I'm 41. I started chewing in college only on Thurs and Fridays where we would go out. I've quit for 6 months at a time. My friends tell me Im great at quitting :) Always fell on nights where I had a couple too many drinks. Always seemed OK as it was once maybe twice a week for a couple hours. Dentist doesn't help as I get checks have healthy gums and even comments they cannot tell I chew. The last year I started to chew when fishing and driving - they became my triggers. I cannot go into the gas station or I buy a tin. Then as I work from home when I don't travel, it became chew and coffee from 6am-noon every day. Now, I can barely go 10 min awake without one in. I'm a business professional but every time I travel I chew chew chew. Today, I chewed in the shower after waking up for the first time. I've tried herbal chews but haven't found a good one yet. Have two young sons and don't want to die from something stupid like this. I need advise...it's killing me not to chew as I'm typing this....
Its a mother fucker, it really is.
First things first. You're an addict. Might be the first time you've heard that and maybe you don't like it, but its true.
You may have started it as a once in awhile "hobby", but no more. The shits got its hooks into you and sounds like they are getting deeper by the minute. LIFE is now a trigger for you .
Also fuck the dentist, even if he gives you a clean bill of health, so the fuck what.
Dude...you are chewing in the mother fucking shower. I'm not making fun of you either...I did it a million times.
Hell I was a ninja and used to dip on the shitter. Fucking spit on my DICK AND BALLS a few times. Yeah, that's normal behavior. What a fucking loser I WAS.
You really want to quit. Forget about your dentist, forget about doing it soley for your kids. Do it for YOU. Nobody else. Quitting for your kids is great and all but the adrenaline from that will only get you so far.
I wish I had some magic trick or short cut for you. But I don't. Its gonna suck, especially the first 3 days when you detox from that shit. After that its the mind games.
Like I said. There are no short cuts or magic pills. You will have to walk the same path as the rest of us.
Post you promise to not use nicotie daily, fight scratch and claw minute by minute or even second by second if you have to, until you build up a toolbox of quit and things get easier.
I can't say when that will be but I can tell you it WILL come and you feel a sense of pride and freedom that you have never felt before.
Its time to grow up and quit this shit. It won't always be easy, but it will always be worth it.
Best news for you is you have us to help you. We've been in your shoes, we can help you. Don't be afraid to reach out to us. That's why we are here. Use us
