Been debating about sharing this with you all, but when 69Franx reached out to me about my intro, I felt I needed to share. Thank you Brother!
About a month ago, found out that one of my brothers, was arrested in child predator federal sting. This put some serious stress on multiple fronts...
A. My parents. It took the better part of the month to get it out of them that they are not paying for his bail or lawyer. They are willing to be power of attorney and pay bills ect... But this also cost them their Granddaughter who they practically raised, she is 13. I donÂ’t know if they have even spoken to her since. Additionally they live in the same town as he did. Embarrassed to say the least.
B. My wife. Now she is a teacher that works in that area, geographically. Had multiple people come up to her and ask her about it, even at her high school reunion. This made her remove her last name from Facebook. When my parents were sounding like they supported him, she with drew from them, too.
C. My brothers sister. They all live out of state, therefore that put me in the middle as the gatherer and dispenser of information. I really donÂ’t want anything to do with him or this role, but my hand is forced.
D. Me. I had to play neutral in this for my parents and siblings sake. If I wanted information then I needed to keep all lines open. In my opinion he is guilty and needs to pay for his actions. The charges and the way he was caught isnÂ’t a wrong place at a wrong time, thing. 3 states away, in a federal operation. Yeah your done. He isnÂ’t allowed near my family or my home.
This past Tuesday spent an hour talking with my father about the whole thing. He feels the same way as I do, now. He stated it this way... “he made this sick bed now he had to sleep in it. We still can’t find his car, it will show up at some point. He ruined his life but I won’t let it ruin ours.” The thing that made me feel better was that he understands that I want him no where near or associated with me or my family. They no longer have an Uncle ****
At this point I am much less stressed about this. This is today, tomorrow?
