I spent some time going back over and reading items in the quit groups and in other sections and I get why a lot of people just don't stay here. Now I am a trained observer and after 20 years in the military and 15 in the Security Business the harsh and harassing way the brothers here treat people who don't fall in line exactly like they want them too really turns people off. If this site hadn't helped keep me quit so well and because I don't give a flying rats ass how dick cheeses think I should think I would have left back too.Â
But you know what I quit on my terms and for right now at this point in my quit I am staying here ... not because I feel I have to but because I want to. I made a commitment to myself and I am going to hang in. There is a lot going on in my life right now and I am not going to loose my cool if I slip up and miss a post; it won't toss me off the train and make me dip.Â
But one day ... down the tracks a ways I will be ready to face life without posting daily, or weekly or even at all. And you know what ... I won't feel bad about it.
BTW - Congratulations to all my brothers who have gone before me and those who are following me on keep your quit strong.
I don't get your anti-KTC vibe and what your trying to achieve with your comments. You are not helping anyone quit.
You have been quit 200+ days and only have 255 posts. If you want to be helpful, then why don't you jump in and try helping others. Show everyone how it is done. With all your years of experience it sounds like you could be helpful if you wanted to pay it forward. From what I can see you have done very little of that since you joined. It looks like you just like to sit out and throw pot shots at those who are actually trying to help the newbies quit. Just so I am clear, I am not being sarcastic here at all or trying to be an ass... I am dead serious. Start paying it forward. That is how this place works. You could help someone find their freedom!
The reason people most people leave is because they cave can't break free from their enslavement to nicotine. Most go back to using! I am sure others leave and stay quit. That is great if that works for them. Saying that they leave because they are treated poorly is a "caver" BS reason.
People respond to different methods of encouragement, support and talk. What works for some will not work for others. It takes a wide array of personalities to support a wide array of personalities. You are not going to like what everyone has to say this site is not designed for you to like what EVERYONE has to say. Some people respond to getting yelled at and others close down. Others need a softer approach. That is why we tell everyone... take what you need and leave the rest.
There is a method to KTC and people need to fall in line if they choose to quit this way. Like it or not.... that is what saved you. You need to work your quit every day. You are an addict and you can never have just one. We post roll every day and stay quit for that day. We support each other as best we can. Anything short of that should not be applauded. If people can't deal with that then they need to leave and quit somewhere else.
KTC is not broke. The KTC way works if you choose to use it.
No one is telling Bearhawk he needs to stay here the rest of his life. You can leave whenever you want. But I'd like to see you stay and save a few folks from their addiction to this evil poison. How does that sound?