Introduction

[RAZD611]

Hope is retarded.

I thought Hope was a fat hippopottomus.....

Got2... I have done everyone of those things you listed and then some (except golf, it is for people that cant hit a moving baseball), and I promise they are all much better and more memorable on the quit side of the fence. It will take a while, but you will learn to appreciate and enjoy your new found freedom.

Hang in there and fight. It is worth it!!!

[Skoal Monster]

1. Wife doesn't get it, wants to be there for me, but doesn't get the withdrawals, depression, anxiety, and temper. We fight, my stress level elevates, BIG TRIGGER. Don't know how to avoid it, I love her, I am married to her, I feel terrible, it is not fair to her. But this time I will not use it as a scapegoat.

This is why you have to do this for you and you alone. If you quit for her, the first time you get pissed at her you'll relapse. Bring the rage to the site. Post up in your group, vent. Use us NOT her. Trust me.

2. Will I ever find joy in the things I used to love. I don't know how it happened but the can become such a huge part of all that I do and all that I am. I am so angry with myself.

Yes. And actually you'll find you enjoy them more without being tethered to that little round fuck bucket.

Golfing, hunting, fishing, boating, yardwork, housework, painting, fixing stuff, shoveling snow, washing the car, on and on and on. I have done these things with nicotine for so long. I hope I can return to my life someday, right now I just want to sleep and withdraw.

Don't hope. Hope is retarded. Plenty of people do that stuff without a wad of cancerous weed stuffed in their mouth. Each one is a trigger, you'll conquer them one at a time. Every time you beat a crave you get stronger and that particular trigger gets weaker. The trick is to acknowledge the crave, remind yourself you made the decision to quit, take a deep breath, and go on about your life.

carry on

sm

[Diesel2112]

Try to keep everything in one intro. I see you have two going. Fuck the junkie talk. Listen to US. We are here to help and have been through the battles. You got this man. Im quit with you today.

[Diesel2112]

YOU WILL ABSOLUTELY FIND JOY IN THE THINGS YOU USED TO LOVE.

I had the SAME EXACT fear, as did a lot of guys on this site.

Golf, bowling, poker, fantasy football drafts, after big meals, long drives, yard work, running errands for the wife, helping people move, staying the night in a hotel alone, being home alone, etc.....all things I feared I would never enjoy again.

100% BULLSHIT. Nicotine doesn't make you enjoy that shit. It doesn't have that kind of power. Nicotine just programmed your brain to THINK it did. You CAN and WILL reprogram your brain if you follow the blueprint set forward by those before you.

Im a pussy. Flat out. But I have done EVERYTHING I listed above and still found joy in them, and a lot of times even more as eliminating the hassles of making sure I have a can, a spitter, pissing people off golfing as I leave black shit marks all over the beautiful course, or the scowl I used to get from my bowling buddies as I started finger banging a can. Not to mention above all hiding all the "evidence" from my wife.

Dip made me a coward, a liar, a bad husband, a bad father, and was killing me at the same time.

You weren't born with a turd in your mouth and millions of people do the things you mentioned dip free and love it. So can you. It wont be easy at first but it can be done. My pussy ass is living proof.

[Its_Got2Happen]

Yes I am quit, 5 days. I am wrestling with the "junkie talk". I was simply thinking outloud Redyota. For the last 10 "quits" I let the Junkie talk and rationalization march me right back up the store for a tin. The chatter is still there, I am just choosing not to listen, not today, for today I am quit.

[redyota]

This site is awesome. I should have waited a few more weeks to quit. I can do this anytime now. Oh tricky bitch, not today, not today.

Not understanding your post?

Are you quit? If so, why would a few more weeks of killing yourself have been better. If not, why isn't today the best option?

[Seth]

Making a list reasons, printing the "contract" to give up and stocking up awesome quotes in my wallet. Want to share 2 fears:

1. Wife doesn't get it, wants to be there for me, but doesn't get the withdrawals, depression, anxiety, and temper. We fight, my stress level elevates, BIG TRIGGER. Don't know how to avoid it, I love her, I am married to her, I feel terrible, it is not fair to her. But this time I will not use it as a scapegoat.

2. Will I ever find joy in the things I used to love. I don't know how it happened but the can become such a huge part of all that I do and all that I am. I am so angry with myself.

Golfing, hunting, fishing, boating, yardwork, housework, painting, fixing stuff, shoveling snow, washing the car, on and on and on. I have done these things with nicotine for so long. I hope I can return to my life someday, right now I just want to sleep and withdraw.

Got2

Welcome aboard.

As for fear #1, go ahead and have your wife read this link about Spousal Support. Fortunately my wife (girlfriend at the time) was on board from day one. But I know for a fact that it has helped other quiters and their significant others.

As for fear #2, that's just addict talk. It will take some time, yes. But once you've made it to freedom, you'll find that those activities are even more enjoyable when you don't have to worry if you brought enough dip along or if there is a C-store close enough to go to if/when your tin goes dry. If you want to sleep the first few days, go ahead, but don't withdraw from the site. Read HOF speeches, hit the live chat, read other quit groups. . .engage. You have an awesome resource here of people that have been exactly where you are and know exactly what you're going through. Use it.

[epayne]

Making a list reasons, printing the "contract" to give up and stocking up awesome quotes in my wallet. Want to share 2 fears:

1. Wife doesn't get it, wants to be there for me, but doesn't get the withdrawals, depression, anxiety, and temper. We fight, my stress level elevates, BIG TRIGGER. Don't know how to avoid it, I love her, I am married to her, I feel terrible, it is not fair to her. But this time I will not use it as a scapegoat.

2. Will I ever find joy in the things I used to love. I don't know how it happened but the can become such a huge part of all that I do and all that I am. I am so angry with myself.

Golfing, hunting, fishing, boating, yardwork, housework, painting, fixing stuff, shoveling snow, washing the car, on and on and on. I have done these things with nicotine for so long. I hope I can return to my life someday, right now I just want to sleep and withdraw.

Got2

Personally, I lost interest in some of my hobbies from back when I was using. Some of them were just excuses to get out of the house and away from everybody to have a pinch. They were zone outs, but without nicotene they don't hold much appeal any more. I've come to terms with it. On the flip side, it's given me more time for the ones I do still give a shit about. This will vary greatly from quitter to quitter though. It's not something that can be predicted. You'll just have to try all those things without nicotene and see.

I made 2 lists when I was in your shoes. One was a list of things I always did with dip and I ran a line through them as I accomplished them without. The other list (the only one I'm still paying any attention to at this point) is a list of BADASS things I've done without dip that I NEVER did with it. That list is the one I'm proud of. It's growing every day, too.

My .02 on the matter. You can have your soap box back now. :lol:

[Its_Got2Happen]

This site is awesome. I should have waited a few more weeks to quit. I can do this anytime now. Oh tricky bitch, not today, not today.

[Its_Got2Happen]

Making a list reasons, printing the "contract" to give up and stocking up awesome quotes in my wallet. Want to share 2 fears:

1. Wife doesn't get it, wants to be there for me, but doesn't get the withdrawals, depression, anxiety, and temper. We fight, my stress level elevates, BIG TRIGGER. Don't know how to avoid it, I love her, I am married to her, I feel terrible, it is not fair to her. But this time I will not use it as a scapegoat.

2. Will I ever find joy in the things I used to love. I don't know how it happened but the can become such a huge part of all that I do and all that I am. I am so angry with myself.

Golfing, hunting, fishing, boating, yardwork, housework, painting, fixing stuff, shoveling snow, washing the car, on and on and on. I have done these things with nicotine for so long. I hope I can return to my life someday, right now I just want to sleep and withdraw.

Got2

[CleanFuel]

Welcome Got2 - And congratulations on reclaiming your life. It is the single most important decision you will ever EVER make.

Reading your intro, there is one word you wrote that captures everything we are about here. HONESTY. We are not here to lie. We are not here to impress other people.  We are here to QUIT. That is all we are here for. And the path to freedom from nicotine is honesty. We are here to listen to your challenges, be the place for you to vent, and sympathize with your plight - because we have all - ALL - been where you sit right now. EVERY DAMN ONE OF US. You will find what you need here. You will find all the tools to succeed here. If you want them.

Ultimately it comes down to honesty. From Chewy to Saints, it's all about keeping your word. The ONLY way this works is with honesty. You post your promise. You keep your word. Simple. Not easy.

Welcome to the suck. You came to the right place.

'clap'
That's it honesty! Post roll and have the integrity to keep your word be honest to your brothers and sisters here. I've set and cried reading some of the stories also. My first two days after finding the site I like you read for hours and was overwhelmed by the similarities I found between my addiction and others. I'm here if you need anything, others helped me through and I am happy to pay it forward!

BOOOOM....outstanding

[Roamcountry]

Nice bro! Welcome aboard!! Glad you are here. And we are here for you!

[Wt57]

Welcome Got2 - And congratulations on reclaiming your life. It is the single most important decision you will ever EVER make.

Reading your intro, there is one word you wrote that captures everything we are about here. HONESTY. We are not here to lie. We are not here to impress other people. We are here to QUIT. That is all we are here for. And the path to freedom from nicotine is honesty. We are here to listen to your challenges, be the place for you to vent, and sympathize with your plight - because we have all - ALL - been where you sit right now. EVERY DAMN ONE OF US. You will find what you need here. You will find all the tools to succeed here. If you want them.

Ultimately it comes down to honesty. From Chewy to Saints, it's all about keeping your word. The ONLY way this works is with honesty. You post your promise. You keep your word. Simple. Not easy.

Welcome to the suck. You came to the right place.

'clap'
That's it honesty! Post roll and have the integrity to keep your word be honest to your brothers and sisters here. I've set and cried reading some of the stories also. My first two days after finding the site I like you read for hours and was overwhelmed by the similarities I found between my addiction and others. I'm here if you need anything, others helped me through and I am happy to pay it forward!

[per034]

Welcome Got2 - And congratulations on reclaiming your life. It is the single most important decision you will ever EVER make.

Reading your intro, there is one word you wrote that captures everything we are about here. HONESTY. We are not here to lie. We are not here to impress other people. We are here to QUIT. That is all we are here for. And the path to freedom from nicotine is honesty. We are here to listen to your challenges, be the place for you to vent, and sympathize with your plight - because we have all - ALL - been where you sit right now. EVERY DAMN ONE OF US. You will find what you need here. You will find all the tools to succeed here. If you want them.

Ultimately it comes down to honesty. From Chewy to Saints, it's all about keeping your word. The ONLY way this works is with honesty. You post your promise. You keep your word. Simple. Not easy.

Welcome to the suck. You came to the right place.

[Evil_Won]

Welcome. It was good meeting you in Live Chat. You're profile similar to what a lot of us feel. Just know that you are not alone in any of this. Take this one day at a time. Post roll early that you will not use nic in any way shape or form for that day. Repeat tomorrow. Posting roll is your word to us. Keep your word!