Day 2

[visamoht]

Day 149 - WOTD - FUCK!
FU nic bitch and and everything else. It all fucking sucks. Fuck, fuck, fuckity, fuck, fuck! It's too damn hot, the people I work for are fucks, my employees are fucks.

'Finger'

Still quit!

[outdoortexan]

I have to admit that the thought of "just one" did cross my mind but I gave it back and reminded him that I don't do that anymore.

'clap' That says it all. Well done 11x4

[11X4]

I was thinking about this last night. I had a shindig at the house yesterday and had quite a few frosty adult beverages. A very close friend of mine threw me a swisher sweet later on in the night. I have to admit that the thought of "just one" did cross my mind but I gave it back and reminded him that I don't do that anymore. As far as the temptation part goes, it's not his fault. He just didn't realize that I am done with nic and not just done with dip.

There is always a lot of discussion on the board about paying it forward, and I do think that its a very important thing to do. But don't forget that you and everyone else pay it "back" just by being here. There have been times where I've gotten the same feelings about putting the board behind me so I can put the thoughts of dip and nic to bed. But it is the relationships that I have formed that would be lost if that path were followed that make me realize I still want to be around. Last night, those relationships keeping me here kept me from having just one swisher sweet. Even at 434 days, I still needed that one little extra thing.

[mule]

Visa, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. We can show every dipper and nicotine addict this site. We can tell them how great it is to be free from addiction. We can give them the tools to succeed. Ultimately its up to the individual to do the dirty work. We can be their leaders, but we can't make them quit. Keep paying it forward those that want to listen will.

Well said Butterball.

The only thing to take personal is your own quit. I try to divide everything in my life into 2 categories.....things i can control.....and things i can't.

If i am unhappy with something enough...i make every effort to improve or make progress to make it better...But others reactions and actions never fall into the "things i can control" column. Due to a little thing called "choice".

Until i signed up on this site...i had categorized my dipping addiction into things i can't control. The only thing you have control over on this site is your quit. You reinforce that quit by "payin it forward" sharing your successes, encouragin when needed...etc. etc.

Bottom line... just like when your loved ones have begged you to quit and you couldn't/wouldn't do it for them.....neither can you expect someone to stay quit for you....it only works if they want it....and different methods work for different folks...That being said, I truly believe that brianb will have a much tougher time on his own than he would involved on this site.

You are definitely doin some good here. Keep it going. Do not back down from helping others every chance you get (just like you have been doing).

Keep your chin up and control your quit.

[Turkey]

Visa, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. We can show every dipper and nicotine addict this site. We can tell them how great it is to be free from addiction. We can give them the tools to succeed. Ultimately its up to the individual to do the dirty work. We can be their leaders, but we can't make them quit. Keep paying it forward those that want to listen will.

[11X4]

Day 125
Angry today after reading BrianB's post about going it alone.  I feel like I let him down, if he does indeed "go it alone".  I have e-mailed him, but I still feel like I should have done more.  If I posted roll in his group yesterday or found a way to connect with him early on, maybe this could be avoided.  It hurts to see a quitter throw away a quit, especially when they tell you they are going to do it.  I am angry I haven't done more to help others with their quit.  It's frustrating.  I know I can't help everyone, but was there something else I could have done?  I have written about paying it forward, but I don't feel like I have done a good job with that yet.  I apologize to any of you who have been lost because I was not able to pay it forward.  I will do better.  For the rest of you, stay quit and pay it forward.

visa,

A wise man once told me you can't take it personal when a quitter fails or decides it isn't right for them. ( Fran Pro) I did connect with brianb on a good level and we chatted several times but he is in charge of his quit and nothing you or I do can to change that. Feel good about those you help! If they stay we have added another quitter to the army, but if they stray it wasn't their time and hopefully they will realize they need to quit before it's to late.

The site exists because great quitters like yourself lay it out there to try to help folks. To try to pass along the knowledge, strength, and experiences you have to help others fight that demon. It's been a while since I mentioned this to anyone, but now seems like an okay time to reiterate it.

I realize that this sounds a little corny but when you offer up support to someone, you are giving a little bit of your quit to them. Their tough times become yours, and more importantly, their success becomes yours. Not everyone is cut out for this quitting thing, but I don't think that's the case with BrianB. I think he'll be back when the funk kicks him in the nuts. And he'll be back because he knows that there are some pretty cool quitters like you to be here to help him along.

Either way, keep on giving that support Visa. If for no other reason than to help your own quit.

[Buckfever36]

Day 125
Angry today after reading BrianB's post about going it alone. I feel like I let him down, if he does indeed "go it alone". I have e-mailed him, but I still feel like I should have done more. If I posted roll in his group yesterday or found a way to connect with him early on, maybe this could be avoided. It hurts to see a quitter throw away a quit, especially when they tell you they are going to do it. I am angry I haven't done more to help others with their quit. It's frustrating. I know I can't help everyone, but was there something else I could have done? I have written about paying it forward, but I don't feel like I have done a good job with that yet. I apologize to any of you who have been lost because I was not able to pay it forward. I will do better. For the rest of you, stay quit and pay it forward.

visa,

A wise man once told me you can't take it personal when a quitter fails or decides it isn't right for them. ( Fran Pro) I did connect with brianb on a good level and we chatted several times but he is in charge of his quit and nothing you or I do can to change that. Feel good about those you help! If they stay we have added another quitter to the army, but if they stray it wasn't their time and hopefully they will realize they need to quit before it's to late.

[visamoht]

Day 125
Angry today after reading BrianB's post about going it alone. I feel like I let him down, if he does indeed "go it alone". I have e-mailed him, but I still feel like I should have done more. If I posted roll in his group yesterday or found a way to connect with him early on, maybe this could be avoided. It hurts to see a quitter throw away a quit, especially when they tell you they are going to do it. I am angry I haven't done more to help others with their quit. It's frustrating. I know I can't help everyone, but was there something else I could have done? I have written about paying it forward, but I don't feel like I have done a good job with that yet. I apologize to any of you who have been lost because I was not able to pay it forward. I will do better. For the rest of you, stay quit and pay it forward.

[Ready]

Day 109 - feel a funk coming on. Posting my thoughts during a funk always seems to help, so I thought I post before I hit full-blown funk. As many have said, I think I'm hitting the post HOF funk. Lost of excitement leading up, including the Boston Meet. I am looking forward to receiving my HOF coin, but other than that I'm 91 days to the 2nd floor. I seem to be in a rut. I am too busy to be able to reach out and do more than post roll in the new groups, but I want to do more. Frustrating! Trouble sleeping in the heat lately, plus staying up late watching the Celtics. Tired! Job chaos starting to ratchet up a notch. Stress! All good flavors of my previous funks. At least I have all you crazy quitters. I feel like I have drifted away a bit. Time for me to make more time for KFC, I mean KTC (sorry, it's lunch time).

Stay close, stay strong, stay quit.

There, that helps a little.

I could have written that a month ago. Hang tuff. It gets way better.

[visamoht]

Day 109 - feel a funk coming on. Posting my thoughts during a funk always seems to help, so I thought I post before I hit full-blown funk. As many have said, I think I'm hitting the post HOF funk. Lost of excitement leading up, including the Boston Meet. I am looking forward to receiving my HOF coin, but other than that I'm 91 days to the 2nd floor. I seem to be in a rut. I am too busy to be able to reach out and do more than post roll in the new groups, but I want to do more. Frustrating! Trouble sleeping in the heat lately, plus staying up late watching the Celtics. Tired! Job chaos starting to ratchet up a notch. Stress! All good flavors of my previous funks. At least I have all you crazy quitters. I feel like I have drifted away a bit. Time for me to make more time for KFC, I mean KTC (sorry, it's lunch time).

Stay close, stay strong, stay quit.

There, that helps a little.

[visamoht]

Feels fantastic though don't it? My quit keeps getting better and better.

Absolutely!

[Gooch]

Feels fantastic though don't it? My quit keeps getting better and better.

[visamoht]

Good work Visa - 86 days is pretty sweet. 29 days for me. The day I got hooked a buddy of mine said "hey, lets stop at Casey's(convenience store in Iowa) and get some chew." Pushing 20 years later we were both still dipping. Not sure if he'll ever quit. Gonna give it a few more weeks/months on my quit before I work on him. Great job on your quit!

Thanks Gooch, and congrats on 29. Definitely want to make sure you are stable in your quit first. My suggestion would be to wait until you're 100 days in. I have been holding back on getting too involved outside of my own quit group until I enter HOF, but that's just me. Do what works for you, as long as you stay quit.

[Gooch]

Good work Visa - 86 days is pretty sweet. 29 days for me. The day I got hooked a buddy of mine said "hey, lets stop at Casey's(convenience store in Iowa) and get some chew." Pushing 20 years later we were both still dipping. Not sure if he'll ever quit. Gonna give it a few more weeks/months on my quit before I work on him. Great job on your quit!

[visamoht]

Day 86
I feel awesome. I can't believe I ruined 23 years of my life. What an idiot. What a pidiot! I always told myself I would never allow myself to quit until I got the guy I hooked to quit with me. I started in the summer of 84, hanging with a couple of guys from Florida (who I thought were cool) who were up here in Maine visiting their grandparents. That fall I hooked my best friend and next-door neighbor at the time. We jokingly referred to dip as pid, so no one would know what we were talking about. Now I look back and we were both pidiots! As far as I know, he is still dipping. I lost track of him a while ago. When the opportunity presents itself though, I will be sharing this site with him. I have stopped using the fact that he still dips as one of my lame ass excuses to keep dipping, along with all the others. Thanks to this site and all my quit brothers, I don't have a single worthwhile excuse to continue dipping.

Thanks everyone!