The title of the post is “Hey Newcomers”, meaning the intended audience is people who are new to the site (maybe they’re quit one day, or two, or twenty – whatever). But certainly after 100 days (when Hall of Fame status is reached), and definitely after one year, one can no longer be considered a “newcomer”, right? So, I don’t know that rootboyslim is saying “post every day for the rest of your life”, I think he’s saying something closer to “post every day while you’re a newcomer” (whatever his definition of newcomer is). I don’t know how to go look at posting statistics or whatever, but my guess would be that he posted frequently during the early part of his quit, and has tailed off (or completely left) since. I personally see no crime in that. After two years, does everyone from his group post every day? I seriously doubt it. But he is the only one being called a hypocrite and a douche bag because he had the audacity to create a post - aimed at “newcomers” - showing them that no matter what kind of hell they’re going through now, it is actually possible to get to the two year mark.
And I guess I don’t understand the question, “What the fuck have you done to support your fellow quitters from your last post to the two-year mark?” Looks to me like he posted in his intro on April 11, which was around day 700 for him. Are you asking what he’s done between April 11 and yesterday to support the people in his group? What does that mean? Are you asking if he has posted roll in the last two months? And if the answer is “no”, that means he’s “fucking” his fellow group members? How many guys, quit for more than 21 months, started dipping again because they didn’t see rootboyslim’s name on the roll every day? None – and if someone did, his/her quit was weak as hell to begin with (which would contradict the notion that “there is some of the strongest quit” in that group). And what “support” are his group members missing out on by him not logging in and spending two minutes posting every morning? I know for me personally, I could give a fuck who else’s name is posted when I post (for the record, I post every single day). This is my quit. If someone caves and/or stops posting, my quit gets stronger. And I hope to hell that after two years it’ll be damn near invincible. If people stop posting and/or cave, it is instructive for me (not destructive), because it allows me to see how close to the edge we all are. And if some in my group choose not to post daily, I won’t cry myself to sleep at night, and I sure as hell won’t cave. If I require daily interaction with quitters on this site, and my roll buddies ain’t cutting it, I’ll go into chat or peruse the introductions. It seems to me like a lot of veterans here derive strength from helping/supporting others (usually the newbies). And that’s great, it helps us all. But two years from now, if I’m not best friends with everyone in my quit group, and I’m not “keeping in touch” with them (it would be great, however, if we were all best friends and had weekly orgies), it’s not going to affect my quit. I will be helping newbies like everyone else.
After a certain point (100 days, a year, whatever), if someone wants to post every day, fine. If not, fine. EveryoneÂ’s quit is different. This isnÂ’t a cult (that I know of).
I don’t know. I’m on day 67, I guess I don’t know shit. But to rip an accomplished quitter like that, when all he was doing was offering words of encouragement/advice to newcomers, just seems mean spirited, and in the end, who is it helping? Maybe it’s supposed to come across as “tough love” or something. But if everyone here needs this “support” you speak of, I think you’re going about it the wrong way. Just my opinion. Not a “fucking hard concept” at all.
