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Re: better things to do
« Reply #112 on: February 17, 2014, 11:27:00 AM »
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One year ago today my father passed from this world.  I still have more days than not where I catch myself thinking about calling and checking in with him or having one of those father/son conversations where you just empty your head and heart.  My father and I, while we had our disagreements, were very close.  Not a day goes by that I don't think about or miss him.  I can only hope to be as good a father to my sons as my father was to me. 

Cherish your loved ones, especially your parents.  No matter how long you have with them its NEVER enough and you cant replace them.
You are honoring your father, and letting us witness it. Respect.
My father died when I was 28. I know what you went through. Honor your mother and other loved ones.
In a couple of weeks, it will be 3 years since I lost my dad, as well as 3 years since my wife lost her mom (2 days apart)...I too think about my dad daily and still have so many things to talk about and questions to ask.

Wishing you strength. The memories are good, unfortunately so is the pain from the loss.
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Re: better things to do
« Reply #111 on: February 17, 2014, 10:13:00 AM »
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One year ago today my father passed from this world.  I still have more days than not where I catch myself thinking about calling and checking in with him or having one of those father/son conversations where you just empty your head and heart.  My father and I, while we had our disagreements, were very close.  Not a day goes by that I don't think about or miss him.  I can only hope to be as good a father to my sons as my father was to me. 

Cherish your loved ones, especially your parents.  No matter how long you have with them its NEVER enough and you cant replace them.
You are honoring your father, and letting us witness it. Respect.
My father died when I was 28. I know what you went through. Honor your mother and other loved ones.
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Re: better things to do
« Reply #110 on: February 17, 2014, 10:06:00 AM »
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One year ago today my father passed from this world. I still have more days than not where I catch myself thinking about calling and checking in with him or having one of those father/son conversations where you just empty your head and heart. My father and I, while we had our disagreements, were very close. Not a day goes by that I don't think about or miss him. I can only hope to be as good a father to my sons as my father was to me.

Cherish your loved ones, especially your parents. No matter how long you have with them its NEVER enough and you cant replace them.
You are honoring your father, and letting us witness it. Respect.
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Re: better things to do
« Reply #109 on: February 17, 2014, 10:00:00 AM »
One year ago today my father passed from this world. I still have more days than not where I catch myself thinking about calling and checking in with him or having one of those father/son conversations where you just empty your head and heart. My father and I, while we had our disagreements, were very close. Not a day goes by that I don't think about or miss him. I can only hope to be as good a father to my sons as my father was to me.

Cherish your loved ones, especially your parents. No matter how long you have with them its NEVER enough and you cant replace them.
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Re: better things to do
« Reply #108 on: November 18, 2013, 11:25:00 PM »
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Bingo - all of you throwing mud and demanding action and responses from anyone except the caver/liar need to refocus on what the real problem is here.

They lied to us.  They cheated real quitters that may have needed it out of support.  They mocked the site for well over 100 days. 

Those of you that "advised" him to be quiet and weather the storm did him no favors.  This process of forcing cavers and liars to be honest is designed with KTC as a mirror.  A mirror that can see every lie for what it is, and force you to be honest with yourself.  You all are shielding Paddy from being honest with himself.  Every caver posts some heartfelt apology.  No one gives a shit - my 4 year old apologized to his little brother all the time, usually with a hug and about 5 minutes of nice playing after. 

Then he steals his toys, snacks, and generally torments him again. 

My 4 year old does not know how to look at how his actions are impacting his brother and ultimately himself.  Most of us dont, and when we lie it either goes undiscovered or no one calls us on it, nor do they have the depth of understanding of the lies. 

KTC is about one thing - fighting a nasty addiction every damn day and winning.  KTC members know the lies we have told ourselves to justify or rationalize our continued use of a product that will kill us.  We all told them.  We see the addict speak - we can spot planned caves from miles away. 

When you "protect" a quitter by trying to insulate him from the process, you are stopping him from the painful mental healing that is necessary to self recognize his addict behavior and thoughts that lead down the path to a cave.  Are you going to be there with him 24/7, 365?  Hell, are you with him right now?  If not, you have played more of a part in his next cave than anything these other quitters may post. 

This is a nasty addiction.  Nicotine fights dirty and fights hard and never stops.  you think being "nice" and not mean has any benefit in that fight you are wrong.  Any barrier you put between the caver and the mirror that is KTC is doing him the biggest disservice, more so than some faceless anonymous poster calling him a pussy or a liar.  We all were pussies and liars.  We let a toxic plant control our daily lives so much our only escape is to give our word everyday and then violently cling to it. 

Refocus the attention where it belongs - cavers must walk through the fire that is his own addict reflection.  This is NOT about you, me, or any other solid quitter who gave their word and kept it.  KTC is the mirror.  It is up to the caver alone to decide if they want to turn on the bright lights and see the ugly truth or if they want to stay in the dark. 

I know which path leads to truly being quit and which one will lead to more lies and "tries."
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Re: better things to do
« Reply #107 on: July 31, 2013, 01:39:00 PM »
920.

This too shall pass. Until then, Fetch wood, carry water, walk the Earth.

When things are bad, remember: It wont always be this way. Take one day at a time.

When things are good, remember: It wont always be this way. Enjoy every great moment.
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Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.
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God, give me grace to accept with serenity
the things that cannot be changed,
Courage to change the things
which should be changed,
and the Wisdom to distinguish
the one from the other.
Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time,
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as Jesus did,
This sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it,
Trusting that You will make all things right,
If I surrender to Your will,
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with You forever in the next.
Amen.
Just one of those days.
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Re: better things to do
« Reply #106 on: March 05, 2013, 05:29:00 PM »
Hope you all dont mind, but lately my head has been putting my quit to a soundtrack. feel free to add to it - -

Good Song that puts what we say about why there is no better day to quit than today (at least the chorus and the first verse)

This song is what it sometimes feels like when quitting.

Muzzle - This is the song I related to my quit.

Artist in the Ambulance

Bro Hymn

Feeding the addiction

Anthem for the Underdog

It's not me it's you

Pantera's Walk, bitches

The Cave

I wont back down the Johnny Cash version. Cool collage video too.

OAR - War Song Lyrics

Bombtrack - nothing really to do with quitting. just that kinda day. I guess Rage fits though

Rolling - not a whole lot of relevance to the quit, just a good song. Ok, i guess the chorus goes with the quit - bah, decide for yourself. I just like the fookin song - sue me.

Godsmack - Keep Away - for the days when the Nic rage is really in high gear

Wrong - One of my favorite Alice in chains songs, and damn does the line "Somethings gotta turn out right" seem appropriate right now.

I have listened to the Beasties for as long as I can remember, but I never realized how many awesome songs they had until trying to put together a top 3 in honor of the passing of MCA today. Here are 5 of my favorites:
Quote from: RIP
Time to Get ill

No Sleep till Brooklyn

You gotta fight

Brass Monkey

Sabotage
Another one bites the dust. too many fallen brothers.

Dear X (You Don't Own Me) Hell yeah. "I was yours, I'm not yours any more. You don't own me"

It's Worth the Pain I love this band. I've pulled a lot of songs from them in this quit but this one is EXCELLENT.

White Blank Page love mumford  sons. Awesome song. one of many on rotation, but probably my favorite right now.

You figure it out...

More mumford...

Ballad of Fuck All

Avett Brothers - Head full of doubt/Road Full of Promises - look to see more from them on here. Awesome.

Good ol Johnny
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Re: better things to do
« Reply #105 on: February 24, 2013, 05:49:00 PM »
I really cannot express how much the texts, pm's, facebook messages, and phone calls of sympathy and support this past week have meant to me. It has been hard to get through this, but I know He is in a better place, more comfortable, and not struggling. Lots of loved one waiting for him.

I also know deep down that I have more people in my corner than I ever imagined. Not a single message even mentioned quit. they were all about sympathy and condolences. That to me is a powerful message about the bonds formed here. My name is on the line, of course I am quit.

Anyway, you all give me the strength to fight this addiction and the strength to get through this very tough loss. I only hope that someday I am able to repay you the the kindness you have shown me. You are all amazing friends and brothers, and I am damn glad to have you side by side not just in this fight, but in life.

Thank you.
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Re: better things to do
« Reply #104 on: February 22, 2013, 08:07:00 AM »
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thoughts and prayers my brother.
Sorry for you lose. Prayers for you and your family
Sorry jost2brown to hear of your dads passing. I know it hurts. I lost mine a few months ago too. One day at a time brother. Remember the good and let the bad fall aside. Be the best man you can be today. Prayers up.
Sorry to hear that from both of you. My dad passed 9 years ago. It gets better, but you never get over it.

Hang in there and use the support tools offered. I made the mistake of ignoring any offers of counseling and I think things would have gotten better sooner if I would have dealt with those feelings a lot sooner than I did.
Thoughts and Prayers my Brother!! Keep your head up J2B!!!
My condolences...30 Years as a carpenter WOW.
I am sorry for your loss J2B, 58 years old. Much too young, much too young.
prayers and condolences to you and your family. Sorry for your loss.
Brother I'm real sorry. My heart is with you man.
Much too young. Very sorry for you loss, brother.
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Re: better things to do
« Reply #103 on: February 22, 2013, 07:25:00 AM »
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thoughts and prayers my brother.
Sorry for you lose. Prayers for you and your family
Sorry jost2brown to hear of your dads passing. I know it hurts. I lost mine a few months ago too. One day at a time brother. Remember the good and let the bad fall aside. Be the best man you can be today. Prayers up.
Sorry to hear that from both of you. My dad passed 9 years ago. It gets better, but you never get over it.

Hang in there and use the support tools offered. I made the mistake of ignoring any offers of counseling and I think things would have gotten better sooner if I would have dealt with those feelings a lot sooner than I did.
Thoughts and Prayers my Brother!! Keep your head up J2B!!!
My condolences...30 Years as a carpenter WOW.
I am sorry for your loss J2B, 58 years old. Much too young, much too young.
prayers and condolences to you and your family. Sorry for your loss.
Brother I'm real sorry. My heart is with you man.
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Re: better things to do
« Reply #102 on: February 22, 2013, 05:51:00 AM »
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Dad's Obituary
thoughts and prayers my brother.
Sorry for you lose. Prayers for you and your family
Sorry jost2brown to hear of your dads passing. I know it hurts. I lost mine a few months ago too. One day at a time brother. Remember the good and let the bad fall aside. Be the best man you can be today. Prayers up.
Sorry to hear that from both of you. My dad passed 9 years ago. It gets better, but you never get over it.

Hang in there and use the support tools offered. I made the mistake of ignoring any offers of counseling and I think things would have gotten better sooner if I would have dealt with those feelings a lot sooner than I did.
Thoughts and Prayers my Brother!! Keep your head up J2B!!!
My condolences...30 Years as a carpenter WOW.
I am sorry for your loss J2B, 58 years old. Much too young, much too young.
prayers and condolences to you and your family. Sorry for your loss.
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Re: better things to do
« Reply #101 on: February 21, 2013, 04:23:00 PM »
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Dad's Obituary
thoughts and prayers my brother.
Sorry for you lose. Prayers for you and your family
Sorry jost2brown to hear of your dads passing. I know it hurts. I lost mine a few months ago too. One day at a time brother. Remember the good and let the bad fall aside. Be the best man you can be today. Prayers up.
Sorry to hear that from both of you. My dad passed 9 years ago. It gets better, but you never get over it.

Hang in there and use the support tools offered. I made the mistake of ignoring any offers of counseling and I think things would have gotten better sooner if I would have dealt with those feelings a lot sooner than I did.
Thoughts and Prayers my Brother!! Keep your head up J2B!!!
My condolences...30 Years as a carpenter WOW.
I am sorry for your loss J2B, 58 years old. Much too young, much too young.
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Re: better things to do
« Reply #100 on: February 21, 2013, 02:42:00 PM »
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Dad's Obituary
thoughts and prayers my brother.
Sorry for you lose. Prayers for you and your family
Sorry jost2brown to hear of your dads passing. I know it hurts. I lost mine a few months ago too. One day at a time brother. Remember the good and let the bad fall aside. Be the best man you can be today. Prayers up.
Sorry to hear that from both of you. My dad passed 9 years ago. It gets better, but you never get over it.

Hang in there and use the support tools offered. I made the mistake of ignoring any offers of counseling and I think things would have gotten better sooner if I would have dealt with those feelings a lot sooner than I did.
Thoughts and Prayers my Brother!! Keep your head up J2B!!!
My condolences...30 Years as a carpenter WOW.
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Re: better things to do
« Reply #99 on: February 21, 2013, 02:20:00 PM »
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Dad's Obituary
thoughts and prayers my brother.
Sorry for you lose. Prayers for you and your family
Sorry jost2brown to hear of your dads passing. I know it hurts. I lost mine a few months ago too. One day at a time brother. Remember the good and let the bad fall aside. Be the best man you can be today. Prayers up.
Sorry to hear that from both of you. My dad passed 9 years ago. It gets better, but you never get over it.

Hang in there and use the support tools offered. I made the mistake of ignoring any offers of counseling and I think things would have gotten better sooner if I would have dealt with those feelings a lot sooner than I did.
Thoughts and Prayers my Brother!! Keep your head up J2B!!!
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Re: better things to do
« Reply #98 on: February 21, 2013, 11:58:00 AM »
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Dad's Obituary
thoughts and prayers my brother.
Sorry for you lose. Prayers for you and your family
Sorry jost2brown to hear of your dads passing. I know it hurts. I lost mine a few months ago too. One day at a time brother. Remember the good and let the bad fall aside. Be the best man you can be today. Prayers up.
Sorry to hear that from both of you. My dad passed 9 years ago. It gets better, but you never get over it.

Hang in there and use the support tools offered. I made the mistake of ignoring any offers of counseling and I think things would have gotten better sooner if I would have dealt with those feelings a lot sooner than I did.
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