Compare yourself to me. I dipped 31 years and I felt invincible. Yeah, I thought about cancer now and then, but denial is a powerful ally when the withdrawals kick in.
Then the lymph nodes in my neck on both sides became painful and swollen 3 weeks ago.
Now the shit gets real, I've passed the point of no return and quitting today doesn't make cancer go away. We've all seen that guy with no jaw, no tongue, no throat. He lives like that for 18 months and then he's dead. From the moment he's diagnosed to the moment he dies, it's nothing but suffering for him and his family. Let's not forget that everyone goes broke on the medical bills in the process.
So my nodes went south and I realized I'd played this shit off too long. I have an 11 year old daughter who doesn't even know I dip. How do I tell her she has to get through the rest of her childhood with no father because of of the pleasure that Copenhagen brings to me? How do I reconcile the fact that I chose the Copenhagen Corporation and my sensory desires over her life and growth?
Turned out, I had a neck injury, not cancer. And by the way, FUCK YOU COPENHAGEN for ruining my life and putting me and my family into this position. I'm taking the fuck over, and YOU are...out.
Don't get to where I got. You might not be as lucky. I'm escaping a fire with smoke fuming off my clothes. I got the "scared straight" program. I'm on day 9 now and I know I have it beat. But I check in with this group now every day just to make sure. Today is the first day that I've started talking to other struggling quitters, and this is how I know I have really beaten this demon down. I'm sick at myself for spending untold thousands of dollars on that crap. What did I get in return? A nice relaxing high of sorts. And...bad breath, bad teeth, etc. You know the list of shit as well as all of us.
I've read that hiring managers sometimes think of college as nothing more than a way to show that you have the discipline to stick with a long, hard project and get it done. The same goes for military (boot camps, etc). Hell, if you can kick this shit, there is nothing in life that you can't do.
You are the man. You are the shit. Snuff is dirt. Only the lowest form of loser agrees to be defeated by dirt. You've got this. Beat it down and be the man. You'll have a pretty awesome existence once you do. I'm on my way, I'm not there yet. But in my heart and in my mind, I'm there. I'm certain that this group of quitters will do for you what it did for me.
JJ