Stressed out Mom and Quitting

[SamCat!!!]

Wow. I never expected so much support and so many responses! You all are so nice(andnot so nice i a good way)lol
Last night after reading outloud all my posts and replies my husband got up announced he was done. He then dumped 3/4 of a can of chew in the garbage! I told him hes better spit on it . And he did. And for good measure he smushed it against a poo diaper.
So, today has been interesting. Were both very snappish and have to give eachother lots of space. Today is a cookout in a house with tons of people. I dont know how Ill do it without growling and biting. There is 2 men there who chew and have very strong arguments for not quitting. "I been chewin' fer 30 years and Im just fine!" Uh-huh. Sure you are. Im not worried about it cause they wont ask me, but they will him. Poor guy I hope he can do it.
Ive also come to realize a can of chew is a living breathing thing. With a voice. And feelings. He is bipolar though. Totally sweet and caring one minute and a little conniving bitch the next. I dont need people like that in my life.

AMEN TO THAT!!! When things get tough today with that house full of Friends and Family and the NIC BITCH starts whispering in your ear that y'all can have that "Just One"...take a hard look around and think to yourselves...these same Friends and Family would probably also be gathering if that "Just One" finally did me in...This is a Life or Death Battle we are in. You have taken that step in taking your Life back and now your Husband follows!!! You will NEVER regret Quitting I can Promise you that!!! I am glad to see you posting roll and in here. Get Your Husband to register if he hasn't already and get him on roll too!!! If his word means anything than staying Quit for just One Day can be accomplished too!!! I give you both my Personal Word for the Day that I will Quit with the y'all.
SamCat!!!

[chewife]

Wow. I never expected so much support and so many responses! You all are so nice(andnot so nice i a good way)lol
Last night after reading outloud all my posts and replies my husband got up announced he was done. He then dumped 3/4 of a can of chew in the garbage! I told him hes better spit on it . And he did. And for good measure he smushed it against a poo diaper.
So, today has been interesting. Were both very snappish and have to give eachother lots of space. Today is a cookout in a house with tons of people. I dont know how Ill do it without growling and biting. There is 2 men there who chew and have very strong arguments for not quitting. "I been chewin' fer 30 years and Im just fine!" Uh-huh. Sure you are. Im not worried about it cause they wont ask me, but they will him. Poor guy I hope he can do it.
Ive also come to realize a can of chew is a living breathing thing. With a voice. And feelings. He is bipolar though. Totally sweet and caring one minute and a little conniving bitch the next. I dont need people like that in my life.

[Dr. Bruce Banner]

Nice Day 2 post chewife!  All you need to be worrying about right now is making it from RIGHT NOW, through today, to BEDTIME.  Don't worry about anything else, just staying clean today.  You can make it until bedtime without using, I know you can.  You did it once, now just repeat.

Exactly

I just want to add, that at this point in the quit you may get depressed about not getting things accomplished during your day...Staying quit is more important! The house cleaning, grocery shopping, whatever else ladies put on there never ending lists can definetly wait.

If it's important, tell your husband to do it! ( but be nice) Quitting is hard, but it is worth it. and if all you get done for the whole day is not putting poisoin in your body then I say the day was a success.

Good Stuff...Now I am off to find some railroad spikes ^_^

[Scowick65]

Nice Day 2 post chewife! All you need to be worrying about right now is making it from RIGHT NOW, through today, to BEDTIME. Don't worry about anything else, just staying clean today. You can make it until bedtime without using, I know you can. You did it once, now just repeat.

Exactly

[DennyX]

Nice Day 2 post chewife! All you need to be worrying about right now is making it from RIGHT NOW, through today, to BEDTIME. Don't worry about anything else, just staying clean today. You can make it until bedtime without using, I know you can. You did it once, now just repeat.

[SamCat!!!]

NoOne should struggle alone when there is this much Support at your fingertips...We have Faith that you CAN do this too. I'm waiting to see your RollPost for Today!!! TODAY is all we worry about!!! My number has still not changed and the offer still stands!!!

[jmiah]

AAAARRRGGH. I already almost caved. My brain worked without me and siad" just change your quit date buy another can than quit again when you get the patch"(in a singsongy soothing voice)
But No. Or should I . I thnk im too weak to do this cold turkey. Should i gt a patch? I dont know!! Im already 16 hours into my quit.
Fuck I love Grizzly. But I hate that shit!! All of my nails are long and beautiful EXCEPT for my 2 short nasty index finger chew nails.
I love the burn but I absolutely HATE nasty bottles full of slimy viscous chewspit.
If one of those gets dumped its enough to make ya barf. One time my husband saw me with a spitcan Id been using and he said" Uhh I dumped bacon grease in that awhile ago. F'n sick. IM done done done. Right? I dont even have any support but this site. NONE of my family knows. (im a girl so its "taboo" you know?) Hubby has no interest in quitting right now. Ayyy. I AM A STRONG WOMAN. First 3 days are the worst its gonna be. RIGHT?RIGHT?

First 3 days are the worst its gonna be. RIGHT?RIGHT?

Maybe. They were the worst for me but it doesn't really matter. All that matters is today. You can't do shit about tomorrow or yesterday for that matter. You post roll, listen to what other people are telling you, most definitely get Samcat's number (and use it), and keep your promise to the rest of us. We have all been there, some of us more recently than others. We are in the fire together, all of us. Always proud to see a woman step up and admit and quit.

jmiah

[Ready]

Will you grasp the hand offered?

[Souliman]

AAAARRRGGH. I already almost caved. My brain worked without me and siad" just change your quit date buy another can than quit again when you get the patch"(in a singsongy soothing voice)
But No. Or should I . I thnk im too weak to do this cold turkey. Should i gt a patch? I dont know!! Im already 16 hours into my quit.
Fuck I love Grizzly. But I hate that shit!! All of my nails are long and beautiful EXCEPT for my 2 short nasty index finger chew nails.
I love the burn but I absolutely HATE nasty bottles full of slimy viscous chewspit.
If one of those gets dumped its enough to make ya barf. One time my husband saw me with a spitcan Id been using and he said" Uhh I dumped bacon grease in that awhile ago. F'n sick. IM done done done. Right? I dont even have any support but this site. NONE of my family knows. (im a girl so its "taboo" you know?) Hubby has no interest in quitting right now. Ayyy. I AM A STRONG WOMAN. First 3 days are the worst its gonna be. RIGHT?RIGHT?

Listen up Hoochie momma. Why are you asking anyone but yourself if you are done? Do you want to quit? Do you want to live? Here's the thing you have to wrap that Louis Vitton handbag on...when you are sitting alone in the dark, the kids are asleep and the husband is off looking at thai porn, do you see a woman that is strong, in control and making her own path? Do you see her leading her kids to the future? Showing them right and wrong? Showing everyone she can face any problem and overcome? What do you see? I'll support you day and night. I will...I say it all the time but I'm sincere. If someone needs help, my ears are on. But I gotta know you want to live. I gotta here that you are willing to fight to change your life. Its not easy. Why the hell would UST make it easy for you to stop. The didn't. But if you are strong and want to quit, it doesn't matter who tries to get in your way. It doesn't matter who shoves cancer candy in your face and says "have one". You will overcome. Now is the time to quit. It takes one dip...just one...to start the chain reaction of cancer. So keep that in mind. May be that decision to delay is the one that kills you. Doing this will change your life. You will be a new woman. Too long have you lived as a slave. Your free will has been taken from you. Its time to get it back. So stop fucking around. You have your word and you don't want to break it. Cling to that. You are a person with purpose and those types of folks don't just roll over for "just one". Now fight. Dammit. Fight like your life depends on it because it certainly does. I'll fight with you. So will all these folks. You are not alone. Here's a little secret...I was the biggest wuss here...before I quit. Now my nuts can pound 9 inch railroad spikes into cement. That's the power and strength quit has given me. You can have this. You can be the woman you were meant to be. All you have to do is make the decision and then fight.

[Gump]

AAAARRRGGH. I already almost caved.

Unfriggin acceptable. You put your name on roll. You gave me your promise.

Nicotine is off the table today.

No ifs ands or buts!!!

You can do this!!!!

Chewife, this place is for people who are absolutely, totally committed to quitting nicotine. Either you ARE, or you AREN'T. A lot of people would think we should go easier on you because you're a woman.

Screw that. I couldn't care less what body parts you have.

KTC works because we DON'T go easy, on anyone.

If you post your name on roll, that's your commitment to every one of us that, no matter what happens, you WILL NOT USE NICOTINE IN ANY FORM TODAY.

There is no "maybe I should". You swore an oath to us. And we damned well expect you to keep it!

[Keddy]

I can only tell you that the freedom of being quit is worth all the crap you're going through at the moment. This crazy stuff is all part of getting the poison out of your system. You will survive and you will not be nic's slave. You made your promise to not touch nicotine today. You sound like a woman who keeps her word. Give every crave the finger and storm through it. This is the best decision you'll ever make. Believe me.

Find alternative activities. Drink lots of water. Get plenty of exercise.

[RAZD611]

AAAARRRGGH. I already almost caved.

Unfriggin acceptable. You put your name on roll. You gave me your promise.

Nicotine is off the table today.

No ifs ands or buts!!!

You can do this!!!!

[SamCat!!!]

Hello!!! You CAN do this ESPECIALLY because you are a STRONG woman 'winker' I would love to speak to you if you have the time...I'm Cathy!!! I am sending you my phone number...You are NOT alone and you are making the best decsion of your life!!! You will NOT regret doing this!!! Just focus on right now!!! This minute...we can help get you through the rough spots!!!
You're gonna make it...I promise!!! Go get my number and use it whenever you can!!!

[Wild_Bill]

chewife,

DO NOT CAVE!! We have all been through it. PM me or anyone else. Get some phone numbers. Do whatewver you need to do, but don't put a dip in your mouth today. We'll worry about tomorrow when it gets here.Don't use gum or the patch. It does get better, I promise.


You can do thi!

whsii - 22

[luby]

AAAARRRGGH. I already almost caved. My brain worked without me and siad" just change your quit date buy another can than quit again when you get the patch"(in a singsongy soothing voice)
But No. Or should I . I thnk im too weak to do this cold turkey. Should i gt a patch? I dont know!! Im already 16 hours into my quit.
Fuck I love Grizzly. But I hate that shit!! All of my nails are long and beautiful EXCEPT for my 2 short nasty index finger chew nails.
I love the burn but I absolutely HATE nasty bottles full of slimy viscous chewspit.
If one of those gets dumped its enough to make ya barf. One time my husband saw me with a spitcan Id been using and he said" Uhh I dumped bacon grease in that awhile ago. F'n sick. IM done done done. Right? I dont even have any support but this site. NONE of my family knows. (im a girl so its "taboo" you know?) Hubby has no interest in quitting right now. Ayyy. I AM A STRONG WOMAN. First 3 days are the worst its gonna be. RIGHT?RIGHT?

You got this! You are so done! I am NOT gonna lie to you, every day, every hour, every minute, every second you are quit, it just gets better! You got this. You are strong you don't need a stupid patch.