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Re: better things to do
« Reply #52 on: July 23, 2011, 05:02:00 PM »
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cool, you work out at home or a gym? I'm trying to do my own version of crossfit....kinda working....
A home for now, just trying to get back into the swing of it. check out the Exercise Forum.

I have a total of 2 dumbells w/ 40#s of weight, and a doorway pullup bar.

Really trying to get my body to acknowledge it CAN work out in the morning, but it does not agree. :rolleyes:

Figure I need about 30-45 minutes each morning, then a big workout on weekends to get back where I wanna be.
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Re: better things to do
« Reply #51 on: July 23, 2011, 04:43:00 PM »
cool, you work out at home or a gym? I'm trying to do my own version of crossfit....kinda working....

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Re: better things to do
« Reply #50 on: July 23, 2011, 04:29:00 PM »
Nothing to see here, move along

just in case

Just one of those better things to do I keep rambling about.
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Re: better things to do
« Reply #49 on: June 09, 2011, 04:56:00 PM »
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Day 137

Read this in Sept:
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Go to the pink welcome center link above and read about why we post roll on this site and how to post roll. If you follow the rules here, you will be quit. Get up, post roll, keep your word and repeat. Doesn't matter if it's been six months or sixteen years, if you follow this system, you will never go back to being a slave to the can. Good to be quit with you.
the line "If you follow the rules here, you will be quit got me to thinking about my quit. Is it really just that? Is that all it takes? The answer I come up with is yes and no.

Yes, because posting my promise daily does help reinforce my quit, and reminds me of WHY i quit and WHAT this addiction has done to me.

Yes, because I am a man of my word and there is no way I am letting my brothers down. There is NO chance that I will cave if have posted my promise.

Yes, because it has worked for 137 days in a row.

No, because its more than that.

The decision to post roll for me is the answer to a series of questions that I run through every morning (subconsciously):
Do I value my life and my family more than nicotine? If yes, post roll.  

Do I want to go back to being a slave? If no, post roll.

Is all this freedom now, and the years of extra time to watch my children have children later, worth the 5-10 minutes I will spend "actively" posting roll, bullshitting, posting support, etc.? If yes, post roll.

Is a fat lip worth throwing away the friendships I have formed with my quit brothers (and sisters)? If no, post roll.

(this one changes from time to time) How can I leave maineguy, who has limited means to post his promise and guard his quit, who I promised I would post his promise daily via text, how can I leave him hanging out to dry? I cant, so I will quit today too.

So while following the "rules" (post roll, keep your word, repeat) is an important part of being quit, it is not what makes one quit. It is a function of BEING quit. What makes me quit is NOT the act of posting roll, it is the DECISION that I am quit. I make that decision EVERY day, and then I post roll and hold myself accountable to my brothers.

So if newbies are reading this, dont think simply posting roll is some miracle cure. Its not. You have to want it. You have to decide to be quit today, and then post roll.

As some put it, the hardest easy thing you can do.
Nice post j2b. As you figured out very early on, the more you get involved with the folks here, the more skin that is in the game (no homo).

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Re: better things to do
« Reply #48 on: June 09, 2011, 04:11:00 PM »
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  This is PINK you asshat!

  This is SALMON you fag!

Ferfucksake

Get your shit together.
Does this make you hot LooT?

And your welcome.
Goldenrod ROCKS! Not quite as much as Salmon...but it's up there.

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Re: better things to do
« Reply #47 on: June 09, 2011, 04:10:00 PM »
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  This is PINK you asshat!

  This is SALMON you fag!

Ferfucksake

Get your shit together.
Does this make you hot LooT?

And your welcome.
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Re: better things to do
« Reply #46 on: June 09, 2011, 04:01:00 PM »
PS. Nice discussion. Thanks.

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Re: better things to do
« Reply #45 on: June 09, 2011, 04:01:00 PM »
This is PINK you asshat!

This is SALMON you fag!

Ferfucksake

Get your shit together.

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Re: better things to do
« Reply #44 on: June 09, 2011, 03:40:00 PM »
Quote from: jost2brown
Quote from: gmann
Quote from: jost2brown
Day 137

Read this in Sept:
Quote from: gmann
Go to the pink welcome center link above and read about why we post roll on this site and how to post roll. If you follow the rules here, you will be quit. Get up, post roll, keep your word and repeat. Doesn't matter if it's been six months or sixteen years, if you follow this system, you will never go back to being a slave to the can. Good to be quit with you.
the line "If you follow the rules here, you will be quit got me to thinking about my quit. Is it really just that? Is that all it takes? The answer I come up with is yes and no.

Yes, because posting my promise daily does help reinforce my quit, and reminds me of WHY i quit and WHAT this addiction has done to me.

Yes, because I am a man of my word and there is no way I am letting my brothers down. There is NO chance that I will cave if have posted my promise.

Yes, because it has worked for 137 days in a row.

No, because its more than that.

The decision to post roll for me is the answer to a series of questions that I run through every morning (subconsciously):
Do I value my life and my family more than nicotine? If yes, post roll.

Do I want to go back to being a slave? If no, post roll.

Is all this freedom now, and the years of extra time to watch my children have children later, worth the 5-10 minutes I will spend "actively" posting roll, bullshitting, posting support, etc.? If yes, post roll.

Is a fat lip worth throwing away the friendships I have formed with my quit brothers (and sisters)? If no, post roll.

(this one changes from time to time) How can I leave maineguy, who has limited means to post his promise and guard his quit, who I promised I would post his promise daily via text, how can I leave him hanging out to dry? I cant, so I will quit today too.

So while following the "rules" (post roll, keep your word, repeat) is an important part of being quit, it is not what makes one quit. It is a function of BEING quit. What makes me quit is NOT the act of posting roll, it is the DECISION that I am quit. I make that decision EVERY day, and then I post roll and hold myself accountable to my brothers.

So if newbies are reading this, dont think simply posting roll is some miracle cure. Its not. You have to want it. You have to decide to be quit today, and then post roll.

As some put it, the hardest easy thing you can do.
What? No citation to your source?

Point taken. However, there will be times when you need to just poll roll without thinking about it at all, in my opinion. Once you've posted roll, nothing else matters if you're a man of your word, so the ANSWERS to your questions are irrelevant at that point. I mean, what if one day a fatty WAS more important to you than gay sex? If you've posted roll, you'll still be having gay sex, but you WILL NOT be ingesting nicotine because you've given your word. And the gay sex is what you really wanted anyway, right?

We will always WANT to be nicotine free, it's just a matter of doing what it takes to REMAIN nicotine free. Posting roll, for me, is making the decision without thinking about it all.

I can foresee a time when I think I'm doing so well that I don't need to be here anymore. But what I can gather from those who have come back after a cave is that once you get away from the site, you start thinking that you must not be the same as all of the old timers that still post well after their comma. In other words, you start thinking "I'm still quit without the site, so I must be different from those guys. Maybe I can have just one." In that regard, my point is that if you post roll everyday and are a man/woman of your word, everything else is irrelevant.
While gay sex may interest you enough that you could be tempted to take fatty in the mouth and in the rear, its just does not have that appeal to me. And stop sending me pics of your junk - for the last time I AM NOT INTERESTED! 'na na'

You do make some good points, so let me get serious for a second. In case you didn't pick up on this, the questions are rhetorical. But the day I was finally honest enough with my self to be able to ask them is the day I decided enough was enough.

I DO value my life more than nicotine;
I DO NOT like being a slave;
I DO enjoy freedom and want to see my kids grown;
I HAVE made some great friends on this forum.

While the questions drone on in my head, the answers WILL NOT change.

Just like you cannot wake up one day and decide you are no longer gay, I will not wake up tomorrow and decide that I would love to go back to being a slave.
The answers to those questions are presumably the same for all nicotine addicts, whether they are currently using or not. I'm sure you valued your life more than nicotine back when you were using, right? But you weren't quit. And from what you're saying, you never really asked those questions of yourself. Okay, fair enough.

This is really just a chicken or the egg discussion anyway, so I'm not disagreeing with you at all. I'm just saying that there were plenty of times when I sat around listing all the things that were (in theory) more important to me than nicotine. But I wasn't quit.

As you know, I quit the first seven days on my own and then realized I needed this place. Things were actually easier once roll was posted each day. Once roll is posted, it doesn't matter whether your question is rhetorical or not.

In any event, you're a lousy fucking softball player, j2b.

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Re: better things to do
« Reply #43 on: June 09, 2011, 03:07:00 PM »
Quote from: gmann
Quote from: jost2brown
Day 137

Read this in Sept:
Quote from: gmann
Go to the pink welcome center link above and read about why we post roll on this site and how to post roll. If you follow the rules here, you will be quit. Get up, post roll, keep your word and repeat. Doesn't matter if it's been six months or sixteen years, if you follow this system, you will never go back to being a slave to the can. Good to be quit with you.
the line "If you follow the rules here, you will be quit got me to thinking about my quit. Is it really just that? Is that all it takes? The answer I come up with is yes and no.

Yes, because posting my promise daily does help reinforce my quit, and reminds me of WHY i quit and WHAT this addiction has done to me.

Yes, because I am a man of my word and there is no way I am letting my brothers down. There is NO chance that I will cave if have posted my promise.

Yes, because it has worked for 137 days in a row.

No, because its more than that.

The decision to post roll for me is the answer to a series of questions that I run through every morning (subconsciously):
Do I value my life and my family more than nicotine? If yes, post roll.

Do I want to go back to being a slave? If no, post roll.

Is all this freedom now, and the years of extra time to watch my children have children later, worth the 5-10 minutes I will spend "actively" posting roll, bullshitting, posting support, etc.? If yes, post roll.

Is a fat lip worth throwing away the friendships I have formed with my quit brothers (and sisters)? If no, post roll.

(this one changes from time to time) How can I leave maineguy, who has limited means to post his promise and guard his quit, who I promised I would post his promise daily via text, how can I leave him hanging out to dry? I cant, so I will quit today too.

So while following the "rules" (post roll, keep your word, repeat) is an important part of being quit, it is not what makes one quit. It is a function of BEING quit. What makes me quit is NOT the act of posting roll, it is the DECISION that I am quit. I make that decision EVERY day, and then I post roll and hold myself accountable to my brothers.

So if newbies are reading this, dont think simply posting roll is some miracle cure. Its not. You have to want it. You have to decide to be quit today, and then post roll.

As some put it, the hardest easy thing you can do.
What? No citation to your source?

Point taken. However, there will be times when you need to just poll roll without thinking about it at all, in my opinion. Once you've posted roll, nothing else matters if you're a man of your word, so the ANSWERS to your questions are irrelevant at that point. I mean, what if one day a fatty WAS more important to you than gay sex? If you've posted roll, you'll still be having gay sex, but you WILL NOT be ingesting nicotine because you've given your word. And the gay sex is what you really wanted anyway, right?

We will always WANT to be nicotine free, it's just a matter of doing what it takes to REMAIN nicotine free. Posting roll, for me, is making the decision without thinking about it all.

I can foresee a time when I think I'm doing so well that I don't need to be here anymore. But what I can gather from those who have come back after a cave is that once you get away from the site, you start thinking that you must not be the same as all of the old timers that still post well after their comma. In other words, you start thinking "I'm still quit without the site, so I must be different from those guys. Maybe I can have just one." In that regard, my point is that if you post roll everyday and are a man/woman of your word, everything else is irrelevant.
While gay sex may interest you enough that you could be tempted to take fatty in the mouth and in the rear, its just does not have that appeal to me. And stop sending me pics of your junk - for the last time I AM NOT INTERESTED! 'na na'

You do make some good points, so let me get serious for a second. In case you didn't pick up on this, the questions are rhetorical. But the day I was finally honest enough with my self to be able to ask them is the day I decided enough was enough.

I DO value my life more than nicotine;
I DO NOT like being a slave;
I DO enjoy freedom and want to see my kids grown;
I HAVE made some great friends on this forum.

While the questions drone on in my head, the answers WILL NOT change.

Just like you cannot wake up one day and decide you are no longer gay, I will not wake up tomorrow and decide that I would love to go back to being a slave.
The problem is not the problem.  The problem is your attitude about the problem.  Do you understand?

Draw Fire

If its too much trouble to post roll call, you could always fuck off.

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Re: better things to do
« Reply #42 on: June 09, 2011, 12:44:00 PM »
Quote from: jost2brown
Day 137

Read this in Sept:
Quote
Go to the pink welcome center link above and read about why we post roll on this site and how to post roll. If you follow the rules here, you will be quit. Get up, post roll, keep your word and repeat. Doesn't matter if it's been six months or sixteen years, if you follow this system, you will never go back to being a slave to the can. Good to be quit with you.
the line "If you follow the rules here, you will be quit got me to thinking about my quit. Is it really just that? Is that all it takes? The answer I come up with is yes and no.

Yes, because posting my promise daily does help reinforce my quit, and reminds me of WHY i quit and WHAT this addiction has done to me.

Yes, because I am a man of my word and there is no way I am letting my brothers down. There is NO chance that I will cave if have posted my promise.

Yes, because it has worked for 137 days in a row.

No, because its more than that.

The decision to post roll for me is the answer to a series of questions that I run through every morning (subconsciously):
Do I value my life and my family more than nicotine? If yes, post roll.

Do I want to go back to being a slave? If no, post roll.

Is all this freedom now, and the years of extra time to watch my children have children later, worth the 5-10 minutes I will spend "actively" posting roll, bullshitting, posting support, etc.? If yes, post roll.

Is a fat lip worth throwing away the friendships I have formed with my quit brothers (and sisters)? If no, post roll.

(this one changes from time to time) How can I leave maineguy, who has limited means to post his promise and guard his quit, who I promised I would post his promise daily via text, how can I leave him hanging out to dry? I cant, so I will quit today too.

So while following the "rules" (post roll, keep your word, repeat) is an important part of being quit, it is not what makes one quit. It is a function of BEING quit. What makes me quit is NOT the act of posting roll, it is the DECISION that I am quit. I make that decision EVERY day, and then I post roll and hold myself accountable to my brothers.

So if newbies are reading this, dont think simply posting roll is some miracle cure. Its not. You have to want it. You have to decide to be quit today, and then post roll.

As some put it, the hardest easy thing you can do.
What? No citation to your source?

Point taken. However, there will be times when you need to just poll roll without thinking about it at all, in my opinion. Once you've posted roll, nothing else matters if you're a man of your word, so the ANSWERS to your questions are irrelevant at that point. I mean, what if one day a fatty WAS more important to you than gay sex? If you've posted roll, you'll still be having gay sex, but you WILL NOT be ingesting nicotine because you've given your word. And the gay sex is what you really wanted anyway, right?

We will always WANT to be nicotine free, it's just a matter of doing what it takes to REMAIN nicotine free. Posting roll, for me, is making the decision without thinking about it all.

I can foresee a time when I think I'm doing so well that I don't need to be here anymore. But what I can gather from those who have come back after a cave is that once you get away from the site, you start thinking that you must not be the same as all of the old timers that still post well after their comma. In other words, you start thinking "I'm still quit without the site, so I must be different from those guys. Maybe I can have just one." In that regard, my point is that if you post roll everyday and are a man/woman of your word, everything else is irrelevant.

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Re: better things to do
« Reply #41 on: June 09, 2011, 12:13:00 PM »
Day 137

Read this in Sept:
Quote
Go to the pink welcome center link above and read about why we post roll on this site and how to post roll. If you follow the rules here, you will be quit. Get up, post roll, keep your word and repeat. Doesn't matter if it's been six months or sixteen years, if you follow this system, you will never go back to being a slave to the can. Good to be quit with you.
the line "If you follow the rules here, you will be quit got me to thinking about my quit. Is it really just that? Is that all it takes? The answer I come up with is yes and no.

Yes, because posting my promise daily does help reinforce my quit, and reminds me of WHY i quit and WHAT this addiction has done to me.

Yes, because I am a man of my word and there is no way I am letting my brothers down. There is NO chance that I will cave if have posted my promise.

Yes, because it has worked for 137 days in a row.

No, because its more than that.

The decision to post roll for me is the answer to a series of questions that I run through every morning (subconsciously):
Do I value my life and my family more than nicotine? If yes, post roll.

Do I want to go back to being a slave? If no, post roll.

Is all this freedom now, and the years of extra time to watch my children have children later, worth the 5-10 minutes I will spend "actively" posting roll, bullshitting, posting support, etc.? If yes, post roll.

Is a fat lip worth throwing away the friendships I have formed with my quit brothers (and sisters)? If no, post roll.

(this one changes from time to time) How can I leave maineguy, who has limited means to post his promise and guard his quit, who I promised I would post his promise daily via text, how can I leave him hanging out to dry? I cant, so I will quit today too.

So while following the "rules" (post roll, keep your word, repeat) is an important part of being quit, it is not what makes one quit. It is a function of BEING quit. What makes me quit is NOT the act of posting roll, it is the DECISION that I am quit. I make that decision EVERY day, and then I post roll and hold myself accountable to my brothers.

So if newbies are reading this, dont think simply posting roll is some miracle cure. Its not. You have to want it. You have to decide to be quit today, and then post roll.

As some put it, the hardest easy thing you can do.
The problem is not the problem.  The problem is your attitude about the problem.  Do you understand?

Draw Fire

If its too much trouble to post roll call, you could always fuck off.

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Re: better things to do
« Reply #40 on: May 03, 2011, 11:03:00 AM »
Congratulations, captain. The fame looks good on you.

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Re: better things to do
« Reply #39 on: May 03, 2011, 10:49:00 AM »
Congrats Josh. You are a bad ass quitter. I have seen you help others as well.

Well done.

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« Reply #38 on: May 02, 2011, 08:53:00 PM »
Day 99. 1 day away from the mythical Hall of Fame. I got lots to be thankful for, that I would rather not have lost in the shuffle, so I will save those for the speech.

Today, I was reflecting back on the last 99 days and was caught offguard by a massive crave. It was a stark reminder that day 100, tomorrow, hell the Hall of Fame, doesn't change things. Its just another day. An awesome milestone, but not a resting spot nor a chance to let down my guard. Tomorrow is to far away to think about. Best just honor my word, stay quit for today, and worry about tomorrow tomorrow.

Its worked for 99 days, and if it ain't broke don't fix it.
The problem is not the problem.  The problem is your attitude about the problem.  Do you understand?

Draw Fire

If its too much trouble to post roll call, you could always fuck off.

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