I'm dying here

[Cindy]

I was really hoping to see him succeed :/

[Raider]

This guy is missing, anyone have his digits?

No digits but I did e-mail him. Not responding. He seems to have more on his quit plate than he can handle. I do hope he finds his way back here but I am not holding my breath.

[Done4Me]

This guy is missing, anyone have his digits?

[Wt57]

You have recieve so much good advice, Raider has shown what this brotherhood is all about. Sometimes we need to quit one minute at a time. I want to add my thank you to you for your service. I want to add something about the way your wife is acting and saying. She is reacting based on the experience and fear she has. Her lack of faith in your ability to quit is based on past experiences. she lacks knowledge of the addictive properties of nicotine. My wife had long since given up on me ever quitting after 33 years of lying and broken promises. Be patient with her, but also ask her to step up and join you in this process. Ask her to learn with you the power of addiction and what it takes to win against it. My experience was similar to yours in that my wife would just roll her eyes if I said I was quitting. After 2 1/2 years now I thought that we had broken the lack of faith but she still has some doubts, she asked the other day "how are you doing with your fight with nicotine." I guess it really shows that she now knows that the fight never really ends. From a old man that dipped as long as you've been alive, I expect you to put as much effort into quitting as you ever put into anything else in your life. Learn the basics of the site, be as active as possible and use the tools that are here.

[Thumblewort]

You will hear this a lot " if I can do it, you can to ", and it used to drive me nuts. No one here knew me, and the stress I have, etc. But once you hang out long enough, you find out EVERYONE has problems, and stuffing our faces with poison was just making 2 problems instead of one.

I do not take care of myself, and I was scarred to death to stop using nicotine. It was a crutch, and I knew I would pay the price once I stopped - and I did for about 4 days. And now half a year later I wish I would have sacked up 10 years earlier. Being quit has given me a level of freedom I forgot existed.

[30isEnuff]

You are not alone in this quest. There is a ton of quitters here who have two, three, four DECADES of being hitched to the bitch. I'm at day 111 after 34 years of use... never would have made it this far without this brotherhood.You have to man up and say fuck you nic bitch...I hate you! Read the info through out these pages when the craving starts. It's amazing how that helps. Chat is also very helpful.
Learn to use the tools of this quit machine and you will never regret it.
Quit with you EDD Old ES

you smell that selfishness in boelker62's words?? That is how it is done. Quit for you. Think about it...did we dip for our family???? Hell no, we dipped for us...Let's grow a pair every a.m. and quit for ourselves. Then pay it forward.

[Enough snuff]

You are not alone in this quest. There is a ton of quitters here who have two, three, four DECADES of being hitched to the bitch. I'm at day 111 after 34 years of use... never would have made it this far without this brotherhood.You have to man up and say fuck you nic bitch...I hate you! Read the info through out these pages when the craving starts. It's amazing how that helps. Chat is also very helpful.
Learn to use the tools of this quit machine and you will never regret it.
Quit with you EDD Old ES

[Boelker62]

FMF - You have embarked on the best damn decision you'll ever make, and you have some SOLID quitters who have already given you massive quantities of good advice. I'm going to add just a couple more... First, read everything you can on this site about the addiction and how it totally takes over your brain (that's the part that makes you think you're so weak...but you're obviously not). Second, remember when your brain feels like it's going to explode and your chest is heaving because you are suffering from a crave for nicotine --- NICOTINE WITHDRAWAL HAS NEVER KILLED ANYONE. It may seem like you're dying, (that's how insidious that friggin' drug is), but you won't.

You already know this site is built on accountability and posting your word. It's really simple....posting your promise early every day to your quit group and honoring your post. Trade numbers with as many as you can (never know when you'll need to reach out to someone in the middle of one of those aforementioned craves). Welcome to the family of quitters. You keep plodding on one day at a time. You'll make it

Quit with you today!

I am a full fledged addict who has not used for 771 days. Every. Single. Day...I say to myself, and to all my quit brothers and sisters, "I quit today. All day. Just today."

Just today for me. Like Diesel said, get small. Just til noon. Just til 9AM. Circle back round again, and re-up.

I mean this very fucking literally: You cannot control tomorrow and you can't change your past from where you are sitting. All you can do, in this day, in this hour and minute, is not use. Kep your word. That it all.

I am proud to be quit with you, for me.

[CavMan83]

FMF - You have embarked on the best damn decision you'll ever make, and you have some SOLID quitters who have already given you massive quantities of good advice. I'm going to add just a couple more... First, read everything you can on this site about the addiction and how it totally takes over your brain (that's the part that makes you think you're so weak...but you're obviously not). Second, remember when your brain feels like it's going to explode and your chest is heaving because you are suffering from a crave for nicotine --- NICOTINE WITHDRAWAL HAS NEVER KILLED ANYONE. It may seem like you're dying, (that's how insidious that friggin' drug is), but you won't.

You already know this site is built on accountability and posting your word. It's really simple....posting your promise early every day to your quit group and honoring your post. Trade numbers with as many as you can (never know when you'll need to reach out to someone in the middle of one of those aforementioned craves). Welcome to the family of quitters. You keep plodding on one day at a time. You'll make it

Quit with you today!

[Mogul]

Great intro and conversation. Masterpiece of quit.

I'm an addict too and today is 341 days quit. Not worrying about tomorrow. I will just get up and post roll. If I don't get up then it really doesn't matter anymore. In other words, One Day at a Time until there are no more days.

Mogul

[eric71]

Thanks. I don't know what else to say right now.

You don't have to say anything. To a degree, we've all been in your shoes in regards to quitting. Reading the dialog in here was just like re-living the first few moments of my quit. Knowing all the excuses and easy outs I'd have access to only complicated my quit. When it comes right down to it, we all choose to quit minute by minute. An impulse is not a choice if ignored; it is merely a passing thought. You my friend, do not want to be a passing thought to your family. What you stood for in service and what you stand against as a quitter now will endear you and your life to your future generations. They will look to you for resolve when times get tough and they want to give up. I've seen this in my own life with our 4 kids and the confidence they show in facing life's obstacles. I am amazed to this day at the outpouring of support we give here to complete strangers. You will do this. When we need to lean, God gives us a fence. Lean on my friend and thank you for your service. Check your inbox for digits.

[GrizzlyBear]

You have to want this. Do this for yourself. Prove to yourself you don't need it.

Those feelings that push you to open the can are the drug. That's the nicotine talking and your whole life you put one in to make those go away. FUCK THAT NO MORE,if your going to let some worthless dirt in a can tell you how to live your life then you aren't living. Who's in control you or the drug? I will tell you right now that I am in control of my life and since you posted roll your about to take control of yours.

Everyday you're going to post roll. All you have to do is promise yourself you won't use tobacco for 24 hours. You're also promising everyone of us whose name is right next to yours on that Roll. Everyone of us is right here fighting the same war with you making the same EXACT promise.

You have to get over the excuses you give yourself to use. You were 4 days dip free. Nicotine was completely out of your system and you caved because you're weak like your wife said. You're going to have to MAN up and find your inner strength to fight this fight. Where is your will to live ol' man? Are you just going to give the fuck up and let this shit kill you? My grandpa died on day 2 of my quit. I can promise my emotions were equal to if not ALOT worse then what you felt from your "fight/argument". I could have easily caved but I grabbed my balls and took a stand for myself. Use seeds, gum, candy, toothpicks, or fake dip when you are struggling! Do WHATEVER it takes to keep that SHIT out of your mouth. You posted roll so I know you're ready to man up and fight instead of being a pussy about this.

Are you going to let this 22 year old show you up? Or are you going to join me and the others to no longer depend on nicotine and live a free life?

You don't need to answer that. You answered it when you posted roll. I quit with you today brother.

[BazookaJoe]

That was epic!!! I have tears in my eyes after reading the replies. The outpouring of help and encouragement was unmatched. KTC is truly a great place where a potential quitter can become 100% quit.

[Raider]

This will be a life saver. Chat is awesome

http://chat.killthecan.org/

[Raider]

http://www.killthecan.org/your-quit/wha ... t-dipping/

This may help