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Re: Betrayal
« Reply #9 on: October 02, 2014, 11:34:00 AM »
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Hell yeah man. This is an intro. Do you know anything about our program already (posting roll)?

I don't understand what you mean. Please explain. I know that we have to pledge a day 1 and stop going back to it, and share experiences, how we feel, etc with the group, get suggestions and ideas and quit the habit forever.
We have such pleasures to show you...

We do share a day 1 here (because you are on day 1). We post our promise not use nicotine today with our brothers as well. I post in October 2011. I am currently on day 1192 of my quit, and I have made that promise to my brothers for 1192 straight days. You will be posting in the January 2015 group. The date on the group represents when you will reach 100 days quit. You won't be cured on that day. It is simply a milestone we celebrate. You can learn the who's, what's, and why's HERE.

I would love to say that I'm quit forever, but I can't do that. You see, I control my actions right and that's it. The future can be planned for, but I can't act on it until the time arrives. Like a marriage, we take it moment by moment. It's so easy to be lost in forever sometimes. Even though there's a gap between our quit dates, we both walk this same path today. So do the thousands of other quitters here. We help each other. We lean on each other. We build quits.

And, throughout all of that, we get stronger.

These first days are going to be rough. You want to be a man of your word? Do it. Ain't nobody that can make or break your word but you. Lay it all out here, and you will find a level of quit you've never even thought of here. You are not alone in this, and we have your back.

You can do this. I know because I am.
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Re: Betrayal
« Reply #8 on: October 02, 2014, 11:32:00 AM »
Many of us here have lied to our wives, ourselves and everyone else about our addictions. They just don't understand and you can't blame them. The only thing you can do is be transparent and let time heal. Post roll every day. This is a promise to yourself and to us that you will not use today. That's all it takes. Remember, no matter how life crumbles around us, it is not an excuse to use nicotine. You can get through all of this and we will be there with you. Don't hesitate to reach out.
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Re: Betrayal
« Reply #7 on: October 02, 2014, 11:25:00 AM »
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Is the January group. this is where you pledge your Day 1.
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Re: Betrayal
« Reply #6 on: October 02, 2014, 11:23:00 AM »
Hell yeah man. This is an intro. Do you know anything about our program already (posting roll)?

I don't understand what you mean. Please explain. I know that we have to pledge a day 1 and stop going back to it, and share experiences, how we feel, etc with the group, get suggestions and ideas and quit the habit forever.
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Re: Betrayal
« Reply #5 on: October 02, 2014, 11:23:00 AM »
I like the fact she has access to this, that tells me you are deadly serious. We all have problems brother, but a problem with a dip in is now 2 problems. Post roll, and get some support.
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Re: Betrayal
« Reply #4 on: October 02, 2014, 11:22:00 AM »
Grizzly: The last chew I had was yesterday evening and have not felt like going back to it yet. We are fighting it out right now and I am sure that I wont go back to it, at the least, to avoid similar episodes. I cant expect her to believe this, because the same thing happened 10 months ago, and here I stand exposed in front of her again. I am a shady person (born nature) but that doesn't mean I don't love her. I have loved her for the past dozen years and still do. But to her love means honesty, to me it means the same too. But in an attempt to avoid confrontations, I have ended up causing more and more in the process. Sick of myself.
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Re: Betrayal
« Reply #3 on: October 02, 2014, 11:18:00 AM »
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Hi

I am a 37 year old male. I have been on and off chewable tobacco, and the more burning problem is cheating my wife (because I was afraid that it will create huge problems). But every time she has caught me and I try to lie but get exposed. We are now at a point where she feels she cant do this no more. I cant live without her, but can certainly live without the can. With that pledge, I am taking today (October 2nd, which happens to be my mom's birthday) as my day 1. I have not been open with her and been a shady guy on a lot of aspects. To her, can is not the most burning problem, but my lack of honesty is. We fell in love and have been married for 7 years (full of problems) and have a three year old (with feeding issues, which my wife is tackling single handedly). I tried to explain to her that nicotine is a substance that will make you dependent on it, and will be an easy resort to multiple forms of depression. She is right, when she asks, I share all the same (and probably more) reasons for depression, but have been able to hold my character integrity.

With solemn resolve, today IS going to be my Day 1 and I am never going back to it - I have done it for a few months at a stretch three times so far. She has access to my account here. I would appreciate if you could share your thoughts, whatever they may be, for my benefit, and her possible (but remote) solace, and a willingness to consider living with me.

Thanks.
Hell yeah man. This is an intro.

Do you know anything about our program already (posting roll)?
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In the end I Surrender, I and I alone accept that I have and always will have a Nicotene ADDICTION. It is my choice to quit, but I can't do it alone. I get to go down this path one time, I want to do it right. I recognize that my word, my integrety to you is on the line and is only as good as my actions. Caving is not an option in this plan-Eafman 7/11

I am not cured. I will quit one day at a time. I will continue to do what works. Posting roll everyday. To do otherwise would be foolish on my part. You can do this-Ready 12/11

To overcome your addiction you must comprehend what it means to fail-Razd 3/12

Theres a lot of people that come here, especially vets, that WANT to be reminded that they are addicts.-Tarpon 6/12

Just as a building starts with architectural drawings. Your daily quit begins with a promise.-Scowick 2/13

Here and now, focused on today, minute by minute, whatever it takes, I promise to all my bros and myself not to become a negative stat and stay quit!-krok 1/15

I want everyone to be quit. Even the assholes.-Probe1957 1/18

Ignoring history or erasing history fixes nothing and leads you inevitably down the same path.-69franx 04/30/2021

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Re: Betrayal
« Reply #2 on: October 02, 2014, 11:17:00 AM »
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Hi

I am a 37 year old male. I have been on and off chewable tobacco, and the more burning problem is cheating my wife (because I was afraid that it will create huge problems). But every time she has caught me and I try to lie but get exposed. We are now at a point where she feels she cant do this no more. I cant live without her, but can certainly live without the can. With that pledge, I am taking today (October 2nd, which happens to be my mom's birthday) as my day 1. I have not been open with her and been a shady guy on a lot of aspects. To her, can is not the most burning problem, but my lack of honesty is. We fell in love and have been married for 7 years (full of problems) and have a three year old (with feeding issues, which my wife is tackling single handedly). I tried to explain to her that nicotine is a substance that will make you dependent on it, and will be an easy resort to multiple forms of depression. She is right, when she asks, I share all the same (and probably more) reasons for depression, but have been able to hold my character integrity.

With solemn resolve, today IS going to be my Day 1 and I am never going back to it - I have done it for a few months at a stretch three times so far. She has access to my account here. I would appreciate if you could share your thoughts, whatever they may be, for my benefit, and her possible (but remote) solace, and a willingness to consider living with me.

Thanks.
Just win today. You can quit the rest of today right?

We do it one day at a time here. This is how it's done. Come clean with your wife, tell her everything about your lies, etc.

It's the only way. One day at a time and be honest. You can do this brother.

Welcome aboard.
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Betrayal
« on: October 02, 2014, 11:15:00 AM »
Hi

I am a 37 year old male. I have been on and off chewable tobacco, and the more burning problem is cheating my wife (because I was afraid that it will create huge problems). But every time she has caught me and I try to lie but get exposed. We are now at a point where she feels she cant do this no more. I cant live without her, but can certainly live without the can. With that pledge, I am taking today (October 2nd, which happens to be my mom's birthday) as my day 1. I have not been open with her and been a shady guy on a lot of aspects. To her, can is not the most burning problem, but my lack of honesty is. We fell in love and have been married for 7 years (full of problems) and have a three year old (with feeding issues, which my wife is tackling single handedly). I tried to explain to her that nicotine is a substance that will make you dependent on it, and will be an easy resort to multiple forms of depression. She is right, when she asks, I share all the same (and probably more) reasons for depression, but have been able to hold my character integrity.

With solemn resolve, today IS going to be my Day 1 and I am never going back to it - I have done it for a few months at a stretch three times so far. She has access to my account here. I would appreciate if you could share your thoughts, whatever they may be, for my benefit, and her possible (but remote) solace, and a willingness to consider living with me.

Thanks.
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