Wow, there is a LOT of good stuff in this thread! FLA, you are using your tools perfectly. Throw your thoughts out there, let some people respond, then find the quit that fits you and wear it. One of the old vets once said "take what you need, leave the rest".
I chewed and dipped for 19 years, and for 18 1/2 of those years didn't even give a thought to quitting. Like you, I didn't want to. I ignored thoughts about death and poor health. Early last year, I half-assed quit because I thought it was the right thing to do. I caved a couple of months into it, and within a couple of days was using more than ever. At some point, I realized that I no longer had the ability to make my own decisions. I was cramming shit in my mouth and not even getting any enjoyment out of it anymore. I was disgusted with myself. I was tired of the constant nasty shit all around me. That's when I quit... for good. It was a change in mindset that I needed. I don't even use fake dip because it appears that I'm still incapable of independent thought.
You are right: drinking has been the downfall of many quits. Stay away from it, at least until you're more secure in your quit.
The attitude is a tough question. At first, you are gonna think about whether you want to or not. It is your responsiblity to have the right kind of thoughts. If you are in a trigger situation, staying quit needs to be your main thought at all times. Never let your guard down.
