Day 562
I have debated for a couple of days whether I should even post this. But you can never know which post may help another quitter so I decided to go ahead and get it written down. So as not to alarm anyone eary this morning this is NOT a cave post.
The past couple of months of my life have been eventful to say the least. I am stupid busy at my job, stress level extremely high, my son and I have started a photograply business, a lot going on. At home same thing, daughter graduating, family coming over, extremely busy, more stress than usual and to top it off my daughter decided she needed to wreck her car which I am still trying to unwreck, and which also cost me the money I had saved to go the the Summit. Way more exciting and stressful than ol Greg is used to.
I was back in Oklahoma a couple of weeks ago, the state I grew up in and also where I started my addiction. Had a few different things planned for the week so even vacation was going to be busy. Had a photo shoot for my wife's charity event, another shoot with my son at a local club for Cinco De Mayo, some urban exploration, visiting friends, busy-busy. I have been back to Oklahoma many times since my quit began with no real problems to speak of as far as craves go, but this time would be different. I have been posting roll every day. Certainly not the first thing I did every day, but I make sure I post daily which as you will see shortly is the reason I am still posting here clean today.
The morning of the 5th my anxiety was up when I woke up, not quite as bad as the first few weeks of my quit but way above anything I had experienced recently and certainly not normal. I got calmed down, shook it off and began the day. Was out running around with my son and the little voice in my head started talking to me, "Doesn't that Skoal look good, you deserve one." Very faint at first, and not the first time I have had this internal discussion so I did not think much of it. I turned my thoughts elsewhere and it went away. This repeated itself a number of times as the day went on. Each time the thought got a little stronger and harder to get rid of, anxiety came and went too. WTF, wierd ass day.
My son and I arrived at the club and got our equipment set up for the nights events. As the photographers for the club we get free drinks so I got a beer and got ready for the evening. Decent party, lots of people, music was good, pretty women, good times !! 10:06PM ( I remember because I had just looked at my watch ) a crave hits me like I have not had in a very long time. Not sure what triggered it but holy shit!! My jaws started hurting, mouth watering, hands sweating, shaking,.. the real deal.
I have long stopped carrying fake with me in my briefcase or camera bag. Have not needed any so why carry it. No gum, no seeds, nothing. My inner voice is laughing its ass off..."got you where I want you", "come one dude you see a can over there just go get a dip". "Who cares". "Grab the smokes off the table and get one", nobody will see you. "Go up to the VIP area and act like you are taking pictures", who would know. I felt like I was posessed. This is not me I quit that shit.. What the fuck is going on ??!! I was dizzy, felt like I was going to puke, could not catch my breath, all the while my inner voice taunting me to get some NIC.
I had to get some air! I started making my way to the door. On my way out a guy I grew up with sees me and starts heading out with me and yes he has a big fat lip of shit. Wow, I thought when it rains it fucking pours. I get outside and get some air in my lungs and try to focus, what next? I need to talk to someone !! Should I call my wife,mom, son, who? This is where the magic happens quitters.
I had to talk to someone !! I reached in my pocket for my phone and as I pulled my hand out of my pocket my HOF coin came out dropped on the ground. I watched it hit the ground and land at my feet. I reached down and picked it up, I held the coin in my hand a minute and looked at it as I scrolled through the list of names in my phone trying to decide which one I was going to call. I kept seeing names of quitters; Murf, NOLAQ, Mule, Ready, Emily, Luke, Denney and the list went on and on. Some quitters I see here daily and others I have not seen in a long time. All these names, who should I call? As I searched the names looking for the one to call the crave started to go away, my mind started to clear, and I started calming back down. I scrolled through the numbers a couple more times and realized I no longer needed to call any of them. I had posted my promise and that was all I needed. I would not let all of these people down!! I went back inside, finished the night off and here I sit.
I have been in a funk since that night until this morning. I woke up today and my mood was back to normal, anxiety gone, the old me. Maybe that is why I felt the need to post this today. I have been trying to figure out what caused the crave and I have not figured it out. Maybe it was stress from work, Pissed about not going to the summit, worried about my daughter graduating, maybe it was the lights bouncing off the disco ball who knows. All I know is it came out of nowhere and hit me pretty hard.
I guess the reason for this post is to let you all know to keep your guard up at all times. Do not get relaxed and take your quit for granted. You see some people stop posting, others only post from time to time, both of which are a mistake in my opinion. 500 days seems like a long time but even at 500+ days I still have a long way to go to get even with the number of days I stuffed poision into my face. The 5th opened my eyes, I have been far too relaxed !!
This site works when used as directed. I will be posting daily for a long time. It is the reason I made it as far as I have, and it is the reason I am able to sit here today writing this NIC FREE !!
Thank you all for being quit and keeping me quit !!
Never Again !!
Greg
Thanks Greg...that was awesome. I have been dealing with the death of my father-in-law, I guy who was really my hero, and I kind of went thrrough the same thing the morning of his funeral. I then wne tscrolling through my phone. logged on to the site...realized that not only had I promised, but that Skoal Monster and others knew where I was, and that I was in the same state he is in AND he was pissed because it was snowing. It never crossed my mind again!
I love this place and every serious quitter here!