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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #235 on: August 21, 2015, 03:49:00 PM »
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God, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.

Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.

Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
Prayers man. Just never give up man.
I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.
Just keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.
That's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.
Candy

I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.

Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.

Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
We care about what is happening to you even if it's long distance. Thoughts and prayers sent your way!!!
This family is what is giving me the strength to go forward. I know that I can do this and I will come out a new person.

I am struggling with words to express what this brotherhood is all about.

Quitting is all about changing who you are not what you do. Right now your prayers, thoughts, texts, and PMS are what is keeping me going.
Keep on fighting, Cando. Just like quitting, it's going to suck until it doesn't. This is your cue to move forward and leave all of the BS behind. Focus on gaining momentum each day, not in solving every last problem sitting in front of you.

The world seems crushing and suffocating right now. As long as you keep pushing forward, you will emerge stronger and victorious. Probably a lot faster than you realize.
Candy praying every day for you, fight for what you believe is right but somehow I can't see all the problems being all your fault. Stay strong and don't say never, it is what it is and we can't control everything. Be the man candy!
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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #234 on: August 21, 2015, 03:11:00 PM »
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God, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.

Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.

Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
Prayers man. Just never give up man.
I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.
Just keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.
That's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.
Candy

I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.

Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.

Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
We care about what is happening to you even if it's long distance. Thoughts and prayers sent your way!!!
This family is what is giving me the strength to go forward. I know that I can do this and I will come out a new person.

I am struggling with words to express what this brotherhood is all about.

Quitting is all about changing who you are not what you do. Right now your prayers, thoughts, texts, and PMS are what is keeping me going.
Keep on fighting, Cando. Just like quitting, it's going to suck until it doesn't. This is your cue to move forward and leave all of the BS behind. Focus on gaining momentum each day, not in solving every last problem sitting in front of you.

The world seems crushing and suffocating right now. As long as you keep pushing forward, you will emerge stronger and victorious. Probably a lot faster than you realize.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #233 on: August 21, 2015, 02:09:00 PM »
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God, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.

Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.

Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
Prayers man. Just never give up man.
I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.
Just keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.
That's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.
Candy

I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.

Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.

Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
We care about what is happening to you even if it's long distance. Thoughts and prayers sent your way!!!
This family is what is giving me the strength to go forward. I know that I can do this and I will come out a new person.

I am struggling with words to express what this brotherhood is all about.

Quitting is all about changing who you are not what you do. Right now your prayers, thoughts, texts, and PMS are what is keeping me going.
There are no circumstances in which using nicotine will improve the outcome.

My journey. The best part it is not over yet.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #232 on: August 21, 2015, 01:51:00 PM »
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God, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.

Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.

Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
Prayers man. Just never give up man.
I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.
Just keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.
That's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.
Candy

I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.

Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.

Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
We care about what is happening to you even if it's long distance. Thoughts and prayers sent your way!!!

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #231 on: August 21, 2015, 01:51:00 PM »
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God, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.

Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.

Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
Prayers man. Just never give up man.
I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.
Just keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.
That's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.
Candy

I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.

Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.

Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
We care about what is happening to you even if it's long distance. Thoughts and prayers sent your way!!!

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #230 on: August 21, 2015, 11:06:00 AM »
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God, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.

Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.

Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
Prayers man. Just never give up man.
I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.
Just keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.
That's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.
Candy

I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.

Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.

Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
There are no circumstances in which using nicotine will improve the outcome.

My journey. The best part it is not over yet.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #229 on: August 21, 2015, 11:02:00 AM »
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God, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.

Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.

Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
Prayers man. Just never give up man.
I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.
Just keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.
That's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.
Candy

I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.

Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #228 on: August 21, 2015, 10:45:00 AM »
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God, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.

Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.

Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
Prayers man. Just never give up man.
I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.
Just keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.
That's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.
There are no circumstances in which using nicotine will improve the outcome.

My journey. The best part it is not over yet.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #227 on: August 21, 2015, 10:39:00 AM »
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God, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.

Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.

Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
Prayers man. Just never give up man.
I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.
Just keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #226 on: August 21, 2015, 10:33:00 AM »
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God, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.

Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.

Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
Prayers man. Just never give up man.
I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.
There are no circumstances in which using nicotine will improve the outcome.

My journey. The best part it is not over yet.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #225 on: August 21, 2015, 10:29:00 AM »
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God, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.

Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.

Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
Prayers man. Just never give up man.
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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #224 on: August 21, 2015, 10:23:00 AM »
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God, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.

Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.

Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #223 on: August 21, 2015, 10:20:00 AM »
God, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.

Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
There are no circumstances in which using nicotine will improve the outcome.

My journey. The best part it is not over yet.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #222 on: August 21, 2015, 06:51:00 AM »
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I am so scared.
Why am I shouldering all of the blame?
Why am I saying this is all my fault?
Why am I doing all of this to save it?

Am I holding on to something that isn't worth it? I believe I should be fighting for it, but how do I keep going? This is draining beyond anything I ever experienced.

I feel used and broken. I am scared that I wasted time and effort. But I can tell that she is also unsure. Statements like right now, maybe, at this point. In those there is hope that is what I am holding on too.
Being scared is a natural human reaction. But the energy you are expending being scared is fruitless. Refocus and harness that energy on bettering yourself through an employment change. I suggested before and I'll suggest again doing literally anything to get that ball rolling - including delivering pizza. An idol mind is the devils workshop. Once you get back in the work world and you are able to focus more on that, I bet you spouse will be happy with some changes you've made.

Just my 2 cents sir.
I have been trying, Lowes, home depot, Walmart, today a few liqour stores. I am also going to apply at a couple super markets.
There are no circumstances in which using nicotine will improve the outcome.

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Re: this time is for real
« Reply #221 on: August 21, 2015, 06:41:00 AM »
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I am so scared.
Why am I shouldering all of the blame?
Why am I saying this is all my fault?
Why am I doing all of this to save it?

Am I holding on to something that isn't worth it? I believe I should be fighting for it, but how do I keep going? This is draining beyond anything I ever experienced.

I feel used and broken. I am scared that I wasted time and effort. But I can tell that she is also unsure. Statements like right now, maybe, at this point. In those there is hope that is what I am holding on too.
Being scared is a natural human reaction. But the energy you are expending being scared is fruitless. Refocus and harness that energy on bettering yourself through an employment change. I suggested before and I'll suggest again doing literally anything to get that ball rolling - including delivering pizza. An idol mind is the devils workshop. Once you get back in the work world and you are able to focus more on that, I bet you spouse will be happy with some changes you've made.

Just my 2 cents sir.