This Time Is For Real

[Thumblewort]

Are you a religious person?

When I am down - especially with money issues ( the last 5 years of my life) - I always look at what I do have. Do I have enough food for my family, fresh water, and roof over my head? Yes? Then I have it better than 60% of the world. You live in the US, and what I hope is a safe part of the country - bonus! Start there, and pull yourself up.

[I'm done with chew]

I am so broken right now. I don't know how to deal with anything. It is my fault the marriage fell apart. We talked again for a while last night.

It comes down to the fact that I am broken and lost. She said that I am going through this "mid life crisis" and she can not do it. "What ever happened to the person you were? What did that woman (my boss last boss) do to you? You used to be confident and social, now you are a hermit and weak. I have to protect the girls and right now we can't do that. I don't know if our marriage can be saved, but you need to fix you before anything else."

I don't know how to fix me. I am out of ideas, I saught professional help before and it didn't help. I don't know even where to begin.

I wish I could say something witty here, But all I have is my sympathy. Call or text if you need ANYTHING. QLF with you today.

[Candoit]

I am so broken right now. I don't know how to deal with anything. It is my fault the marriage fell apart. We talked again for a while last night.

It comes down to the fact that I am broken and lost. She said that I am going through this "mid life crisis" and she can not do it. "What ever happened to the person you were? What did that woman (my boss last boss) do to you? You used to be confident and social, now you are a hermit and weak. I have to protect the girls and right now we can't do that. I don't know if our marriage can be saved, but you need to fix you before anything else."

I don't know how to fix me. I am out of ideas, I saught professional help before and it didn't help. I don't know even where to begin.

[DWEIRICK]

Stay strong Brother and I'm here if you need anything. I look up to you in this fight you are a pillar here at KTC keep doing what you do!!!

[Candoit]

Everyone here will face a serious challenge to their quit and their resolve to stay quit. Let me lay out a time line for you all...

July 17, 2014 - I go from being a ninja dipper to full out i dont give a fuck.
July 23, 2014 - I quit after I heard myself put dip ahead of my children.
1st weekend in August, 2014 wife and I go away and try to start to rebuild relationship
Oct 30, 2014 hit hall of fame
Nov 14, 2014 get a call from by boss saying we need to talk
Nov 16, 2014 asks for my letter of resignation
Nov 20, 2014 I refuse to turn it in and desicide to fight it

In between these two days, it is a daily fight with axenity, depression, and for my own confindnce. I ended up filing harassment and bullying charges against the school system.

Feb 26, 2015 I am given my remainder of my contract pay, and told to stay home.

In between these dates I find out some very meaningful things. Being dad is more important than any title. And I have been blacklisted and cannot get an interview in the state of CT for education. Take a position with AFLAC because it felt like it fit and I was in control.

June 30, 2015 last day of my pay

So no pay...work like a dog building my network. My relationship with my wife "begins" to melt down.

August 12, 2015 My wife tells me that the relationship is beyond repair. We talked for almost 60 min. The longest we have talked about us in a very long time. We have agreed to seek conseling, but don't know that if it will work. We realized that this has been swept under the rug for almost 4.5 years. The issue of no money coming in brought it to a head.

Guess what my first thought was? I should go buy a can because she doesn't care any more. Guess what Nic Bitch 'finger point' fuk u I am quit.

The moral of this is life happens and I gave all of you my word that I will be here to post 387 days quit.

[Candoit]

If that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.

Sorry KN. This is nothing to do with quit. But getting my business off the ground. They want me to go back to a 9-5 salaried position, it is safe. Not that every job I ever had made me miserable.

Gotcha. Nonetheless, I quit with you anyway, and good luck with the business stuff.

Thanks KN.

I am finding that I am almost reverting in away. About this point a year ago, I used the boards to share my thoughts and ideas. Not for any great purpose or reasoning, but just as a place to capture them.

Both Mcarmo and Wastepanel said it that there is an ebb and flow to activity here. I am really finding that to be true. But the phrase that stands out to me is that KTC is what you need when you need it. Believe it or not that is from Mcarmo.

I am truely frustrated and disappointed with myself for things that I can not control or change. I can not create money or business when there is none. Everyone days its a number game or just push through. I want to, I want to stay at Aflac. For the first time in my life I own my business. But it takes time. Time is something a stressed wife doesn't want to give me.

You started a business? What kind of business? I don't know what its like to start a business and because of that not have steady money coming in but I feel for you. What does it take to start seeing some revenue? I may not have the answers but maybe someone at KTC who reads this might have some pointers to offer? Or direction? Your a bad ass and have proven that hard work and perseverance will get you where you need to go. Hold your head high. Karma will come back to bless you.

It's not easy. On the one hand, you have your wife to take care of and make sure she's provided for. On the other hand, just like you can't quit dip for her, sometimes you have to make some decisions for you as well.

This is not an easy one, but I will say this. Whatever the decision, you and your wife both have to live with and deal with the consequences because it will affect both of you. I'm sure you've already done so, but maybe a nice quiet dinner out on the town where you can have a conversation for an hour or so and really hash out the pros and cons to both sides. It has to be a team decision, because if it's not, somebody is going to feel slighted.

It may also help to not just make the decision for the present. For example, maybe stick with Aflac for another year with the promise from your wife that a year from now, she'll go balls deep with you on your own business. Something like that where everybody wins.

Anyway, hope this helps Candy.

I am a 1099 employee for AFLAC at 100% commission. It is built on educating people, selling and keeping a promise.

I am my own boss, I make my own hours, I get out what I put in. The fast successes here have a "warm" market that they can sell to. I do have a "warm" market however it is school systems. Those are at least 8 - 12 months worth of work before I see any money. Therefore I do not have a warm market, so I am building this from ground zero. I have built and filled my pipeline, but yet to close any accounts. So no closed accounts no money.

I need to close accounts. IDWC I am not asking for anyone to buy something from me, I do not feel right about it. I am always looking for someone to sit down and have a conversation, they just have to be in CT.

I came to this job, because I need to work for me and/or someone that shares the same values and sense of service as I have. I have found that in AFLAC, I can not believe how much I believe in their product and company, only after 2 months. I don't want to walk away, but I cant pay bills on beliefs and morals.

[KingNothing]

If that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.

Sorry KN. This is nothing to do with quit. But getting my business off the ground. They want me to go back to a 9-5 salaried position, it is safe. Not that every job I ever had made me miserable.

Gotcha. Nonetheless, I quit with you anyway, and good luck with the business stuff.

Thanks KN.

I am finding that I am almost reverting in away. About this point a year ago, I used the boards to share my thoughts and ideas. Not for any great purpose or reasoning, but just as a place to capture them.

Both Mcarmo and Wastepanel said it that there is an ebb and flow to activity here. I am really finding that to be true. But the phrase that stands out to me is that KTC is what you need when you need it. Believe it or not that is from Mcarmo.

I am truely frustrated and disappointed with myself for things that I can not control or change. I can not create money or business when there is none. Everyone days its a number game or just push through. I want to, I want to stay at Aflac. For the first time in my life I own my business. But it takes time. Time is something a stressed wife doesn't want to give me.

You started a business? What kind of business? I don't know what its like to start a business and because of that not have steady money coming in but I feel for you. What does it take to start seeing some revenue? I may not have the answers but maybe someone at KTC who reads this might have some pointers to offer? Or direction? Your a bad ass and have proven that hard work and perseverance will get you where you need to go. Hold your head high. Karma will come back to bless you.

It's not easy. On the one hand, you have your wife to take care of and make sure she's provided for. On the other hand, just like you can't quit dip for her, sometimes you have to make some decisions for you as well.

This is not an easy one, but I will say this. Whatever the decision, you and your wife both have to live with and deal with the consequences because it will affect both of you. I'm sure you've already done so, but maybe a nice quiet dinner out on the town where you can have a conversation for an hour or so and really hash out the pros and cons to both sides. It has to be a team decision, because if it's not, somebody is going to feel slighted.

It may also help to not just make the decision for the present. For example, maybe stick with Aflac for another year with the promise from your wife that a year from now, she'll go balls deep with you on your own business. Something like that where everybody wins.

Anyway, hope this helps Candy.

[I'm done with chew]

If that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.

Sorry KN. This is nothing to do with quit. But getting my business off the ground. They want me to go back to a 9-5 salaried position, it is safe. Not that every job I ever had made me miserable.

Gotcha. Nonetheless, I quit with you anyway, and good luck with the business stuff.

Thanks KN.

I am finding that I am almost reverting in away. About this point a year ago, I used the boards to share my thoughts and ideas. Not for any great purpose or reasoning, but just as a place to capture them.

Both Mcarmo and Wastepanel said it that there is an ebb and flow to activity here. I am really finding that to be true. But the phrase that stands out to me is that KTC is what you need when you need it. Believe it or not that is from Mcarmo.

I am truely frustrated and disappointed with myself for things that I can not control or change. I can not create money or business when there is none. Everyone days its a number game or just push through. I want to, I want to stay at Aflac. For the first time in my life I own my business. But it takes time. Time is something a stressed wife doesn't want to give me.

You started a business? What kind of business? I don't know what its like to start a business and because of that not have steady money coming in but I feel for you. What does it take to start seeing some revenue? I may not have the answers but maybe someone at KTC who reads this might have some pointers to offer? Or direction? Your a bad ass and have proven that hard work and perseverance will get you where you need to go. Hold your head high. Karma will come back to bless you.

[Candoit]

If that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.

Sorry KN. This is nothing to do with quit. But getting my business off the ground. They want me to go back to a 9-5 salaried position, it is safe. Not that every job I ever had made me miserable.

Gotcha. Nonetheless, I quit with you anyway, and good luck with the business stuff.

Thanks KN.

I am finding that I am almost reverting in away. About this point a year ago, I used the boards to share my thoughts and ideas. Not for any great purpose or reasoning, but just as a place to capture them.

Both Mcarmo and Wastepanel said it that there is an ebb and flow to activity here. I am really finding that to be true. But the phrase that stands out to me is that KTC is what you need when you need it. Believe it or not that is from Mcarmo.

I am truely frustrated and disappointed with myself for things that I can not control or change. I can not create money or business when there is none. Everyone says its a number game or just push through. I want to, I want to stay at Aflac. For the first time in my life I own my business. But it takes time. Time is something a stressed wife doesn't want to give me.
It is difficult when you have deeply ingrained morals, values, and expectations. So when you find something that meets all three and you can see that there is great potential, but the wife wants you give it up for instant finical security. What do you do?

[KingNothing]

If that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.

Sorry KN. This is nothing to do with quit. But getting my business off the ground. They want me to go back to a 9-5 salaried position, it is safe. Not that every job I ever had made me miserable.

Gotcha. Nonetheless, I quit with you anyway, and good luck with the business stuff.

[Candoit]

If that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.

Sorry KN. This is nothing to do with quit. But getting my business off the ground. They want me to go back to a 9-5 salaried position, it is safe. Not that every job I ever had made me miserable.

[KingNothing]

If that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.

[Candoit]

Day 380

I hate the what if mental games. Asking for favors makes me feel like I cant do this on my own. Especially from family and friends.
My family doesn't ever ask anyone for help or favors. You do it on your own. Your veiwed poorly if you do.
So god forbid you reach out to someone for help. You are weak you wait for someone offers help to you. And I am the worst guy because I turned down help, to do a job I don't want.
I am ruining my life, because I am weak and need help. Fuk them.

[KingNothing]

Yesterday I had a tough day as far as my addiction went. It wasn't craves. I have had craves that literally brought me to my knees. That wasn't it. These were persistent thoughts...like a dip would taste great. If I have one I will be able to focus better. Why not? Just take my lumps and move on.

Guess what I pulled over and read KTC for almost an hour in a target parking lot. This is a constant reminder of the choices and actions we make. I choose to ignore those thoughts. I choose to honor my word. I put my quit above myselfish indulgence.

Make the right choice and embrace the hard choices. Those hard choices, may not pay off today or tomorrow, they will pay off in the long term. When you choose to reflect on the series of events that have happened you will realize why we do what we do here and how it pays off. I made it to post another +1, that is a huge vicotry no matter your day count.

With you Candy man and thanks again for being there for me last night. Not in that way, but you know to help a brother pull through. Sick, not like that either. Anyway, thanks again bro, it won't soon be forgotten.

[Candoit]

Yesterday I had a tough day as far as my addiction went. It wasn't craves. I have had craves that literally brought me to my knees. That wasn't it. These were persistent thoughts...like a dip would taste great. If I have one I will be able to focus better. Why not? Just take my lumps and move on.

Guess what I pulled over and read KTC for almost an hour in a target parking lot. This is a constant reminder of the choices and actions we make. I choose to ignore those thoughts. I choose to honor my word. I put my quit above myselfish indulgence.

Make the right choice and embrace the hard choices. Those hard choices, may not pay off today or tomorrow, they will pay off in the long term. When you choose to reflect on the series of events that have happened you will realize why we do what we do here and how it pays off. I made it to post another +1, that is a huge vicotry no matter your day count.