Erik,
I can't really top the advice that you have been given by some of my quit brothers but I can tell you that there are several alternatives to chew that you can use. I used Hooch as it most closely felt and tasted like the Copenhagen that I stuffed in between my cheek and gum for 24 years. Here is a list of alternatives and the links
Smokeless Alternatives. However, without another weed-like substitute cinnamon candies work great (hot tamales, red hots, atomic fireballs, etc.).
Drink lots of water, over hydrate; if you can pass a urinal without having to go you are nto taking in enough water.
Read all that this site has to offer, show you wife, include her but again make this quit all about you. You need to read your "addict babble" and learn to identify it as such, "I am quitting for my wife" means that there is an excuse or a place to put blame when it fails. Unless your wife made you dip at gunpoint then quit for you.
Meet some fellow quitters and quit being weak.
P