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Re: Preparing to Quit, Then Quit
« Reply #36 on: June 26, 2017, 01:57:00 AM »
God damn - another drive by quit. blquit your attitude results in drive by quits. You don't want to quit for yourself. You want to quit for your girlfriend or to make your teeth less yellow. Awful.

Quitting for real means quitting every damn day.

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Re: Preparing to Quit, Then Quit
« Reply #35 on: June 24, 2017, 09:43:00 PM »
I did the math and I've added 477 days to my quit since I last gave advice on this thread. If your girlfriend would like to meet a real quitter there are many on this website.

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Re: Preparing to Quit, Then Quit
« Reply #34 on: June 24, 2017, 09:39:00 PM »
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Blquit,

I have merged your Intro topics.

Glad you're back and on Roll. You'll have to answer some questions in your new and old groups. Please try to learn something from the feedback you receive there.
You have some sage advice in here. I would go back and read it through new eyes. Hopefully something catches you right between them.
There are no circumstances in which using nicotine will improve the outcome.

My journey. The best part it is not over yet.

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Re: Preparing to Quit, Then Quit
« Reply #33 on: June 24, 2017, 03:48:00 PM »
Blquit,

I have merged your Intro topics.

Glad you're back and on Roll. You'll have to answer some questions in your new and old groups. Please try to learn something from the feedback you receive there.

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Re: Preparing to Quit, Then Quit
« Reply #32 on: June 24, 2017, 02:36:00 PM »
Welcome back to KTC. But to beat this demon, there is no "attempt", there is no "try", there is just "doing." This seems a small matter, but getting your perspective right is important. Because nothing externally to you can make you shove tobacco leaves in your mouth. Nothing. You are in complete control of keeping nicotine out of your body. Nicotine is no longer an option. Tell yourself that as often as necessary.

That is going to seem scary. Your brain is going to reject it. Believe it or not your brain has been programmed by nicotine to believe that you need it in the same way you need food. Screwed up, right? The good news is that when you consciously reject that absurd notion enough times, your brain will begin to rewire itself. Reject it enough and you will be free.

So do this every day: Wake up, piss, then post your promise to all of us that you will not put nicotine in your body. Then get up and do it again the next day. Build a tight support group by exchanging digits, post often, support others, use live chat, read absolutely everything. Envelop yourself in quit.

Check your pm inbox for my digits if you need them.

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Re: Preparing to Quit, Then Quit
« Reply #31 on: June 24, 2017, 11:25:00 AM »
On March 4th, 2016 i made an introduction post explaining how I was quitting dip but wanted to plan it out first so I didn't jump into something I wasn't prepared for. Against the advice and warnings of the members that commented on my post, I postponed posting roll for Day 1 and went on a spring break trip. 10 days later, I "officially" quit and posted roll for the first time. My motivation for quitting then was my growing awareness of my addictive behavior and the discovery of two white canker sores in my mouth. 18 dip-free days later, I failed. I failed and received a fair amount of justified criticism, got pissed because I didn't want to listen to anyone, and left Kill The Can.

I'm a 21 yr old college student in VA with in internship at a company that is the best in its industry. I've been dipping since the summer going into my freshman year in 2014, just about 3 years now. On average, I've been going through one tin every 24 hours for over a year now. Personally, I think my teeth have yellowed, my gums have receded and appear thin, I often stay awake hours later than I should because I keep throwing a lip in; the list goes on. Aside from knowing that above all else I need to quit for my health and to take back control of my life, I want to quit for my girlfriend as well. She was originally okay with it but as our relationship has grown more serious she has straight up asked me to quit an I promised her I would several times.

I need to take action now or I'm afraid I never will. Although I've never admitted this to anyone before in my life, but I know that I am an addict. I've known it for a long time and have been aware of what was happening as I've descended into dangerous behaviors that go against everything I've always believed. I've kept all of it a secret too. My friends, my coworkers, my family; they all see me as a young man with a good head on his shoulders who doesn't get into trouble. I don't know how I've let myself become what I am today, but I've finally come to terms with the fact that I am an addict and if I don't get my shit together now I never will.

So today, I quit with you and hope you will quit with me and help me as I start getting my life back on track. I have too much on the line to continue ignoring my addictions and hoping they never catch up an impact me negatively. Any and all comments, tips, thoughts, etc. is appreciated. Feels good to be back.

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Re: Preparing to Quit, Then Quit
« Reply #30 on: April 08, 2016, 09:36:00 AM »
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blquit, where are ya? It's your life, we are just trying to keep you from killing yourself. Let's go, if you caved, man up and answer the questions so we can get back to quitting.
Confirmed cave here Mogul. He stated this in a long non sense addict talk in June 16 group. He has yet to post a day 1 with his new group or answer the 3 questions yet. He needs to get on that and back here now! Or maybe he ran and hid with a fat dip in his lip. Get the fuck back here and get to work on actually quitting and understand that you had all the tools and you told everyone here to fuck off. Apologize, take this shit seriously, and do something about this. Take your life back and quit fucking around once and for all. You have my number and Frazz's number. You have a couple vets in your corner. Mogul (a BAQ Vet as well) obviously has taken interest.

I don't think you have the balls to come in here and quit. Prove me wrong. Take back your life

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Re: Preparing to Quit, Then Quit
« Reply #29 on: April 07, 2016, 12:31:00 AM »
blquit, where are ya? It's your life, we are just trying to keep you from killing yourself. Let's go, if you caved, man up and answer the questions so we can get back to quitting.

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Re: Preparing to Quit, Then Quit
« Reply #28 on: March 24, 2016, 08:35:00 PM »
Talk to us brother, how ya doing? 11 days and kicking ass. i quit with ya all day long.

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Re: Preparing to Quit, Then Quit
« Reply #27 on: March 19, 2016, 04:20:00 PM »
Nice day 6 blquit. ODAAT I quit with you.

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Re: Preparing to Quit, Then Quit
« Reply #26 on: March 16, 2016, 09:03:00 AM »
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Ditto for me too. this place is not for the thin skinned, but we are quit. AND we are here to help you quit. We come here everyday, post roll, keep our word and protect this house. It has literally saved our lives and we don't take it for granted. We need you too. We need you to keep it going, honor your word and protect this house. That's why it works and that is why us addicts stay clean. there is nothing more I can ask of you except to post roll and keep your word, that is the price to play in our crazy house. I'm totally on your side and quit with ya brother.

Also, please don't just rely on your ability to quit, that is why this place is here. We all help one another. Lean on us heavily when you need too. I have never met a quitter here that wasn't willing to offer support. You will be amazed if you will just follow the trail that has already been cleared for you.
Thanks I appreciate it. I've kept my word thus far and have posted roll everyday since I quit. All I look forward to is proving myself to you and everyone else here that I have what it takes, just like you all do.

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Re: Preparing to Quit, Then Quit
« Reply #25 on: March 15, 2016, 11:47:00 PM »
Ditto for me too. this place is not for the thin skinned, but we are quit. AND we are here to help you quit. We come here everyday, post roll, keep our word and protect this house. It has literally saved our lives and we don't take it for granted. We need you too. We need you to keep it going, honor your word and protect this house. That's why it works and that is why us addicts stay clean. there is nothing more I can ask of you except to post roll and keep your word, that is the price to play in our crazy house. I'm totally on your side and quit with ya brother.

Also, please don't just rely on your ability to quit, that is why this place is here. We all help one another. Lean on us heavily when you need too. I have never met a quitter here that wasn't willing to offer support. You will be amazed if you will just follow the trail that has already been cleared for you.

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Re: Preparing to Quit, Then Quit
« Reply #24 on: March 15, 2016, 07:55:00 PM »
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Frazzled and mogul,

I appreciate your responses. I understand you must see a lot of people come and go that aren't totally determined to quit and it's probably pretty annoying. However, I respectfully ask that you refrain from doubting me on Day 1/2. I have never been more sure of making a lifestyle change and quitting an addiction in my life. I started my second day today and am doing great. My determination to crush the ever-lingering urge to dip is concrete. I may be new to this website and quitting dip, but that does not mean I don't have what it takes to quit just because my intro isn't strong enough.

With regard to my two different intros, my apologies.
Glad you're here, man.

Really, don't get twisted out because of what Frazz and Mogul said. They're not doubting you... they're teaching you. You're right in that we've seen a LOT of new cats come and go... a good chunk of them saying exactly what you just said. Some are still here... some didn't have the resolve they said they had. You may think you have enough resolve to battle your addiction., and you actually may, but... it can hit you when you least expect it and, at times, it will almost be too much. We try to lay the groundwork for the long haul... a mindset that understands and respects, yet hates, the enemy... nicotine.

Nobody is disparaging you bro... we want you to succeed. Listen, be patient, and learn. Get involved and stay involved.
Ah yeah I'm a bit of a confrontational person so I may have taken constructive criticism the wrong way. I guess time will tell if my confidence in myself to beat my addiction will prove to be effective. I haven't had any strong cravings today so I don't think I've hit the worst of it yet.
Fuck you.












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Stick around long enough, and you'll see I like walks at sunset on the beach, tropical drinks with umbrellas in them, and someone running their hands through my hair.

Let's do this...it's gonna suck before it gets better. We're here to help, and we want you to succeed, like AJ said. We do this together.
Lol a moderator saying "fuck you" to me on an addiction quitting website is actually some solid motivation to continue to quit not going to lie. I appreciate the support it helps a lot. Thanks

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Re: Preparing to Quit, Then Quit
« Reply #23 on: March 15, 2016, 04:01:00 PM »
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Frazzled and mogul,

I appreciate your responses. I understand you must see a lot of people come and go that aren't totally determined to quit and it's probably pretty annoying. However, I respectfully ask that you refrain from doubting me on Day 1/2. I have never been more sure of making a lifestyle change and quitting an addiction in my life. I started my second day today and am doing great. My determination to crush the ever-lingering urge to dip is concrete. I may be new to this website and quitting dip, but that does not mean I don't have what it takes to quit just because my intro isn't strong enough.

With regard to my two different intros, my apologies.
Glad you're here, man.

Really, don't get twisted out because of what Frazz and Mogul said. They're not doubting you... they're teaching you. You're right in that we've seen a LOT of new cats come and go... a good chunk of them saying exactly what you just said. Some are still here... some didn't have the resolve they said they had. You may think you have enough resolve to battle your addiction., and you actually may, but... it can hit you when you least expect it and, at times, it will almost be too much. We try to lay the groundwork for the long haul... a mindset that understands and respects, yet hates, the enemy... nicotine.

Nobody is disparaging you bro... we want you to succeed. Listen, be patient, and learn. Get involved and stay involved.
Ah yeah I'm a bit of a confrontational person so I may have taken constructive criticism the wrong way. I guess time will tell if my confidence in myself to beat my addiction will prove to be effective. I haven't had any strong cravings today so I don't think I've hit the worst of it yet.
Fuck you.












;) ;)

Stick around long enough, and you'll see I like walks at sunset on the beach, tropical drinks with umbrellas in them, and someone running their hands through my hair.

Let's do this...it's gonna suck before it gets better. We're here to help, and we want you to succeed, like AJ said. We do this together.
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Re: Preparing to Quit, Then Quit
« Reply #22 on: March 15, 2016, 03:59:00 PM »
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Frazzled and mogul,

I appreciate your responses. I understand you must see a lot of people come and go that aren't totally determined to quit and it's probably pretty annoying. However, I respectfully ask that you refrain from doubting me on Day 1/2. I have never been more sure of making a lifestyle change and quitting an addiction in my life. I started my second day today and am doing great. My determination to crush the ever-lingering urge to dip is concrete. I may be new to this website and quitting dip, but that does not mean I don't have what it takes to quit just because my intro isn't strong enough.

With regard to my two different intros, my apologies.
Glad you're here, man.

Really, don't get twisted out because of what Frazz and Mogul said. They're not doubting you... they're teaching you. You're right in that we've seen a LOT of new cats come and go... a good chunk of them saying exactly what you just said. Some are still here... some didn't have the resolve they said they had. You may think you have enough resolve to battle your addiction., and you actually may, but... it can hit you when you least expect it and, at times, it will almost be too much. We try to lay the groundwork for the long haul... a mindset that understands and respects, yet hates, the enemy... nicotine.

Nobody is disparaging you bro... we want you to succeed. Listen, be patient, and learn. Get involved and stay involved.
Ah yeah I'm a bit of a confrontational person so I may have taken constructive criticism the wrong way. I guess time will tell if my confidence in myself to beat my addiction will prove to be effective. I haven't had any strong cravings today so I don't think I've hit the worst of it yet.