48 hours

[CoachDoc]

This is NOT my intro...

This person dropped off the site a LONG time ago...

But I saw him lurking today...snooping around in June 2010...he didn't even have the common courtesy to post a single word...

This TROLL (prove me wrong) has my number...I reacherd out to him BEFORE he left...not a single word from him

This is for you mek...fuck off until you can be a man again...post your lame assed excuse...don't hide in the shadows...I KNOW you'll read this...

[RoyJester]

it's almost like, the first 3 days are a brute force fight with a dude, and past day 3 its like arguing with a woman.  Common sense doesn't work and she says "innocent" shit that lingers and breaks you down.

That's a brilliant friggin' analogy!

Unfortunately, you can't end this argument with make-up sex (i.e. a reunion dip), so take a walk, clear your head, buy some seeds or something (peppermints have been helping me a lot) and soldier on, my friend.

or...

go have sex.

[mitch]

it's almost like, the first 3 days are a brute force fight with a dude, and past day 3 its like arguing with a woman. Common sense doesn't work and she says "innocent" shit that lingers and breaks you down.

That's a brilliant friggin' analogy!

Unfortunately, you can't end this argument with make-up sex (i.e. a reunion dip), so take a walk, clear your head, buy some seeds or something (peppermints have been helping me a lot) and soldier on, my friend.

[mekster]

this is such a bitch.  I woke up, craving as usual. Didnt get out of bed for an hour.  Then lingered in my house for an hour.  Got in my car, to get dip,  peeled off a block before 7-11.  Fuck that was close.  My mouth is legitimately watering at the thought of dip.

Yesterday was so easy.  I woke up got my mind right.  Today, I kept saying "you aren't dipping today", but I knew it was half assed conviction and I was in for a fight today.

Please keep posting anywhere you feel necessary, but this is stuff your quit group needs to hear and help you with.

Do you have numbers to call when it gets this close again?

Tom,

I know you have my number and the next time you get that close I had better get a damn phone call. Regardless, way to stay strong.

i went into my quit group today and the first post I saw, some rah rah post focusing on some guy that has come back, telling the guy to go fuck himself. I was in a bad mood to begin with, I read that shit and just thought. Who the fuck does that help? Maybe the person posting it. Quitting is so hard, that dealing with any negativity for me is very fragile. I rather, pretend that cavers are gone and were never here. "Ooh im a big pussy. OK I am. Now what drill sergeant?"

Seeing people preaching to others that have caved in the past is beyond counterproductive for me. Yeah i get that a certain type of mentality will get empowerment from this bravado shit. But give me a break, it's all based on fear of rejection and need for approval. It works on some and is nothing for others, and it actually is very counterproductive for me.

That said, I was already angry when I read that post, don't know what the back story is, or who the players are. I just know it was the first thing I read, and it took me two steps back.

Kev, I got your number, but like I said. Once I crack, it's not like the thing on my mind is to get an OK from someone to dip. The brain is broken, in a foggy frenzy to get it's fix, it knows that calling someone that will make it harder to get the fix is not in line with its objectives.

I'm not going to dip today, and that is all that matters to me at this moment.

[klark]

this is such a bitch.  I woke up, craving as usual. Didnt get out of bed for an hour.  Then lingered in my house for an hour.  Got in my car, to get dip,  peeled off a block before 7-11.  Fuck that was close.  My mouth is legitimately watering at the thought of dip.

Yesterday was so easy.  I woke up got my mind right.  Today, I kept saying "you aren't dipping today", but I knew it was half assed conviction and I was in for a fight today.

Please keep posting anywhere you feel necessary, but this is stuff your quit group needs to hear and help you with.

Do you have numbers to call when it gets this close again?

Tom,

I know you have my number and the next time you get that close I had better get a damn phone call. Regardless, way to stay strong.

[MikeA]

this is such a bitch. I woke up, craving as usual. Didnt get out of bed for an hour. Then lingered in my house for an hour. Got in my car, to get dip, peeled off a block before 7-11. Fuck that was close. My mouth is legitimately watering at the thought of dip.

Yesterday was so easy. I woke up got my mind right. Today, I kept saying "you aren't dipping today", but I knew it was half assed conviction and I was in for a fight today.

Please keep posting anywhere you feel necessary, but this is stuff your quit group needs to hear and help you with.

Do you have numbers to call when it gets this close again?

[mekster]

this is such a bitch. I woke up, craving as usual. Didnt get out of bed for an hour. Then lingered in my house for an hour. Got in my car, to get dip, peeled off a block before 7-11. Fuck that was close. My mouth is legitimately watering at the thought of dip.

Yesterday was so easy. I woke up got my mind right. Today, I kept saying "you aren't dipping today", but I knew it was half assed conviction and I was in for a fight today.

[greg40]

I was defeated when I left work, when I got home I beat it.

That's how I got threw the first 50 days....a lot of beating it! Nice work!! :D 'jerk'

[ahfull]

Yesterday was a HUUUUUUGE victory.  I was defeated when I left work, when I got home I beat it.  When I look back on my quit, I'm sure yesterday will be the most pivotal day in this fight.  It will have to be, cause that is all I can handle.  If it gets worse I'm dead.

Hehe....nah u are alive! This just proves that you are stonger than the nic bitch! Keep fighting and beating the triggers and you will continue to get stronger.

You got this. One day at a time - don't focus on anything longer than that.

If you can't handle one day of quit, then you should have a friend kick you in the nuts until they decide to grow back.

[bman50317]

Yesterday was a HUUUUUUGE victory. I was defeated when I left work, when I got home I beat it. When I look back on my quit, I'm sure yesterday will be the most pivotal day in this fight. It will have to be, cause that is all I can handle. If it gets worse I'm dead.

Hehe....nah u are alive! This just proves that you are stonger than the nic bitch! Keep fighting and beating the triggers and you will continue to get stronger.

[mekster]

Rock On! How you feeling so far? The physical part of this should be over....now comes the "Mind Fuck".

I would say I'm doing about as you described. mind fuck is the best description of my past two days. Like I wrote somewhere the cravings now are so different than days 1-3. Those were just my brain yelling at me to dip to end the pain. Now it's like chess type craves, they start slow but get crazy loud and are intricate.

At some point I always think "whats the point, your on day x and still getting craving" then it will move me to some random dude that caved after a loooong quit, say shit like... "see you really want to deal with this for 3 years?". etc etc. its just a more subtle crave, but so much more psyche piercing. it's almost like, the first 3 days are a brute force fight with a dude, and past day 3 its like arguing with a woman. Common sense doesn't work and she says "innocent" shit that lingers and breaks you down.

But I would say overall, I'm doing great. yesterday was the closest I've come to caving. I'm more prepared now to deal with the unexpected craves.

Yesterday was a HUUUUUUGE victory. I was defeated when I left work, when I got home I beat it. When I look back on my quit, I'm sure yesterday will be the most pivotal day in this fight. It will have to be, cause that is all I can handle. If it gets worse I'm dead.

[bman50317]

mornings are still tough, but who gives a fuck.... I'M ON DAY 5!!!!

Rock On! How you feeling so far? The physical part of this should be over....now comes the "Mind Fuck". Keep your guard up and make sure you have a solid quit plan. Use it and keep powering through like you are!

[mekster]

mornings are still tough, but who gives a fuck.... I'M ON DAY 5!!!!

[Greg5280]

so close to caving today...

But you didn't, and that's what counts.

Isn't it nice to have a chat feature, and nice to have the capability to PM, text, or call in the event you need to throw out an SOS?

How can one fail if we follow the rules and make ourselves accountable?

I have to believe that if one scrupulously follows the simple rules here that there is 100% success.

Allec,
You are correct. The rules are very simple.

1. Post roll
2. Live up to your word

Very simple, not easy but simple. And the beauty of this place is there is more quit knowledge here than you can find anywhere else. The stories you read are all by quitters, the advice is from guys that have lived in your shoes.

Remember the rules, follow the rules and you will succeed !!

[allec]

so close to caving today...

But you didn't, and that's what counts.

Isn't it nice to have a chat feature, and nice to have the capability to PM, text, or call in the event you need to throw out an SOS?

How can one fail if we follow the rules and make ourselves accountable?

I have to believe that if one scrupulously follows the simple rules here that there is 100% success.