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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #160 on: August 06, 2015, 11:20:00 PM »
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If that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.
Sorry KN. This is nothing to do with quit. But getting my business off the ground. They want me to go back to a 9-5 salaried position, it is safe. Not that every job I ever had made me miserable.
Gotcha. Nonetheless, I quit with you anyway, and good luck with the business stuff.
Thanks KN.

I am finding that I am almost reverting in away. About this point a year ago, I used the boards to share my thoughts and ideas. Not for any great purpose or reasoning, but just as a place to capture them.

Both Mcarmo and Wastepanel said it that there is an ebb and flow to activity here. I am really finding that to be true. But the phrase that stands out to me is that KTC is what you need when you need it. Believe it or not that is from Mcarmo.

I am truely frustrated and disappointed with myself for things that I can not control or change. I can not create money or business when there is none. Everyone says its a number game or just push through. I want to, I want to stay at Aflac. For the first time in my life I own my business. But it takes time. Time is something a stressed wife doesn't want to give me.
It is difficult when you have deeply ingrained morals, values, and expectations. So when you find something that meets all three and you can see that there is great potential, but the wife wants you give it up for instant finical security. What do you do?
There are no circumstances in which using nicotine will improve the outcome.

My journey. The best part it is not over yet.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #159 on: August 06, 2015, 01:44:00 PM »
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If that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.
Sorry KN. This is nothing to do with quit. But getting my business off the ground. They want me to go back to a 9-5 salaried position, it is safe. Not that every job I ever had made me miserable.
Gotcha. Nonetheless, I quit with you anyway, and good luck with the business stuff.
"Fuck nicotine dude. You don't need it. And you don't want it. It didn't do a thing for you and you know it." - worktowin
"today you dissided that shit wont control your life. and it wont. unless you let it." - drome
"Not thinking about nicotine is for people who've never used nicotine. We threw that option away with the first dip or drag on a cigarette. We are addicts, and cannot become un-addicted." - wildirish317
"You need to decide how much you really want to be quit." - pky1520
We are always at risk. And probably always will be. That is why I will never get "too quit" to post my +1. Every. Damn. Day. - geis2597

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Quit: 7/10/15, HOF: 10/17/15, 2nd Floor: 1/25/16, 3rd Floor: 5/4/16, 1 year: 7/10/16 4th Floor: 8/12/16, 5th Floor: 11/20/16, 6th Floor: 2/28/17, 7th Floor: 6/8/17, 2 years: 7/10/17, 8th Floor: 9/16/17, 9th Floor: 12/25/17, Comma: 4/4/18, 3 years: 7/10/18, 11th Floor: 7/13/18

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #158 on: August 06, 2015, 01:36:00 PM »
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If that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.
Sorry KN. This is nothing to do with quit. But getting my business off the ground. They want me to go back to a 9-5 salaried position, it is safe. Not that every job I ever had made me miserable.
There are no circumstances in which using nicotine will improve the outcome.

My journey. The best part it is not over yet.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #157 on: August 06, 2015, 01:13:00 PM »
If that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.
"Fuck nicotine dude. You don't need it. And you don't want it. It didn't do a thing for you and you know it." - worktowin
"today you dissided that shit wont control your life. and it wont. unless you let it." - drome
"Not thinking about nicotine is for people who've never used nicotine. We threw that option away with the first dip or drag on a cigarette. We are addicts, and cannot become un-addicted." - wildirish317
"You need to decide how much you really want to be quit." - pky1520
We are always at risk. And probably always will be. That is why I will never get "too quit" to post my +1. Every. Damn. Day. - geis2597

Intro
Freedom Tastes So Good

Quit: 7/10/15, HOF: 10/17/15, 2nd Floor: 1/25/16, 3rd Floor: 5/4/16, 1 year: 7/10/16 4th Floor: 8/12/16, 5th Floor: 11/20/16, 6th Floor: 2/28/17, 7th Floor: 6/8/17, 2 years: 7/10/17, 8th Floor: 9/16/17, 9th Floor: 12/25/17, Comma: 4/4/18, 3 years: 7/10/18, 11th Floor: 7/13/18

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #156 on: August 06, 2015, 01:06:00 PM »
Day 380

I hate the what if mental games. Asking for favors makes me feel like I cant do this on my own. Especially from family and friends.
My family doesn't ever ask anyone for help or favors. You do it on your own. Your veiwed poorly if you do.
So god forbid you reach out to someone for help. You are weak you wait for someone offers help to you. And I am the worst guy because I turned down help, to do a job I don't want.
I am ruining my life, because I am weak and need help. Fuk them.
There are no circumstances in which using nicotine will improve the outcome.

My journey. The best part it is not over yet.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #155 on: August 05, 2015, 11:09:00 AM »
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Yesterday I had a tough day as far as my addiction went. It wasn't craves. I have had craves that literally brought me to my knees. That wasn't it. These were persistent thoughts...like a dip would taste great. If I have one I will be able to focus better. Why not? Just take my lumps and move on.

Guess what I pulled over and read KTC for almost an hour in a target parking lot. This is a constant reminder of the choices and actions we make. I choose to ignore those thoughts. I choose to honor my word. I put my quit above myselfish indulgence.

Make the right choice and embrace the hard choices. Those hard choices, may not pay off today or tomorrow, they will pay off in the long term. When you choose to reflect on the series of events that have happened you will realize why we do what we do here and how it pays off. I made it to post another +1, that is a huge vicotry no matter your day count.
With you Candy man and thanks again for being there for me last night. Not in that way, but you know to help a brother pull through. Sick, not like that either. Anyway, thanks again bro, it won't soon be forgotten.
"Fuck nicotine dude. You don't need it. And you don't want it. It didn't do a thing for you and you know it." - worktowin
"today you dissided that shit wont control your life. and it wont. unless you let it." - drome
"Not thinking about nicotine is for people who've never used nicotine. We threw that option away with the first dip or drag on a cigarette. We are addicts, and cannot become un-addicted." - wildirish317
"You need to decide how much you really want to be quit." - pky1520
We are always at risk. And probably always will be. That is why I will never get "too quit" to post my +1. Every. Damn. Day. - geis2597

Intro
Freedom Tastes So Good

Quit: 7/10/15, HOF: 10/17/15, 2nd Floor: 1/25/16, 3rd Floor: 5/4/16, 1 year: 7/10/16 4th Floor: 8/12/16, 5th Floor: 11/20/16, 6th Floor: 2/28/17, 7th Floor: 6/8/17, 2 years: 7/10/17, 8th Floor: 9/16/17, 9th Floor: 12/25/17, Comma: 4/4/18, 3 years: 7/10/18, 11th Floor: 7/13/18

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #154 on: August 05, 2015, 09:46:00 AM »
Yesterday I had a tough day as far as my addiction went. It wasn't craves. I have had craves that literally brought me to my knees. That wasn't it. These were persistent thoughts...like a dip would taste great. If I have one I will be able to focus better. Why not? Just take my lumps and move on.

Guess what I pulled over and read KTC for almost an hour in a target parking lot. This is a constant reminder of the choices and actions we make. I choose to ignore those thoughts. I choose to honor my word. I put my quit above myselfish indulgence.

Make the right choice and embrace the hard choices. Those hard choices, may not pay off today or tomorrow, they will pay off in the long term. When you choose to reflect on the series of events that have happened you will realize why we do what we do here and how it pays off. I made it to post another +1, that is a huge vicotry no matter your day count.
There are no circumstances in which using nicotine will improve the outcome.

My journey. The best part it is not over yet.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #153 on: August 04, 2015, 09:27:00 AM »
Today I am 378 days quit. Yet another feel closer to one month quit than on my 13th month.

Not craving like I will lick an ashtray. But constantly thinking about it. I made my promise and fight like hell everyday to keep it. I grow weary of those that either don't take this seriously or find no purpose in being here.

Those that read this that are less than 100 days. Do not get discouraged or think that it is impossible. You are looking at the sum of all the daily promises I have made.

Those that are greater than 100, you need to be here to keep the tools sharp. You never know what today holds. Plan all you want, however she does not follow your plan, and never will.

She feeds on weakness and exploits it every chance she gets. Just as water through many cycles of freezing and thawing can fracture mountains, she can destroy a quit with the same patience.
There are no circumstances in which using nicotine will improve the outcome.

My journey. The best part it is not over yet.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #152 on: August 02, 2015, 11:24:00 PM »
There always has to be a tipping point. The question is what happens when we reach that point?

Alot of times we back pedal to the safe comfortable zone. For us addicts that is right back into a slow game of Russian roulette with a can.

That voice is the same one that makes us stay in jobs, relationships, routines, and many other things, it is fear.

Fear of Change. Fear of Failure. Fear of Making a Mistake. Fear of the Wrong Choice. Fear of Regret.

I have found that you have to do two things at this point.
1. Determine how much you want it.
2. Embrace the fear.

Fear is normal. However the ability to use fear to become successful, is abnormal. Embracing fear leads to success. Running to safety only perpatuates the norm.
There are no circumstances in which using nicotine will improve the outcome.

My journey. The best part it is not over yet.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #151 on: July 26, 2015, 09:56:00 AM »
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Congratulations on 1 year!
1 year 10 years just keep doing what you're doing its needed! Congratulations my friend!
Congrats Cando!!!
Congratulations on your milestone of 1 year!
Enjoy it and here's to quitting with you today!
You have helped so many... but I thank you for helping me.

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Candi on a sweetride to quitsville!Thanks for everything you do for the newbies, Cando. It goes a long way and is much appreciated. Hope all is well with your new biz. Proud to quit with you today.
You rock, my intellectually stellar quit-friend!! Does my heart good to see you sharing the quit wisdom as far and wide as the eye can see. You, sir, are truly a BAQ.
Congrats on your journey around the sun! You've helped make quite a few lives better.
Congrats Candy! You are the man. When anyone doubts you just recall this. "Bitch please. I'm the Candy Man" 'archer'
Congratulations Candy! Thanks for the help along the way!!
Congrats Candy on your Orbit around the Sun nicotine free. You are a Quit Behemoth around these parts, constantly bringing the Truth to the newer groups, laying down the law when needed, and giving inspiration at the right intervals of struggle.... your Leadership has not gone unnoticed, that's for sure... Here's to 400!

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #150 on: July 26, 2015, 03:07:00 AM »
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Congratulations on 1 year!
1 year 10 years just keep doing what you're doing its needed! Congratulations my friend!
Congrats Cando!!!
Congratulations on your milestone of 1 year!
Enjoy it and here's to quitting with you today!
You have helped so many... but I thank you for helping me.

'chief'

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Candi on a sweetride to quitsville!Thanks for everything you do for the newbies, Cando. It goes a long way and is much appreciated. Hope all is well with your new biz. Proud to quit with you today.
You rock, my intellectually stellar quit-friend!! Does my heart good to see you sharing the quit wisdom as far and wide as the eye can see. You, sir, are truly a BAQ.
Congrats on your journey around the sun! You've helped make quite a few lives better.
Congrats Candy! You are the man. When anyone doubts you just recall this. "Bitch please. I'm the Candy Man" 'archer'
Congratulations Candy! Thanks for the help along the way!!

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #149 on: July 25, 2015, 10:00:00 PM »
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Congratulations on 1 year!
1 year 10 years just keep doing what you're doing its needed! Congratulations my friend!
Congrats Cando!!!
Congratulations on your milestone of 1 year!
Enjoy it and here's to quitting with you today!
You have helped so many... but I thank you for helping me.

'chief'

'party2'
Candi on a sweetride to quitsville!Thanks for everything you do for the newbies, Cando. It goes a long way and is much appreciated. Hope all is well with your new biz. Proud to quit with you today.
You rock, my intellectually stellar quit-friend!! Does my heart good to see you sharing the quit wisdom as far and wide as the eye can see. You, sir, are truly a BAQ.
Congrats on your journey around the sun! You've helped make quite a few lives better.
Congrats Candy! You are the man. When anyone doubts you just recall this. "Bitch please. I'm the Candy Man" 'archer'

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #148 on: July 24, 2015, 09:03:00 PM »
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Congratulations on 1 year!
1 year 10 years just keep doing what you're doing its needed! Congratulations my friend!
Congrats Cando!!!
Congratulations on your milestone of 1 year!
Enjoy it and here's to quitting with you today!
You have helped so many... but I thank you for helping me.

'chief'

'party2'
Candi on a sweetride to quitsville!Thanks for everything you do for the newbies, Cando. It goes a long way and is much appreciated. Hope all is well with your new biz. Proud to quit with you today.
You rock, my intellectually stellar quit-friend!! Does my heart good to see you sharing the quit wisdom as far and wide as the eye can see. You, sir, are truly a BAQ.
Congrats on your journey around the sun! You've helped make quite a few lives better.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #147 on: July 22, 2015, 01:56:00 PM »
Congrats bro! Your a Bad Ass and I appreciate the role you have played in my quit.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #146 on: July 22, 2015, 12:23:00 PM »
Quote from: KingNothing
Quote from: ChickDip
Quote from: trigerhapy
Quote from: pab1964
Quote from: invader
Congratulations on 1 year!
1 year 10 years just keep doing what you're doing its needed! Congratulations my friend!
Congrats Cando!!!
Congratulations on your milestone of 1 year!
Enjoy it and here's to quitting with you today!
You have helped so many... but I thank you for helping me.

'chief'

'party2'
Candi on a sweetride to quitsville!Thanks for everything you do for the newbies, Cando. It goes a long way and is much appreciated. Hope all is well with your new biz. Proud to quit with you today.
You rock, my intellectually stellar quit-friend!! Does my heart good to see you sharing the quit wisdom as far and wide as the eye can see. You, sir, are truly a BAQ.