Introduction

[pky1520]

My bachelor party is a week away. When I first joined this site, I honestly had every expectation that I would cave during my bachelor party. How could that not be excusable? It's the event that you're SUPPOSED to do the dumb, unhealthy shit that you don't get to do after you're married. The idea is that it gets that kind of behavior out of your system.

Well FUCK that, the shit is already out of my system and I mean to keep it that way. I'm starting this process now because I desperately want to do everything that I can to come out of this thing a GD champion.

I'm going to outline my plan and I appreciate any input on how to make it stronger.

1) Let KTC and my August brothers know about the event and ask for some texts to keep me honest throughout.
2) Inform the folks attending that I am quit and request that they not offer or allow me to have any tobacco.
3) WUPP regardless of hangover or other distractions.
4) Load up on Smokey Mountain. Give a can to everyone, with instructions to hand it to drunk-ass PKY, should he ask for a chaw.
5) Cunt punt the first one of my friends who actively tries to get me to chew - it will set an example to the rest.

[pky1520]

FROM KINGNOTHING:
That dissociation won't just be with fishing Pky. Soon you'll notice that you've dissociated your whole life from it. I was hanging out with some buddies a couple weekends ago and we were having a couple beers. Every chance they got they'd toss in a dip and start spitting. There was no pressure for me to join, but they definitely recognized that I was comfortable around them even though they were doing it and I'd quit.

The thought never came to my mind that I had to dip to enjoy that time with them or that I would take a dip so it would be comfortable for everybody there. I no longer associate dip with anything. The more actively you pursue QUIT and not merely not using, the easier and faster this process will go.

Good on you for keeping your promise and also for noticing the substantial changes that are already happening.

[pky1520]

Notched a pretty solid win this week and wanted to share.

With my new business, I sometimes have to make big sacrifices and take some just god-awful business trips. For instance, this week, I had to go up to the Blue Ridge Mountains in E. Tennessee and do a float trip for trout on the Watauga River with a partner outfitter - as I said, just miserable .

Anyway, the trip was great, had a really productive meeting and some decent fishing. The thing was, the guy that I was with chewed a whole can during the float - he had a spittoon in the boat. This was a really interesting experience for me. Rather than crave it, I just felt bad for the guy. He was one of those chain dippers who never really put a dip in or spit it out, just added some fresh every half hour or so. I'm only a little over two months from being right there with him, but it felt foreign to me. Doesn't he know how good it is to be quit? Why doesn't he just spit it and post roll?

The win wasn't fighting the craving and winning, it was being in that environment and not even wanting the shit. Although, I will admit that I went through one of those bad-ass, white-knuckle craves, that required a text to a quit brother during the drive up.

Anyway, I told him about how I had recently quit, but we didn't really get into it. I have to do business w/ the guy and didn't want to get on my soapbox about the evils of tobacco just yet. Although, I do hope the the brief conversation we had about it might plant a seed for a conversation down the road.

Fishing is what I love, but it's also deeply ingrained in me that fishing & dipping are like peas & carrots. It's encouraging to see that I'm starting to disassociate the two.

FROM MIKE1966:
I've read on here where guys talk about dreading being around other people who dip. I'm lucky, none of my friends dip. I'll have to say, up to this point, seeing someone dip hasn't made me want to dip. It's only made my quit stronger.

I was in a guys house the other day and he had a big fat one in. Every time he got ready to say something to us, he'd open the bathroom door and spit into the toilet so he could talk. I thought, man, been there done that and I'm glad that's not me anymore.

That's exactly it! I'm glad it's not me anymore.

[pky1520]

Notched a pretty solid win this week and wanted to share.

With my new business, I sometimes have to make big sacrifices and take some just god-awful business trips. For instance, this week, I had to go up to the Blue Ridge Mountains in E. Tennessee and do a float trip for trout on the Watauga River with a partner outfitter - as I said, just miserable .

Anyway, the trip was great, had a really productive meeting and some decent fishing. The thing was, the guy that I was with chewed a whole can during the float - he had a spittoon in the boat. This was a really interesting experience for me. Rather than crave it, I just felt bad for the guy. He was one of those chain dippers who never really put a dip in or spit it out, just added some fresh every half hour or so. I'm only a little over two months from being right there with him, but it felt foreign to me. Doesn't he know how good it is to be quit? Why doesn't he just spit it and post roll?

The win wasn't fighting the craving and winning, it was being in that environment and not even wanting the shit. Although, I will admit that I went through one of those bad-ass, white-knuckle craves, that required a text to a quit brother during the drive up.

Anyway, I told him about how I had recently quit, but we didn't really get into it. I have to do business w/ the guy and didn't want to get on my soapbox about the evils of tobacco just yet. Although, I do hope the the brief conversation we had about it might plant a seed for a conversation down the road.

Fishing is what I love, but it's also deeply ingrained in me that fishing & dipping are like peas & carrots. It's encouraging to see that I'm starting to disassociate the two.

FROM FISHFLORIDA:
To be on a boat all day and not chew isn't a win... It's the holy grail of quit!!! Awesome!!!

[pky1520]

Notched a pretty solid win this week and wanted to share.

With my new business, I sometimes have to make big sacrifices and take some just god-awful business trips. For instance, this week, I had to go up to the Blue Ridge Mountains in E. Tennessee and do a float trip for trout on the Watauga River with a partner outfitter - as I said, just miserable .

Anyway, the trip was great, had a really productive meeting and some decent fishing. The thing was, the guy that I was with chewed a whole can during the float - he had a spittoon in the boat. This was a really interesting experience for me. Rather than crave it, I just felt bad for the guy. He was one of those chain dippers who never really put a dip in or spit it out, just added some fresh every half hour or so. I'm only a little over two months from being right there with him, but it felt foreign to me. Doesn't he know how good it is to be quit? Why doesn't he just spit it and post roll?

The win wasn't fighting the craving and winning, it was being in that environment and not even wanting the shit. Although, I will admit that I went through one of those bad-ass, white-knuckle craves, that required a text to a quit brother during the drive up.

Anyway, I told him about how I had recently quit, but we didn't really get into it. I have to do business w/ the guy and didn't want to get on my soapbox about the evils of tobacco just yet. Although, I do hope the the brief conversation we had about it might plant a seed for a conversation down the road.

Fishing is what I love, but it's also deeply ingrained in me that fishing & dipping are like peas & carrots. It's encouraging to see that I'm starting to disassociate the two.

FROM MIKE1966:
I've read on here where guys talk about dreading being around other people who dip. I'm lucky, none of my friends dip. I'll have to say, up to this point, seeing someone dip hasn't made me want to dip. It's only made my quit stronger.

I was in a guys house the other day and he had a big fat one in. Every time he got ready to say something to us, he'd open the bathroom door and spit into the toilet so he could talk. I thought, man, been there done that and I'm glad that's not me anymore.

[pky1520]

Notched a pretty solid win this week and wanted to share.

With my new business, I sometimes have to make big sacrifices and take some just god-awful business trips. For instance, this week, I had to go up to the Blue Ridge Mountains in E. Tennessee and do a float trip for trout on the Watauga River with a partner outfitter - as I said, just miserable .

Anyway, the trip was great, had a really productive meeting and some decent fishing. The thing was, the guy that I was with chewed a whole can during the float - he had a spittoon in the boat. This was a really interesting experience for me. Rather than crave it, I just felt bad for the guy. He was one of those chain dippers who never really put a dip in or spit it out, just added some fresh every half hour or so. I'm only a little over two months from being right there with him, but it felt foreign to me. Doesn't he know how good it is to be quit? Why doesn't he just spit it and post roll?

The win wasn't fighting the craving and winning, it was being in that environment and not even wanting the shit. Although, I will admit that I went through one of those bad-ass, white-knuckle craves, that required a text to a quit brother during the drive up.

Anyway, I told him about how I had recently quit, but we didn't really get into it. I have to do business w/ the guy and didn't want to get on my soapbox about the evils of tobacco just yet. Although, I do hope the the brief conversation we had about it might plant a seed for a conversation down the road.

Fishing is what I love, but it's also deeply ingrained in me that fishing & dipping are like peas & carrots. It's encouraging to see that I'm starting to disassociate the two.

[pky1520]

Don't celebrate our independence by enslaving yourself again.

FROM KINGNOTHING:
Awesome stuff pky. Keep it up brother, you are a fine quitter and it will only get better from here. The conversation with your fiance is exactly why we need this place. People that have never dealt with addiction can very rarely empathize with an addict. They just can't understand the physiological effects of why you can't just 'put it down.' At any rate, good on you for telling her. Someday she'll appreciate it when you aren't having your jaw sawed off to save your life because you never quit.

[pky1520]

Had my fist dip dream in quite a while last night.

It was honestly terrifying & super clear. I took a dip almost without knowing it and then all of a sudden I was chain-dipping. Then I started texting all the guys in my group about caving. I can still remember right now the sense of shame and failure. It's crazy because I hadn't had a dip dream since very early in my quit and I usually don't have very vivid dreams to begin with.

The setting was my bachelor party, which will be coming up. I've circled this as an event that I need to have a plan for. I will & I'll outline it more as it gets closer.

All the best to my fellow quitters! Start making a plan for the 4th of July weekend. Don't celebrate our independence by enslaving yourself again.

[pky1520]

I finally had the KTC conversation with my fiancee last night. It went alright. She was kind of shocked that this was something that was such a big deal for me. I'm a little conflicted about having the convo. On one hand, I am relieved that it's out and I don't feel like there's anything left that I'm hiding in my life. On the other hand, she didn't know how much of a struggle this was for me and I kind of liked that.

The reason that I hadn't told her before wasn't because I was embarrassed about needing help, or because I was worried that she wouldn't take it well. I didn't tell her because I felt like this was something that I had done to myself and beating it was something that I should be doing without putting it on her in any way. I still kind of feel like that would have been better in some ways.

I got tired of worrying about having to explain away texts, or why recently I've been checking my phone all the time. Overall it was a positive. I'm glad to have it all out there now. She was amazingly understanding after I explained everything. She's didn't grow up in an environment where it was at all common, so she has a hard time understanding the draw of the stuff, but she was happy that I am doing everything that I can to stay off of it.

No great lessons learned here, but it was an important event and I felt like chronicling it.

Quit on brothers

[pky1520]

FROM WORKTOWIN:
sounds like you are taking your life back in all sorts of ways. Congratulations dude.

Thanks for the support guys!

Send me a note if you're ever in N. Carolina and want to do some fishing !

[pky1520]

FROM WORKTOWIN:
sounds like you are taking your life back in all sorts of ways. Congratulations dude.

[pky1520]

FROM THUMBLEWORT:
I wrote a lot during my first days as well, it helped. Keep up the quit, and best wishes on your store!

[pky1520]

The last week has been extraordinarily exciting and stressful. I've gone through a gauntlet of triggering events and KTC has been there for me in every sense. I've had the chance to connect with my brothers in August, dump my brain into my intro, post my promise EDD and get some great motivation from all of the Titans of Quit on this site. KTC has pulled me through an experience that I never would have thought I'd get through without dip. I have 100% certainty that I would be chewing like a madman right now without this site.

As of yesterday afternoon, I am my own boss. I left my safe and comfortable corporate world and took on a challenge that I've been thinking about for the last several years. I'm now the owner and operator of a Fly Fishing retail store and Outfitter service. It's going to be a ton of work, less money and no guarantee of success, but I'll be my own boss in an industry that I've been obsessed with my entire life.

What this has meant for me recently is a TON of stress about whether this was the right thing for me and my family, stress about the deal potentially falling through, lots of time spent driving and fishing (tough life, I know, but both of these are major triggers for me), as well as days to myself.

This last week was a gauntlet because as the deal approached: I had a day fishing with the former owner and some clients, which entailed 6 hours ttl in the truck, all day fishing and a bunch of guys smoking cigars by the river. My fiancee was out of town from Thursday - Monday, leaving me plenty of time to get myself into trouble. I spent the weekend with my parents, but that was another 6 hours driving (and two days with parents can drive me crazy). Yesterday we closed the deal, a perfect excuse for a victory dip!

But I powered through, relied on the tools that I developed and leaned on the support system provided by this site. I'm proud to be quit with you all. This is my first day in my new business. One more day nicotine free!

FROM FISHFLORIDA:
I'll tie a load of saltwater Gotcha's for Bahamian Bones for your store.

[pky1520]

FROM KINGNOTHING:
You're doing this the right way PKY. Your intro has some great nuggets that you will be able to come back to when you hit a bump in the road. It is obvious that you have bought into the system, and it is also obvious that you have already started to reap the benefits of doing so. The best part? It only gets better. Stay committed, stay connected and the euphoria you feel right now will be small potatoes compared to the next several months. Don't get me wrong, it'll go up and down, but the general trend is most certainly upward for you now.

Keep it up, you have a lot of people looking to you.

[pky1520]

The last week has been extraordinarily exciting and stressful. I've gone through a gauntlet of triggering events and KTC has been there for me in every sense. I've had the chance to connect with my brothers in August, dump my brain into my intro, post my promise EDD and get some great motivation from all of the Titans of Quit on this site. KTC has pulled me through an experience that I never would have thought I'd get through without dip. I have 100% certainty that I would be chewing like a madman right now without this site.

As of yesterday afternoon, I am my own boss. I left my safe and comfortable corporate world and took on a challenge that I've been thinking about for the last several years. I'm now the owner and operator of a Fly Fishing retail store and Outfitter service. It's going to be a ton of work, less money and no guarantee of success, but I'll be my own boss in an industry that I've been obsessed with my entire life.

What this has meant for me recently is a TON of stress about whether this was the right thing for me and my family, stress about the deal potentially falling through, lots of time spent driving and fishing (tough life, I know, but both of these are major triggers for me), as well as days to myself.

This last week was a gauntlet because as the deal approached: I had a day fishing with the former owner and some clients, which entailed 6 hours ttl in the truck, all day fishing and a bunch of guys smoking cigars by the river. My fiancee was out of town from Thursday - Monday, leaving me plenty of time to get myself into trouble. I spent the weekend with my parents, but that was another 6 hours driving (and two days with parents can drive me crazy). Yesterday we closed the deal, a perfect excuse for a victory dip!

But I powered through, relied on the tools that I developed and leaned on the support system provided by this site. I'm proud to be quit with you all. This is my first day in my new business. One more day nicotine free!