Hey man. Do you want to save your marriage? It's all about honesty. You have to drop the wall that is between you and your wife. What is your wall?
My wall?
Fear of loss.
Fear that she will take everything I value from me.
Candy my daughter got divorced neither at fault she has them one week him the next. 50/50
Fear is ok, as long as you do not let it rule you. Instead use it to prepare like you have been doing. Spend time with your girls and keep doing what you want to do as you move ahead,
It boils down to this...
She runs, hides, and points fingers of blame like a newibe or caver does here.
I have to stand up and put an end to her avoidance of the issues that she is hiding from. When she is cornered it is going to get ugly. I still love her and I am going to have to do this for her and my girls.
Her family and friends allow her to avoid and project blame on to others. She will only continue to be miserable until she deals with what ever these issues are.
Since no one else is making her face these head on, I need to. Not because of spite or hatered but out of love and compassion.
We all know what happens around here when we call bullshit on a bullshitter, and that is keyboard vs keyboard. This is face to face with kids. She needs help, counseling, and to be shown there are other ways. No one in her life is willing to stand up and call her on it.
Thats what I am scared about. When she is called on it whatis she going to do? She has the power in the laws eyes in CT. It is a no fault state and 90% of the time primary custody is placed with the mother, despite "fault or curmistances". I need to be 100% ready for that time when I challenge her to look in the mirror.
