been putting a drug into your blood, then into your brain, which has fucked it all up. The process to right this wrong is anything but easy or fun but you have to commit to it one day at a time. We can help but you have to quit for you.

I haven't told him because maybe I'm being irrational because ALL I WANT IS TO TAKE A DAMN CHEW.

I was a ninja dipper - no one knew for 16 years and therefore I sure as hell wasnÂ’t about to tell my wife I quit an addiction she didnÂ’t know about. It got bad at home. My kids were affected by my mood. My wife asked if I was having an affair and wanted a divorce because I was so pissed at home. Several quitters here suggested telling her and I did. Things have gotten better to an extent. She still doesnÂ’t understand addiction and the struggles unique to quitting dip, but she does know I am busting my ass every day to remain quit and that without the site and these guys IÂ’d still be lying and using.
The bottom line is you have to want to remain quit. We can help. You have already gotten amazing advice here. Use it.