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Offline cbird65

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Re: Failed to Intro
« Reply #116 on: March 27, 2012, 12:01:00 PM »
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I'm impacting the only quit I can control....mine. If by some chance my actions impact other quitters whether that be through my posts, texts, chat, etc then so be it. I suppose its also a question of "who will open up their mind or lines of communication enough to permit you to impact their quit?"

As for you Cbird, you can impact my quit all day long.
Say it isn't so... did we just a have a "Top Gun" Kilmer/Cruise moment? 'crackup'

All seriousness aside * I mean kidding * It's great to be quit with you!!
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Re: Failed to Intro
« Reply #115 on: March 24, 2012, 07:35:00 PM »
I'm impacting the only quit I can control....mine. If by some chance my actions impact other quitters whether that be through my posts, texts, chat, etc then so be it. I suppose its also a question of "who will open up their mind or lines of communication enough to permit you to impact their quit?"

As for you Cbird, you can impact my quit all day long.
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Re: Failed to Intro
« Reply #114 on: March 24, 2012, 04:09:00 PM »
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My mind always races while I doing yard work - sometimes it's just random stuff that is meaningless but today I came away with a question for myself and for you quitters reading this and believe it's applicable in Day1 or Day gazillion



Who's quit are you impacting today??
You never really know unless someone speaks up. No matter though. You must understand that at the minimum, by posting roll everyday and keeping your word, you are showing someone else how to quit by your example, that it can be done, that they too can quit and stay that way.

Everything else is gravy.

On occasion, you will see a post or get a PM from someone saying something like, you were the first to PM me your number, yeah I never used it but it made my quit stronger. Or, You told me I could not cave without going through you first and that made all the difference. Or, you simply told me I could do this.

For every one of those, consider there are at least ten times that many you will never know about.

Ripples in the pond my friend. Do what you can to help when you can. What comes around goes around, ten fold.

Apologies for rambling,

It's a fine day to be quit.

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Re: Failed to Intro
« Reply #113 on: March 24, 2012, 03:52:00 PM »
My mind always races while I doing yard work - sometimes it's just random stuff that is meaningless but today I came away with a question for myself and for you quitters reading this and believe it's applicable in Day1 or Day gazillion



Who's quit are you impacting today??
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Re: Failed to Intro
« Reply #112 on: March 23, 2012, 03:39:00 PM »
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Day 83 and I feel a rank coming -

Over the last week or two I have seen a number of caves. "I had a couple too many during my first week or two of my quit. I slipped up, I was stressed out, I saw a buddy and he had a dip in and without thinking I asked him for one, blah blah blah blah!!!-

First - what are doing drinking anyway- get serious or get out- Are you setting a pattern of behavior by caving every time adversity faces you? “Buddy” really – NO FRIEND of mine would even consider offering me a dip of Copenstanken !

Get real guys – go back to “Hell week” and relive that experience in your head . If that’s not enough, how about all the other physical ailments Ms. Niccy has thrown at us over the last 80 + days.

Still not convinced, revisit that discussion in your head and heart about quitting in the first place - If you havenÂ’t had that discussion yet and are still quit, I employ you to do so otherwise there is no conviction in your decision and will be blown like a reed in the wind. It's time to man up and stay true to your word!

This roller coaster we're on changes all the time. Keeping one eye on the rear view mirror to keep grounded (learning from the past) and the other looking forward so you can navigate around the upcoming pot holes.

Coach Steve, hereÂ’s the soap box back Â….
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Re: Failed to Intro
« Reply #111 on: March 22, 2012, 04:55:00 PM »
Day 83 and I feel a rant coming -

Over the last week or two I have seen a number of caves. "I had a couple too many during my first week or two of my quit. I slipped up, I was stressed out, I saw a buddy and he had a dip in and without thinking I asked him for one, blah blah blah blah!!!-

First - what are doing drinking anyway- get serious or get out- Are you setting a pattern of behavior by caving every time adversity faces you? “Buddy” really – NO FRIEND of mine would even consider offering me a dip of Copenstanken !

Get real guys – go back to “Hell week” and relive that experience in your head . If that’s not enough, how about all the other physical ailments Ms. Niccy has thrown at us over the last 80 + days.

Still not convinced, revisit that discussion in your head and heart about quitting in the first place - If you havenÂ’t had that discussion yet and are still quit, I employ you to do so otherwise there is no conviction in your decision and will be blown like a reed in the wind. It's time to man up and stay true to your word!

This roller coaster we're on changes all the time. Keeping one eye on the rear view mirror to keep grounded (learning from the past) and the other looking forward so you can navigate around the upcoming pot holes.

Coach Steve, hereÂ’s the soap box back Â….
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Re: Failed to Intro
« Reply #110 on: March 09, 2012, 10:40:00 AM »
Day 70 - went on a mission to collect as many of my group's phone numbers this week- better than expected results but man oh man it took forever to manually input those into my phone-

If you are going to do a mass PM blast- I suggest you have your group call ur phone so all you have to do is personalize their number-

all of mine start KTC then their name or handle
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Re: Failed to Intro
« Reply #109 on: March 07, 2012, 09:17:00 AM »
Day 68 and the plan of action is paying it forward-

Yes, I've posted to intro pages with the how to steps or tried to help the newbies navigate the dreaded posting process.

Yesterday I start a new mission with my group and am pleased with the response ~~~so far ~~ better than 50% have responded favorably but I am wanting more.

Now its time to get into the mix- I have a number of guys who I am/will be sending weekly if not daily PMs with nuggets of knowledge I've found on these pages but also to talk straight with them - sorry so sugar coating the plain truth that no matter how long we're quit we still -(say it together) ADDICTS- albeit recovering addicts

more later
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Re: Failed to Intro
« Reply #108 on: March 06, 2012, 01:36:00 PM »
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At a loss for words


We lost one of our guys over the weekend.  Was he a random roll poster, you ask.  No, in fact he never missed a day.  That’s right for 60 days like clockwork he posted.  POOF- He was gone. 

Who is to blame-  well the guy with the smoking gun is the usual suspect -  haven’t heard his side of the story yet so I will reserve comment-

Lesson-  commit yourself early on and get/give numbers.  Along with that number swap you also give permission for the other to pound you if you don’t post or ever consider caving.

THIS IS NOT A GAME BOYS! 

If you do not want to make that commitment- re-think why you are here in the first place
Alright CBird - I've read all your posts and have gained much. I am sending you a PM with my # but more importantly reply back with yours. You will become my #1 on the list when shit gets tough. Sending PM now....
Thanks for those words but you really need to set the bar a little higher-

Socrates, Plato, and Aristotle of KTC reside here
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Re: Failed to Intro
« Reply #107 on: March 06, 2012, 01:09:00 PM »
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At a loss for words


We lost one of our guys over the weekend. Was he a random roll poster, you ask. No, in fact he never missed a day. ThatÂ’s right for 60 days like clockwork he posted. POOF- He was gone.

Who is to blame- well the guy with the smoking gun is the usual suspect - havenÂ’t heard his side of the story yet so I will reserve comment-

Lesson- commit yourself early on and get/give numbers. Along with that number swap you also give permission for the other to pound you if you donÂ’t post or ever consider caving.

THIS IS NOT A GAME BOYS!

If you do not want to make that commitment- re-think why you are here in the first place
Alright CBird - I've read all your posts and have gained much. I am sending you a PM with my # but more importantly reply back with yours. You will become my #1 on the list when shit gets tough. Sending PM now....

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Re: Failed to Intro
« Reply #106 on: March 06, 2012, 12:45:00 PM »
At a loss for words


We lost one of our guys over the weekend. Was he a random roll poster, you ask. No, in fact he never missed a day. ThatÂ’s right for 60 days like clockwork he posted. POOF- He was gone.

Who is to blame- well the guy with the smoking gun is the usual suspect - havenÂ’t heard his side of the story yet so I will reserve comment-

Lesson- commit yourself early on and get/give numbers. Along with that number swap you also give permission for the other to pound you if you donÂ’t post or ever consider caving.

THIS IS NOT A GAME BOYS!

If you do not want to make that commitment- re-think why you are here in the first place
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Re: Failed to Intro
« Reply #105 on: March 03, 2012, 02:17:00 PM »
Are you living your quit proactively or is it reactively??
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Re: Failed to Intro
« Reply #104 on: March 01, 2012, 10:16:00 PM »
That right there is a plan of defense.

Fucking yeah! I love me some quit protection.

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Re: Failed to Intro
« Reply #103 on: March 01, 2012, 07:30:00 PM »
Love your quit. Keep bringing it.

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Re: Failed to Intro
« Reply #102 on: March 01, 2012, 04:32:00 PM »
I saw this on an active page and will gladly tell you the author and give him his props if you ask.


He slipped, fell and he got back up but I will use it regardless!

“Alright. . . I am in a pissed off mood and I feel it is time to say some shit to those of you who may not be committed to your quit.

I have wanted to lay some shit down, but felt it wasn't (yet) my place because I am a retread. Here it is. Some of you are "attempting", "trying", thinking about quitting, or whatever because your girl doesn't like it or because your gums got wrecked or whatever. But you don't really want to be quit. You aren't willing to do ANYTHING to be quit. You may not even know the difference yet.

I learned it the hard way. I thought I was ready. I thought I quit for good but screwed myself and all of January 2012 over by caving when I strayed away because I thought I could do it on my own. I found out the hard way that I didn't want it bad enough.

Some of you have already caved. Some more will. Those of you who are serious will sit back and watch a recurring theme of "I thought I could do it on my own", "I quit posting roll and....", "I didn't have enough numbers", "It was late and I didn't want to wake anyone up", "I was stressed, tired, blah, blah, BLAH".

I know you all have heard this stuff a million times, but I don't care. Here it is again.

-Post roll every-day
-Keep your word
-Repeat
-Tell everyone around you that you are quit. Ask for their support.
-Involve your wife, your kids, family, anybody close to you in your quit.
-Demand that your "buddies" respect your decision. If they don't, they aren't you buddies.
-Tell dippers that you will dump their can on the floor if they let you get a hand on it.
-Get as many number as you can. I have 35 and I have used almost 20 of them. How many do you have?
Keep in touch with your quit brothers. Send them a text or call every few days just to keep an open line of communication.
-Give them your email address
-Make it IMPOSSIBLE for you to go a day without several people contacting you all day if you don't post roll.
-Have fake, gum, mints, atomic fire balls, orange peels, tea bags, ginger, seeds, whatever helps keep you quit handy at all times wherever you are.
-Be willing to do anything to get in contact with a quit brother to post roll. Call text, use a pay phone, hike to a spot with cell service, whatever.
-DO WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO DO TO STAY QUIT!
”
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