General Discussion - 2010

[Eutychus]

Apparently we can't post in the calendar, so here's an Early Reminder:

Happy birthday Cliff!

We still miss you. RIP

David J. Clifford
December 1, 1967 - September 10, 2006

[chewie]

New blog post: KTC Stocking Stuffer Pricing
http://blog.killthecan.org/?p=508

[FlyGuy91]

Hello everyone. I just passed 6 years quit and thought I'd drop by. :)

This quittin' stuff is worth the effort.

CONGRATS DUDE! I AM SO PROUD, KEEP IT UP! ASPIRE TO BE LIKE YOU!
-SEAN

[chewie]

ATTENTION QUITTERS!!!

On Saturday, QSX  KillTheCan.org celebrates it's 4 year anniversary! To celebrate the occasion, we'll have a ONE DAY ROLL call located here: index.php?showtopic=3541

I'd ask that everyone join this roll on Saturday.

Last year - index.php?showtopic=2741 - we collectively logged over 45,000 days quit and I'd LOVE to see that number jump this year!

Thanks for another great year quitters!

[Baitbanjo]

Hello everyone.  I just passed 6 years quit and thought I'd drop by.  :)

This quittin' stuff is worth the effort.

Awesome! Test......

That's a long time to be quit! Congrats.

Do you still ever get craves or dip dreams?

[larry]

Hello everyone. I just passed 6 years quit and thought I'd drop by. :)

This quittin' stuff is worth the effort.

Awesome! Test......

[chewie]

New blog post: Update On KTC  QSX Milestone Chips
http://blog.killthecan.org/?p=495

[QuittinTime]

Hello everyone. I just passed 6 years quit and thought I'd drop by. :)

This quittin' stuff is worth the effort.

Congrats to you Al !!!

[Ready]

Hello everyone. I just passed 6 years quit and thought I'd drop by. :)

This quittin' stuff is worth the effort.

Indeed it is. Congrats on the 6 years.

[arbcubed]

Hello everyone. I just passed 6 years quit and thought I'd drop by. :)

This quittin' stuff is worth the effort.

[syndrome]

Thanks To All Who Have Served! 'usflag'

indeed. i may question the leaders who are willing to put so many in harms way, but salute those who serve with honor.

[Buckfever36]

Thanks To All Who Have Served! 'usflag'

[Ready]

One of the only things that greatly concerns me about this gawd awful ugly mess of a cave is the reactions like teaka's.

Before anyone takes away from this that quitting for any period of time is impossible, YOU MUST consider this:

Lawen4cer was not active on this site.
Lawen4cer did not post roll everyday.
Lawen4cer was not accountable to anyone on this site.
Lawen4cer did not use the tools learned on this site.
Lawen4cer did not give ANYONE on this site an opportunity to help PRIOR to caving.

I have yet to see anyone over a year quit who does all of the above things cave.

Period.

[teaka]

I will be back and to that i give my word.

Lawen4cer

Law -



I'll ask only one thing of you. When you come back, make it for the final time. Don't show up until you're really ready to be done for good. That's the only way that this will work for you.

I'll be here when you're determined to get the Bitch out of your life for the final time.

chewie

Is this an order? I quit for 3.5 years and i knew 3.5 years ago that this wasn't my final time?!

Its not like i come here quit for a few years just to fuck it off again. I have never started a quit that i didn't feel i was really really ready for...

I thought the one i was on for 3 years+ was my final time but i was wrong it seems.

Law - you must decide to save your own life. We'll help and support you AFTER you've made to decision. Analyze what went wrong and amend your plan. In addition to posting roll, I re-read the Kern family story every now and then. I printed off the contract and keep it with me. I come back to encourage others (like this).

The tough-love thing on here is other people who are angry you caved because they care about you. The anger you feel is because your angry at yourself for caving, angry that nic keeps working her damn way back into your life, and angry because YOU let her. Let's face it...YOU let YOU down. The best part is that your pissed off!!! Use that anger as motivation. Do something about it.

Get numbers, amend your quit plan, and just focus on one day at a time. Forget "forever"...you just need to worry about right now...today. Then post roll, stay quit for just one day, and repeat daily. There is no better time than right now to save your own life. You take the first step, we'll help with the rest.

Well said Bean... well said indeed.

Law, no need to get snippy, and no... it wasn't an order. I was merely trying to say that I didn't want you to come back before you were ready. I don't want to see you back here in a month merely because "it's been long enough".

But I'd like to ask one thing not because I'm being a dick but because I'm honestly curious. What brings you back to the can after so long? You've been a quit machine for YEARS and then have gone back multiple times. Why? Has there been something similar each time?

I ask because at this point in my quit, I can't for the life of me think of a reason that I'd ever go back. I'm not saying this cause I think I'm better than you or my quit is any stronger than yours was. I'm also not saying this cause I think I'm "cured" after all this time. I'm honestly curious as to what would lead you back after you'd gotten the bitch out of your life - especially knowing what you know?

chewie

"You've been a quit machine for YEARS and then have gone back multiple times. Why? "

First of all Id like to clear something up. I caved a bit back before may 8 2007

may 8 2007 I quit and remained quit never dipping until sep 19 2010. there have not been multiple times or caves.

sorry if I came off as snippy it was not my intent. it was a question because if it was I would know if I could come back or not. you being the "boss" and all if you say dont come back then I wont. was clarifying what I didnt understand.

as to why I wont go into detail in an open room. but it was something that happened that I could nolonger deal with in my head and one day I had a complete melt down about the whole thing and basically quit caring came up for air a week later as I said before I realised that I needed to talk action and not just on dip if I was going to find myself again because I went MIA for a while.

if you want details PM me and I will do my best to say it as it was.

Law

Law- Just want you to know that it's a big lesson for us on this site to read what you are going through.
When I see a veteran like yourself with big Quit numbers cave, it just drives the point home for me that I will never be cured. I will always be an addict and must be prepared to live that way. Having "just one" is not an option and staying focused on my Quit will be a daily committment.
I hope you get back on the site soon to start your Quit again. Because you deserve to be nic free.

Brian

There is nothing more discouraging to me than hearing of a long time quitter blowing it. I know that as addicts we will always be tempted, but it just floors me that someone can give this shit up for years and than go back. Most of us started chewing when we were too young and stupid to know better. But I would like to think that after a year of two or three of being quit, that our adult brain could overcome a crave or tough moment. thanks law!

[brianl]

I will be back and to that i give my word.

Lawen4cer

Law -



I'll ask only one thing of you. When you come back, make it for the final time. Don't show up until you're really ready to be done for good. That's the only way that this will work for you.

I'll be here when you're determined to get the Bitch out of your life for the final time.

chewie

Is this an order? I quit for 3.5 years and i knew 3.5 years ago that this wasn't my final time?!

Its not like i come here quit for a few years just to fuck it off again. I have never started a quit that i didn't feel i was really really ready for...

I thought the one i was on for 3 years+ was my final time but i was wrong it seems.

Law - you must decide to save your own life. We'll help and support you AFTER you've made to decision. Analyze what went wrong and amend your plan. In addition to posting roll, I re-read the Kern family story every now and then. I printed off the contract and keep it with me. I come back to encourage others (like this).

The tough-love thing on here is other people who are angry you caved because they care about you. The anger you feel is because your angry at yourself for caving, angry that nic keeps working her damn way back into your life, and angry because YOU let her. Let's face it...YOU let YOU down. The best part is that your pissed off!!! Use that anger as motivation. Do something about it.

Get numbers, amend your quit plan, and just focus on one day at a time. Forget "forever"...you just need to worry about right now...today. Then post roll, stay quit for just one day, and repeat daily. There is no better time than right now to save your own life. You take the first step, we'll help with the rest.

Well said Bean... well said indeed.

Law, no need to get snippy, and no... it wasn't an order. I was merely trying to say that I didn't want you to come back before you were ready. I don't want to see you back here in a month merely because "it's been long enough".

But I'd like to ask one thing not because I'm being a dick but because I'm honestly curious. What brings you back to the can after so long? You've been a quit machine for YEARS and then have gone back multiple times. Why? Has there been something similar each time?

I ask because at this point in my quit, I can't for the life of me think of a reason that I'd ever go back. I'm not saying this cause I think I'm better than you or my quit is any stronger than yours was. I'm also not saying this cause I think I'm "cured" after all this time. I'm honestly curious as to what would lead you back after you'd gotten the bitch out of your life - especially knowing what you know?

chewie

"You've been a quit machine for YEARS and then have gone back multiple times. Why? "

First of all Id like to clear something up. I caved a bit back before may 8 2007

may 8 2007 I quit and remained quit never dipping until sep 19 2010. there have not been multiple times or caves.

sorry if I came off as snippy it was not my intent. it was a question because if it was I would know if I could come back or not. you being the "boss" and all if you say dont come back then I wont. was clarifying what I didnt understand.

as to why I wont go into detail in an open room. but it was something that happened that I could nolonger deal with in my head and one day I had a complete melt down about the whole thing and basically quit caring came up for air a week later as I said before I realised that I needed to talk action and not just on dip if I was going to find myself again because I went MIA for a while.

if you want details PM me and I will do my best to say it as it was.

Law

Law- Just want you to know that it's a big lesson for us on this site to read what you are going through.
When I see a veteran like yourself with big Quit numbers cave, it just drives the point home for me that I will never be cured. I will always be an addict and must be prepared to live that way. Having "just one" is not an option and staying focused on my Quit will be a daily committment.
I hope you get back on the site soon to start your Quit again. Because you deserve to be nic free.

Brian