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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #348 on: November 18, 2015, 10:25:00 AM »
I had a conversation yesterday with my desk manager about sales. I respect the hell out of this guy, a Puerto Rican Vincent Van Ghoul.

"There was this guy I worked with, smartest guy, I have ever met, and a Marine none the less. The fukr could look at someone once and recall numbers, email, and the color car they drove. However, he could only sell maybe 5 cars a month. He was too smart, people found him to be an arrogant prick, almost insulting that he was so smart. People don't want to buy from smart, they want to buy from knowledgeable. Great fukn guy, horrible fukn salesman.'

I have been thinking about this, since then.

I have stopped apologizing for being me. I don't actually consider myself "smart" or "intelligent", I just have mastered the ability to learn. I know how to learn, apply, and refine that which I have learned. I come across as an arrogant prick or preachy, yeah, I know. But if I change that, I change me. I am far from being a pompous douche, but yet often accused of being egotistical.

I keep thinking about the fact that a certain skill set means that you are forever trapped in a job, role, or classification for life. As in most cases that means you can never expect to make more than someone deems you worth. I am tired of earning what someone thinks I am worth, I want to earn what I am worth.

I will sell 20 cars a month at some point, but right now I want to sell enough to pay my bills.
There are no circumstances in which using nicotine will improve the outcome.

My journey. The best part it is not over yet.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #347 on: November 16, 2015, 07:05:00 PM »
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Nothing about any of this is easy. Who ever tells you different is so full of crap their eyes are brown.

However to relish in the highs, you must experinces the lows. If you arent experincing this then your not living.
Candy man is right on 110 percent! But I will say what can keep you from doing this? You and only you! How bad you want it? One of the best things I've ever done. It's a challenge, hell I've always liked challenges but I also know my brother's and sisters are there anytime I need them and that is huge! This is Toyota month buy one and support a fine quit brother! Quit on Candy, its my damn pleasure to fight right along beside you.
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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #346 on: November 16, 2015, 05:37:00 PM »
Nothing about any of this is easy. Who ever tells you different is so full of crap their eyes are brown.

However to relish in the highs, you must experinces the lows. If you arent experincing this then your not living.
There are no circumstances in which using nicotine will improve the outcome.

My journey. The best part it is not over yet.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #345 on: November 16, 2015, 08:41:00 AM »
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481 +1's....

Each one different yet the same. I promised and i kept it, yet the out come and events of each of those +1's was different.

I know where i will begin and end my day. Giving you all my word not to use nicotine is making my bed.

I plan on being here tomorrow morning to do the same. Beyond that, yes I would like to, but thats the best I can do. I dont worry about tomorrow, because it is always a day away.
quit hard little orphan annie!
When I re read that, I caught that...hoping no one else would, but I knew better, Dadday Warbucks
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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #344 on: November 16, 2015, 05:53:00 AM »
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481 +1's....

Each one different yet the same. I promised and i kept it, yet the out come and events of each of those +1's was different.

I know where i will begin and end my day. Giving you all my word not to use nicotine is making my bed.

I plan on being here tomorrow morning to do the same. Beyond that, yes I would like to, but thats the best I can do. I dont worry about tomorrow, because it is always a day away.
quit hard little orphan annie!

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #343 on: November 15, 2015, 10:37:00 PM »
481 +1's....

Each one different yet the same. I promised and i kept it, yet the out come and events of each of those +1's was different.

I know where i will begin and end my day. Giving you all my word not to use nicotine is making my bed.

I plan on being here tomorrow morning to do the same. Beyond that, yes I would like to, but thats the best I can do. I dont worry about tomorrow, because it is always a day away.
There are no circumstances in which using nicotine will improve the outcome.

My journey. The best part it is not over yet.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #342 on: October 27, 2015, 01:18:00 PM »
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Men at some time are masters of their fates: The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves, that we are underlings.

Reject the concept of fate and superstition. A quitter believes and practices that he alone can shape his life with his actions. While if he becomes complacent he fails to master his own fate. Blaming it on the faults of luck, stars, and fate. It is foolish to ignore the soothsayer warning, because the "Ides of March" is always a day away.
Good to hear from you candy man , hope lifes treating you well!
I am doing well. Trying to make a name for myself at the dealership. They have given me the nick name of The Professor. Which is fitting. In the end I need to get people in the door.


Anyone looking for a Toyota? 'boob'
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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #341 on: October 26, 2015, 10:48:00 PM »
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Men at some time are masters of their fates: The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves, that we are underlings.

Reject the concept of fate and superstition. A quitter believes and practices that he alone can shape his life with his actions. While if he becomes complacent he fails to master his own fate. Blaming it on the faults of luck, stars, and fate. It is foolish to ignore the soothsayer warning, because the "Ides of March" is always a day away.
When I was a high school football player (yeah, it was a long time ago) I read a book by Gale Sayers called I Am Third. There was a statement in that book that I wrote out and taped over my desk - "I control my body; I control my destiny".

I used that as motivation to make it through football practices. It's funny that I never thought about relating it to my tobacco use - I dipped a lot in high school. :P

Nicotine is an evil mistress.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #340 on: October 26, 2015, 10:42:00 PM »
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Men at some time are masters of their fates: The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves, that we are underlings.

Reject the concept of fate and superstition. A quitter believes and practices that he alone can shape his life with his actions. While if he becomes complacent he fails to master his own fate. Blaming it on the faults of luck, stars, and fate. It is foolish to ignore the soothsayer warning, because the "Ides of March" is always a day away.
Good to hear from you candy man , hope lifes treating you well!
Tobacco is so addictive it took me a year after a massive heart attack, in which doctor confirmed caused from dipping to finally put a lid on the bitch! ODAAT EDD

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #339 on: October 26, 2015, 10:05:00 PM »
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Men at some time are masters of their fates: The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves, that we are underlings.

Reject the concept of fate and superstition. A quitter believes and practices that he alone can shape his life with his actions. While if he becomes complacent he fails to master his own fate. Blaming it on the faults of luck, stars, and fate. It is foolish to ignore the soothsayer warning, because the "Ides of March" is always a day away.
There are no circumstances in which using nicotine will improve the outcome.

My journey. The best part it is not over yet.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #338 on: September 29, 2015, 10:56:00 PM »
It is weird being in a place were I am not focused on yesterday or tomorrow at all. I am not stressing over what do I have to do.... the ever growing to do list. I am just doing what I have to do today. I do what I can and the rest is dealt with tomorrow. It is a weird place for sure. I always have had this sense of urgency about things, most self imposed, but now it is let me do what I can. And I am okay with that, which makes me smile.

This is huge for a high strung yankee addict
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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #337 on: September 26, 2015, 09:22:00 AM »
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I don't have a whole lot to add. Everything is at an even kind of pace and balance.

I am 3 weeks into 8 weeks of training at the Toyota dealership. We are talking, but it is not the easiest thing to do, when you never really knew how to talk about us in the 1st place.

Additionally I had drifted from activity at KTC over the past few weeks. I found that the thoughts of using increased. Yes I still have 100 % posting status. I posted and ghosted and have felt the pressures. Need to get back involved.
I found myself in the same boat as you bro. For the last couple weeks I felt like I needed a break and posted roll every day but ghosted as soon as I had made my promise. I found that as I was spending less time here I was thinking more about chewing and les about the freedom I have won through a determined discipline. I felt like I was drifting even though I posted roll each day. After 8 months of quit I know without a doubt that posting and ghosting DOES NOT wok for me. I need more. The "break" I thought was needed was weakening my quit not helping at all. I have gotten back to my normal posting and support that I was neglecting and I feel strong again. I had to remember that we only get out f our quit what we put into it. I refuse to ever lose the freedom I have earned through KTC and am thankful I was able to recognize what was happening before it went too far. I am glad you have recognized it was well. A break can be good but many of us need to stay heavily involved to maintain our strength. Besides.... There are many quitters who we can help if we are here. We need to remember that paying it forward is our responsibility and privilege. Proud to quit with you again today!
Wow^^^^^! How true that is for me. Candy man, you need to realize, whether you know it or not there's alot of people on here that needs your input daily. Look at the marriage thing like this , no news is good news sometimes! Quit on and enjoy life to the fullest. Sometimes happiness is right in front of us!
Tobacco is so addictive it took me a year after a massive heart attack, in which doctor confirmed caused from dipping to finally put a lid on the bitch! ODAAT EDD

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #336 on: September 25, 2015, 05:39:00 PM »
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I don't have a whole lot to add. Everything is at an even kind of pace and balance.

I am 3 weeks into 8 weeks of training at the Toyota dealership. We are talking, but it is not the easiest thing to do, when you never really knew how to talk about us in the 1st place.

Additionally I had drifted from activity at KTC over the past few weeks. I found that the thoughts of using increased. Yes I still have 100 % posting status. I posted and ghosted and have felt the pressures. Need to get back involved.
I found myself in the same boat as you bro. For the last couple weeks I felt like I needed a break and posted roll every day but ghosted as soon as I had made my promise. I found that as I was spending less time here I was thinking more about chewing and les about the freedom I have won through a determined discipline. I felt like I was drifting even though I posted roll each day. After 8 months of quit I know without a doubt that posting and ghosting DOES NOT wok for me. I need more. The "break" I thought was needed was weakening my quit not helping at all. I have gotten back to my normal posting and support that I was neglecting and I feel strong again. I had to remember that we only get out f our quit what we put into it. I refuse to ever lose the freedom I have earned through KTC and am thankful I was able to recognize what was happening before it went too far. I am glad you have recognized it was well. A break can be good but many of us need to stay heavily involved to maintain our strength. Besides.... There are many quitters who we can help if we are here. We need to remember that paying it forward is our responsibility and privilege. Proud to quit with you again today!

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #335 on: September 25, 2015, 04:29:00 PM »
I don't have a whole lot to add. Everything is at an even kind of pace and balance.

I am 3 weeks into 8 weeks of training at the Toyota dealership. We are talking, but it is not the easiest thing to do, when you never really knew how to talk about us in the 1st place.

Additionally I had drifted from activity at KTC over the past few weeks. I found that the thoughts of using increased. Yes I still have 100 % posting status. I posted and ghosted and have felt the pressures. Need to get back involved.
There are no circumstances in which using nicotine will improve the outcome.

My journey. The best part it is not over yet.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #334 on: September 19, 2015, 12:46:00 AM »
So you called the lawyer and now she wants to talk. You did what they call a 180. You took stong action for YOU and she responded positively. Good news.. Stay strong bro.