(If at all possible, could this be posted into Words of Wisdom) Hang in there ladies, its gonna be a long one....
Understanding the Wolf Pack MentalityIn nature, wolves form packs for a variety of reasons.
Stability. Order. Survival. (To name a few)
Stability. "All for one, and one for all." -Alexandre Dumas (The Three Musketeers) Just like wolves work together to survive, every quitter here relies on his brothers. On members of his pack, so to speak. You are here to quit. If you stumble, someone will help you up. Ask, and you shall receive. Every brother here will go out of his way to help you. We are a community, a pack. When we work together, we are unstoppable.
Order. “Chaos often breeds life, when order breeds habit.” -Henry Brooks Adams Without order, a pack would not exist. This community would not exist. Order is the glue that keeps us together. Stick to the KTC recipe, and you will get a perfect result every time.
"If it aint broke, dont fix it." The hard work has been done for you; Simply walk in the tracks left by those who went before you. Everyone has their place. Step in line, drink the KTC kool-aide, rinse-repeat.
Survival. “He who cannot change the very fabric of his thought will never be able to change reality, and will never, therefore, make any progress." -Anwar Sadat Taking the step towards quitting dip is the best thing you will have ever done for yourself. Look at it like this; If wolves do not eat, they will die. If you do not quit dip, you will die. I know, its a rough comparison, but you get the point. KTC has all the tools you need to survive, you just have to use them. (Dont forget to eat, drink and breathe though.)
These three traits help hold a pack together. They also help hold this community together. We help one another in our quits. We drink the kool-aide. And we post roll every damn day. Stability, Order, Survival. You cannot have one or the other. This is a package deal and they all work in unison to achieve one goal.
Just remember, there are two sides to every coin.
So you've been on the site for awhile. Your quit is going strong, you feel great. Maybe some of these thoughts are going through your nicotine deprived mind:
- Posting roll is such a pain.
- Im cured.
- I've been clean for 6 weeks, I can do this on my own.
Uh-oh. If you are thinking any of these thoughts, take a step back now. Protect your survival. After all, these thoughts are nothing more than the Nic B*tch whispering to you. You've deprived her of your company for so long she will pull all sorts of nasty tricks to win you back. If you are at this point, you are walking a fine line between
The Wolf Pack and
The Lone Wolf. Real Life and Death stuff here.
Lone WolfAbout 50 days into my quit, I thought I could do it alone. I made no real effort to post roll, I was constantly picking fights with anyone who would fight back. Screw the brotherhood, the hell with the kool-aide, I dont need a site to be quit.
Instability
Chaos
ExtinctionInstability. “I want a 100% kind of relationship, and I’m willing to give it 50%.
” -Jarod Kintz As soon as you walk away, you lose the support of everyone. You are just what you set off to be, alone. When the cravings hit, you are alone in your endeavor. No one is there to guide you through the fog, no one is there to lend a hand when you need it most. You are
ALONE.Chaos. “In chaos, there is fertility.” - Anaïs Nin And in fertility looms a dark and inviting cave. For the cave is the home of the Nic B*tch. She will your guide in the collapse of your quit. The cave seems oddly inviting, there is a familiarity about it.
Extinction. “Extinction is the rule. Survival is the exception.” -Carl Sagan Once you enter the cave, you are selling your soul to the devil. You will die. Plain and simple.
If going lone wolf was such a grand idea, dont you think we would all be doing it? Fact is, you cant do it. Not no way, not no how. Surely there is that one in a million guy that can, but do you really want to risk your life that its you?
Fear not! All is not lost. Simply take a step back. Utilize the tools at your disposal. Own your quit. Post roll every damn day! Talk to your brothers. Fact is, every last one of these guys has gone through the same thoughts you are having right now!
Dont be a special butterfly... Be an appreciated member of the pack! As much as you need us, we need you.
Read, read and read. And when your done reading, read some more. Read until your eyes are bleeding so bad you have something else to think about than walking away. Its simply not worth it.
Get your brothers numbers. Call them up, text them, do what it takes to strengthen your quit. Cause when your quit is strong, the pack is stronger for it.
Understand the Wolf Pack Mentality. If you're not already, become a proud member of our pack and QLF! If you're walking that line, think about what you have to lose.
