It's not a good idea to try to handle a craving by looking for a store that sells Smokey Mountain.
"Hi, I'm looking for a tobacco substitute called Smokey Mountain - do you know what that is? Their website says your franchise sells it. What does it look like? well, a lot like those cans over there ... no, there ... down a little, next shelf. No, no, I don't want one, I ... uh .. never mind; I'll take this gum, thanks."
I'm glad I didn't try that a couple of days ago. I'll stick with diversions that aren't found in the tobacco section of the store, for a while.
I'm still feeling woozy, but my real trials don't start until the heavy fighting is over and the boredom sets in. I actually enjoy feeling crappy. It means I'm getting stronger. That's true, but it's also part of the poisonous head-game that keeps me addicted. I like fighting the fog, just like I enjoy swallowing toxic saliva that would make most people vomit. It's a symptom of my sickness.
My average quit is about two months - and like I said before, there've been dozens of those. It's all about some insane mind-game - something about having proven that I could beat it, so I must still be free. I've told myself just as many times, "Wake up moron. You graduated from high school, went through college, got married, had children, teach Sunday School, watched your children get married and read bedtime stories to your grandchildren, all with a plug of horse-crap in your face. Your life story is more about chew than it is about any other single thing. Free because you can quit? what a joke. You're only free if you can keep from starting again."
That's the truth, too, and the truth helps. But my weakness isn't that I'm ignorant of what's really going on. My weakness is that sometime soon, maybe in the next few weeks - maybe it will take months, I just won't care. It's just a moment of numbness and thoughtlessness, but that's all it takes to knock me back to Day 1.
This is the first time I've ever tried to quit with help. I never liked to admit that I used tobacco, I like it even less to admit that I'm quitting. But, I can already see ways that the pattern has been broken. I see why it makes sense for me now. We all stop caring for just a minute, but the group can't do that. I'll have off days, but the group is always on. When the time comes that I need it to work for me, I have good reasons to think that will happen. If nobody reads this, fine - I still know this is true. I've been watching it work.
I just needed to think out loud, to file down the edges that the gum can't deal with. These first weeks are all about equipping for the long siege to come, to plan against the boredom, the complacence, the secretly-formed plans to surrender. So, thanks for providing me a place to collect my provisions.
Ninereasons - Day 7