10:15 AM - Nov 24, 2014 #330
Moved what I was saying to my thread out of respect for Shawn's thread.
Srans was the first to call me and speak to me personally and for that I will always be indebted to him. He found me in the fog and talked to me. I was convinced that this site was bot run until he called. Srans taking the time and making the call made a believer out of me that KTC is real. Anyone that followed my quit can attest I was a hot mess I didn't post roll right until about 15 days in when my brother quiet Quit had to point out to me that he had been fixing my roll daily and he was fed up. I believe it was 30 that found a roll post of mine in July 10 and fixed it for me. I had no idea Fleas was a real person, that WP wasn't just a scary mask avatar (everyone knows WP is much more that a scary masked AV) and the many other people who reached out were real in the beginning. Srans was there to guide me...so I will not and cannot bad mouth him I owe the man my life he was the guy that helped me see the light.
Do I agree/disagree with his choice not for me to decide. Did I talk to him prior to his departure yes... is he a grown man yes, has been given the tools, used the tools and has been able to pass on how to use them to countless others yes. I don't have to like his decision but what I will do is RESPECT his decision.
My bitch is that his thread was stagnant dormant for 3 months then dug up and put on display. If the motive was really out of concern then why not exhaust every attempt to contact the individual or contact a mod or admin and express your concern. Then Srans came back to give an explanation and then the dog piling began. The man that has invested so much into so many people that are quit here today because of him gave his reasons. We don't have to like them but brow beating him isn't going to bring him back...plenty that was said could have gone to the battleground, PM or since SRANS wasn't afraid to give his number out texted him or call him if the gesture was really about concern.
This is how I see it at the end of the day if we are not really working to get to a place where we can enjoy being quit and stand alone even for a short time then are we really quit. There is a huge difference between being truly quit and white knuckling it. Addiction book after addiction book will tell you that if you are not working to change your mindset to understand what addiction is and educate yourself as much as you can about the what when why how, then you are just white knuckling it which is nothing more than a rough ass painful stoppage. I know I will probably take heat for this post but this is my thread hit the back button if you don't like it.
If you don't use the confidence that you gained or should have gained from your quit to be a springboard to accomplish other things in your life then what was the point. If you don't get any enjoyment out of be quit then what was the point. I have used the confidence from being quit to quit drinking, get my mind right, drop pounds and do the best I can to pass it on. Anyone can be a superstar on a keyboard but to apply it real world is different. When you have real eyeballs staring back at you with real questions coming in when you observe the nonverbal communication that's a whole different pony show. Rambling now so I will just post this.
Complacency sucks, one moment of it is the difference between being a user and a quitter....OIB
"Lean into the fall my friends, life can be amazing without nicotine. It's just a matter of choice." sM
"Endeavor to persevere."Chief Dan George "The Outlaw Josey Wales".
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