This Time Is For Real

[Candoit]

I am done, my give a damn is tapped out.

I do not care what you do.
I do not care what you believe.
I do not care how you live.
I do not care who took a knee and who didn't.
I do not care if you agree with Trump or not.
I do not care if you are offended by what others do or say.

I am not apologizing for being born a white male.
I am not apologizing for being raised in a house with both parents.
I am not apologizing for being raised with a healthy fear of God.
I am not apologizing for being taught that sweat is free.
I am not apologizing for letting my morals guide me.
I am not apologizing for anything that I did not do.

I control me.
I control my actions.
I control my reactions.

I accept that I will say and do things that will offended others.
I accept that I will not make everyone happy.
I accept that everyone will not agree with me 100% of the time.
I accept the fact that people have different values and opinions than my own.

You want me to listen to you?
You want me to respect your prospective?
You want me to understand?

Do not force me to take your side based on guilt.
Do not force me to tell you that your right based on some category.
Do not force me to play your games of microagessions and hurt feelings.
Do not point fingers at anyone but yourself.

I will find my opinion of the situation, based on what you and others have said.
My opinion maybe different than yours.
My opinions is mine and no two opinions are exactly the same.

Learn to accept that and we will begin to find that there is a lot more in common than anyone believes.

[Candoit]

My thoughts on the last bit of drama. (Monkeater  Oct 17)
Fades to black.... We are in the kitchen at the 2014 Group Home.... Noise in the background of moving chairs and clicking glasses.
Candoit - Damn it! Cavman where you put the Kool aid?
Cavman - There is a keg of the blue in the basement.
Candoit - That was here when we moved in. I don't trust something that pre dates Syndrome. Where's the red?
Cavman - I think it's next to the keg o' rator then.
Candoit - Walking around the corner into the denFor fuk sake! FishFlorida (displaced by the hurricane) just because it's hotter than balls and you have no power doesn't mean you can ice down your balls on the keg. Make yourself somewhat useful and help move the keg to the porch.
FishFlorida - Candy don't get your quit in a twist. I will clean up afterwards.
Candoit - Using FLLIPOUT's cat to wipe your balls doesn't count, besides that's the only pussy you can get.
FishFlorida - FU CDI
Candoit - let's get this done, so you can get back to what ever it is that you do around here.
FishFlorida and Candoit move the keg to the porch. There is a hiss and a click as the keg is tapped.
Cavman helps himself the first glass.
Candoit - What in the Quit, Cav! Always showing up after the works done.
Cavman - Its a union job and I am the supervisor. When you going to figure that out?
Candoit - Cav you must lick car batteries for living. Candoit turns to yard and whistles towards the 2017 block
Candoit - yelling Hey Commies' I just tapped a keg. Turning away, mumbling something about new quitters.
October 17 comes pouring through the gate, in the middle of the crowd, Broccoli, Samrs, ProHunter and DavidS sneak in.
Cavman - Hey FishFace! Get your ban hammer ready we have a few stow aways.
FishFlorida - You know I can't do that.
Cavman - They don't know that.
FishFlorida - Oh! Runs into the house. Banging and clanking come from inside. Runs out side with the end of a broken fishing pole.The best I can do. Holds it up and shakes it at Samr's.
Samrs - Fish no one needs to see you playing with your rod.
FishFlorida - Samrs, I ban you!
Samrs - Fish your about as effective the banjo minnow.
FishFlorida - That was low.
Samrs - Well you make too easy.
FishFlorida - Yeah.... Grabs a cup of Kool aid and goes to a chair on the porch, playing with his broken rod.
Cavman - Mr. C you going fill me and or them in in why we tapped the keg?
Candoit - Pounds the first glass of Kool aid and pours #2 Cav the drama and avoidance of the drama.
Cavman - Oh! October quitters are usually sharp. But they are about 20 days behind.
Candoit - At least they got it, September gets lost trying to find the quote button.
Cavman - Listen we straightened Jubs out, took alot of Hortons and Molsen Ice, but it got done.
Candoit - The goats or Jubs?
Cavman - Red for fuk sake.
Candoit - That's what I am asking.
Cavman - Molsen Ice was involved.
Candoit - Noted. walks over to the stairs and sits down Commies' listen we all get tired of the drama, but you all need to realize that it is a necessary part of quitting. everyone pulls up a seat around the porch. A loud thud comes from the house. Candoit stands up and looks up at the second floor. Sweet baby Jesus, Flaw! Stop licking the windows we have guests. a low squel is heard as Flaw's face is falling to the bottom of the window I apologise for that. We are all addicts that realized we where never in control of your lives.
Canstopwillstop - What ya mean?
Cavman - You all used to always make sure you had a can on you? With a back up?
Candoit - How many of you put old cans together to get at least 1 more?
Cschilling1 - I know I did grumbling of agreement
Candoit - Why? Because you were hard up and needed a fix.
Cavman - We got walked around by our short hairs by the nic bitch.
Willy75 - What does this have to do with drama?
Cavman - Everything.
Candoit - When we hang on to any illusion of control we will do anything to keep it. So when someone challenges that reality.
Sayingadios - We come out swinging.
Beckyt85 - They start causing drama to distract from the fact.
FishFlorida - Pulling a Hillary?
Candoit - Yes, but pulling Hillary's rod all on you. I am sure that Slick Willy will have no problem with it.
Jacobmldn - So when some special butterflies come in blowing a blizzard vs Hillary they are
Oliver88 - cutting back on the extra protein? Cavman shoots Kool aid out of his nose.
Candoit - Not bad Oliver, nicely done. To you point Jacobmldn, they are covering or trying to have some control over something.
Jacobmldn - so because they can't control their own lives, they cause drama to have some control over something?
Candoit - 99% correct. It is all of us.
Cavman - wiping his shirt off, leaving a big red stripe. He looks down and shakes his head and smiles At least its not spit juice. But Candy is right. Drama, or avoidance of, is always someone's open door or excuse to leave. Life is always going to have drama. We can not run from it because we dont want to face it.
Candoit - KTC is always helping you get ready, sharping your tools.
GrizzlySlave - Like Cav and his goats?
Candoit - Exactly!
Blackjp4dr - How are we to face drama in person if we can't handle it online?
Candoit - Standing up and high fiving Blackjp4dr Damn fukn straight. When you realize and embrace that you have started to regain control of your life in a positive manner.
Cavman - You can't gain control til you let go of it. You see Loud chant from down the street gets louder and louder, drowning out Cavman as he continues to talk Toga! Toga! Toga!
Candoit - turning to FishFlorida Did you text Oct 16?
FishFlorida - putting his rod down- Maybe
Candoit - We are done Commrads. I can not be responsible for the tire fire that is about to insue. Waving to Cavman Let's go get the blue Kool aid for the DF and tell them it's Ecto Cooler.

[pky1520]

'Birthday' cando!

Yesterday was the 4th birthday nicotine free. Spent the day with the family.

Helped the inlaws with their car show.
Went shopping with the girls and ended up with another dog... A havanse puppy 10 weeks old.

Puppy vs thickness planer.... My 9  6 yr olds won out in the end.

Enjoy the new addition to the family!

[Candoit]

'Birthday' cando!

Yesterday was the 4th birthday nicotine free. Spent the day with the family.

Helped the inlaws with their car show.
Went shopping with the girls and ended up with another dog... A havanse puppy 10 weeks old.

Puppy vs thickness planer.... My 9  6 yr olds won out in the end.

[ChickDip]

'Birthday' cando!

[Dagranger]

I am so broken right now. I don't know how to deal with anything. It is my fault the marriage fell apart. We talked again for a while last night.

It comes down to the fact that I am broken and lost. She said that I am going through this "mid life crisis" and she can not do it. "What ever happened to the person you were? What did that woman (my boss last boss) do to you? You used to be confident and social, now you are a hermit and weak. I have to protect the girls and right now we can't do that. I don't know if our marriage can be saved, but you need to fix you before anything else."

I don't know how to fix me. I am out of ideas, I saught professional help before and it didn't help. I don't know even where to begin.

Saturday will be 2 years, 730 +1's. I cannot believe what a difference faith in God, myself and KTC has done for me. I would not be standing, let alone quit with out many of you. I can not ever repay what you all have given me, I truly do thank everyone of you.

Wow! What a climb for you! Glad to have your support, and glad to give you some of my support. Congrats on two years.

[Candoit]

I am so broken right now. I don't know how to deal with anything. It is my fault the marriage fell apart. We talked again for a while last night.

It comes down to the fact that I am broken and lost. She said that I am going through this "mid life crisis" and she can not do it. "What ever happened to the person you were? What did that woman (my boss last boss) do to you? You used to be confident and social, now you are a hermit and weak. I have to protect the girls and right now we can't do that. I don't know if our marriage can be saved, but you need to fix you before anything else."

I don't know how to fix me. I am out of ideas, I saught professional help before and it didn't help. I don't know even where to begin.

Saturday will be 2 years, 730 +1's. I cannot believe what a difference faith in God, myself and KTC has done for me. I would not be standing, let alone quit with out many of you. I can not ever repay what you all have given me, I truly do thank everyone of you.

[CavMan83]

For me..... reference day 1102...

5 days / 6 hours....

Thanks guys, for all the input.

Today was hellish

Today is done! You made it. Stand a little bit taller because you have stayed quit. Tomorrow will be what ever you make it. I have faith that you will be strong enough to make it through. I know this because I am stong enough to help you bear what ever cross you need to.

I don't know if your reglious or not. I don't want to be preachy or pushy, but this is the way I see the help at KTC. A good friend and quitter helped me understand this....
Even Jesus, the son of God, needed help to bear the cross. He did not ask for it, God sent it through those tasked with killing him. Our job is recognize the help He sends and accept it.

You got this.

All Good, Red. All Good. Enjoy your weekend brother and rest up a bit!!

[Candoit]

For me..... reference day 1102...

5 days / 6 hours....

Thanks guys, for all the input.

Today was hellish

Today is done! You made it. Stand a little bit taller because you have stayed quit. Tomorrow will be what ever you make it. I have faith that you will be strong enough to make it through. I know this because I am stong enough to help you bear what ever cross you need to.

I don't know if your reglious or not. I don't want to be preachy or pushy, but this is the way I see the help at KTC. A good friend and quitter helped me understand this....
Even Jesus, the son of God, needed help to bear the cross. He did not ask for it, God sent it through those tasked with killing him. Our job is recognize the help He sends and accept it.

You got this.

[D2maine]

3 YEARS!!!

'party' Congratulations, Candyman, on three fantastic years of quit! 'party'

And thank you for teaching us all what "paying it forward" really looks like. KTC is a far better place because of your passion and leadership!!

'party2' 'party2' 'party2' 'party2'

Congrats on 3 years quit Candi!
Thank you for the support!
Ewe know what Flocking the Herd is call about. ;)

Congrats on 3 years. You've touched a lot of lives. Keep up all you do.

Congrats on 3 years Candoit!

3 years is awesome Candoit! Congratulations!

Congrats on 3 Years!

Way to Go candy, thanks for your support to us quitters sir!

awesome. Kudos

Well done Brother!

Well done, sir!

this right here is awesome! well done!

[Jubs]

3 YEARS!!!

'party' Congratulations, Candyman, on three fantastic years of quit! 'party'

And thank you for teaching us all what "paying it forward" really looks like. KTC is a far better place because of your passion and leadership!!

'party2' 'party2' 'party2' 'party2'

Congrats on 3 years quit Candi!
Thank you for the support!
Ewe know what Flocking the Herd is call about. ;)

Congrats on 3 years. You've touched a lot of lives. Keep up all you do.

Congrats on 3 years Candoit!

3 years is awesome Candoit! Congratulations!

Congrats on 3 Years!

Way to Go candy, thanks for your support to us quitters sir!

awesome. Kudos

Well done Brother!

Well done, sir!

[Rawls]

3 YEARS!!!

'party' Congratulations, Candyman, on three fantastic years of quit! 'party'

And thank you for teaching us all what "paying it forward" really looks like. KTC is a far better place because of your passion and leadership!!

'party2' 'party2' 'party2' 'party2'

Congrats on 3 years quit Candi!
Thank you for the support!
Ewe know what Flocking the Herd is call about. ;)

Congrats on 3 years. You've touched a lot of lives. Keep up all you do.

Congrats on 3 years Candoit!

3 years is awesome Candoit! Congratulations!

Congrats on 3 Years!

Way to Go candy, thanks for your support to us quitters sir!

awesome. Kudos

Well done Brother!

[GrizzlySlave]

3 YEARS!!!

'party' Congratulations, Candyman, on three fantastic years of quit! 'party'

And thank you for teaching us all what "paying it forward" really looks like. KTC is a far better place because of your passion and leadership!!

'party2' 'party2' 'party2' 'party2'

Congrats on 3 years quit Candi!
Thank you for the support!
Ewe know what Flocking the Herd is call about. ;)

Congrats on 3 years. You've touched a lot of lives. Keep up all you do.

Congrats on 3 years Candoit!

3 years is awesome Candoit! Congratulations!

Congrats on 3 Years!

Way to Go candy, thanks for your support to us quitters sir!

awesome. Kudos

[JB65]

3 YEARS!!!

'party' Congratulations, Candyman, on three fantastic years of quit! 'party'

And thank you for teaching us all what "paying it forward" really looks like. KTC is a far better place because of your passion and leadership!!

'party2' 'party2' 'party2' 'party2'

Congrats on 3 years quit Candi!
Thank you for the support!
Ewe know what Flocking the Herd is call about. ;)

Congrats on 3 years. You've touched a lot of lives. Keep up all you do.

Congrats on 3 years Candoit!

3 years is awesome Candoit! Congratulations!

Congrats on 3 Years!

Way to Go candy, thanks for your support to us quitters sir!

[ChristopherJ]

3 YEARS!!!

'party' Congratulations, Candyman, on three fantastic years of quit! 'party'

And thank you for teaching us all what "paying it forward" really looks like. KTC is a far better place because of your passion and leadership!!

'party2' 'party2' 'party2' 'party2'

Congrats on 3 years quit Candi!
Thank you for the support!
Ewe know what Flocking the Herd is call about. ;)

Congrats on 3 years. You've touched a lot of lives. Keep up all you do.

Congrats on 3 years Candoit!

3 years is awesome Candoit! Congratulations!

Congrats on 3 Years!