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[cbird65]

Day 95
In five days I will hit the Hall, yes on Easter Sunday. This has a very special meaning to me but I must express something else before I forget it.

Yesterday was a interesting day. Like the 2nd week of my quit, my wife is out of town and I found myself relying on this site to reinforce my quit. The gheys in April were there as usual but a few had wandered in the neighborhood. Me, being the designated “watcher” went in search and wound up in the firestorm of a newbie trying to test his wings and I had reflect back oh so long ago and smile. Preference is trumped by principle every time.
What are you talking about bird, you ask? Let me explain.

I am a believer. I believe that Jesus Christ, the Son of God, was virgin born, lived a sinless life, was crucified and was resurrected three days later. I believe He was the sacrifice and He alone is is the way the truth and the light and no one shall come to the Father without Him This my friends is a principle- it is NOT up for debate.

My choice of church I worship in is a preference.

Long way around the bend to stick with me. I had to steal something from Loot

” Roll call is the most important thing you will do here. That one simple act will be what makes this quit different than any other attempt. Roll call, quite simply, is a promise to your brothers that you will be Nicotine Free for that day.

We require a simple “one day at a time” philosophy. Make roll call, concentrate on today and today only. We’ll work through the troubles of today with you. We’ll worry about tomorrow when it gets here.

Roll call will build accountability with your brothers. You know that the man next to you in line is going through or has dealt with the exact same things you are. Lean on the knowledge of those who have walked that road. Develop relationships with them and especially the guys in your home group. These people will save your life if you let them”.

This is a principle. You cannot separate the end goal of brotherhood, accountability and success without posting.

Make an impact today on your group and this site as a whole and strengthen the accountability!

[Suck-It]

Stay alert guys- the confidence level might be running high as we near HOF but if the recent posts over the last week indicate the Nic Bitch is not dead nor has she decided to give April 2012 a free ride to HOF. She doesnÂ’t care what day you are on 1, 100, 1000- if she can get you to slip she wins

She’s lurking in the background, just waiting for a tiny gap to pollute us again. She’ll wear disguises to try to worm her way back into our lives. Just one, it’s okay, you deserve it for doing so well. It’s alright this (pick your tobacco product) doesn’t really count – you need one. Plug in any ‘conditional situation’ you want but the answer must always be NO!

I’ve taken on the attitude of shooting to kill – God will separate them out later- Not literally, but mentally , I haven’t turned into a psycho killer yet.

We have busy lives that put us into harmÂ’s way or in the Nic BitchÂ’s path every day. No one is gets a free pass. Your enemy, this demon spawn called nicotine prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.

Be on your guard at all time because it is your life you are protecting. We canÂ’t isolate ourselves everyday so we must attack her every day. WeÂ’re not playing prevent defense any longer. This should be an all-out aerial, ground and sea attack.

Keep your head on swivel and be ready to reach out and support anyone who might be wavering. If you are wavering- reach out to someone. Don’t let pride get in the way. If the overwhelming support over the last two weeks has shown it strengthens the one who needed the help but conversely it strengthens the quit of the helper. Be willing to accept the help even if ‘you’ve passed the crave/cave’ scenario.

Good stuff. Thanks for posting and keep leading the way. I agree with you, thoughts of the HOF are great and all but that is only the first milestone - it is not the goal. The goal is to remain quit, forever. We reach that by quitting one day a time. I love your thoughts on this as a war, and every day is a new battle. Some easy and some hard. But, we all can win the battle without thinking about the war. Around here we quit one day at a time.

Hope you are having a great weekend and thanks for posting, I enjoy reading your posts. Keep them up, they are big help.

[cbird65]

Stay alert guys- the confidence level might be running high as we near HOF but if the recent posts over the last week indicate the Nic Bitch is not dead nor has she decided to give April 2012 a free ride to HOF. She doesnÂ’t care what day you are on 1, 100, 1000- if she can get you to slip she wins

She’s lurking in the background, just waiting for a tiny gap to pollute us again. She’ll wear disguises to try to worm her way back into our lives. Just one, it’s okay, you deserve it for doing so well. It’s alright this (pick your tobacco product) doesn’t really count – you need one. Plug in any ‘conditional situation’ you want but the answer must always be NO!

I’ve taken on the attitude of shooting to kill – God will separate them out later- Not literally, but mentally , I haven’t turned into a psycho killer yet.

We have busy lives that put us into harmÂ’s way or in the Nic BitchÂ’s path every day. No one is gets a free pass. Your enemy, this demon spawn called nicotine prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.

Be on your guard at all time because it is your life you are protecting. We canÂ’t isolate ourselves everyday so we must attack her every day. WeÂ’re not playing prevent defense any longer. This should be an all-out aerial, ground and sea attack.

Keep your head on swivel and be ready to reach out and support anyone who might be wavering. If you are wavering- reach out to someone. Don’t let pride get in the way. If the overwhelming support over the last two weeks has shown it strengthens the one who needed the help but conversely it strengthens the quit of the helper. Be willing to accept the help even if ‘you’ve passed the crave/cave’ scenario.

[Coach Steve]

I'm impacting the only quit I can control....mine. If by some chance my actions impact other quitters whether that be through my posts, texts, chat, etc then so be it. I suppose its also a question of "who will open up their mind or lines of communication enough to permit you to impact their quit?"

As for you Cbird, you can impact my quit all day long.

Say it isn't so... did we just a have a "Top Gun" Kilmer/Cruise moment? 'crackup'

All seriousness aside * I mean kidding * It's great to be quit with you!!

If that's the case then you should have responded, "Bullshit, you can impact mine."

This is ghost rider requesting a fly by......

Negative ghost rider the pattern is full........

[cbird65]

I'm impacting the only quit I can control....mine. If by some chance my actions impact other quitters whether that be through my posts, texts, chat, etc then so be it. I suppose its also a question of "who will open up their mind or lines of communication enough to permit you to impact their quit?"

As for you Cbird, you can impact my quit all day long.

Say it isn't so... did we just a have a "Top Gun" Kilmer/Cruise moment? 'crackup'

All seriousness aside * I mean kidding * It's great to be quit with you!!

[Coach Steve]

I'm impacting the only quit I can control....mine. If by some chance my actions impact other quitters whether that be through my posts, texts, chat, etc then so be it. I suppose its also a question of "who will open up their mind or lines of communication enough to permit you to impact their quit?"

As for you Cbird, you can impact my quit all day long.

[Ready]

My mind always races while I doing yard work - sometimes it's just random stuff that is meaningless but today I came away with a question for myself and for you quitters reading this and believe it's applicable in Day1 or Day gazillion



Who's quit are you impacting today??

You never really know unless someone speaks up. No matter though. You must understand that at the minimum, by posting roll everyday and keeping your word, you are showing someone else how to quit by your example, that it can be done, that they too can quit and stay that way.

Everything else is gravy.

On occasion, you will see a post or get a PM from someone saying something like, you were the first to PM me your number, yeah I never used it but it made my quit stronger. Or, You told me I could not cave without going through you first and that made all the difference. Or, you simply told me I could do this.

For every one of those, consider there are at least ten times that many you will never know about.

Ripples in the pond my friend. Do what you can to help when you can. What comes around goes around, ten fold.

Apologies for rambling,

It's a fine day to be quit.

[cbird65]

My mind always races while I doing yard work - sometimes it's just random stuff that is meaningless but today I came away with a question for myself and for you quitters reading this and believe it's applicable in Day1 or Day gazillion



Who's quit are you impacting today??

[nv0311]

Day 83 and I feel a rank coming -

Over the last week or two I have seen a number of caves. "I had a couple too many during my first week or two of my quit. I slipped up, I was stressed out, I saw a buddy and he had a dip in and without thinking I asked him for one, blah blah blah blah!!!-

First - what are doing drinking anyway- get serious or get out- Are you setting a pattern of behavior by caving every time adversity faces you? “Buddy” really – NO FRIEND of mine would even consider offering me a dip of Copenstanken !

Get real guys – go back to “Hell week” and relive that experience in your head . If that’s not enough, how about all the other physical ailments Ms. Niccy has thrown at us over the last 80 + days.

Still not convinced, revisit that discussion in your head and heart about quitting in the first place - If you havenÂ’t had that discussion yet and are still quit, I employ you to do so otherwise there is no conviction in your decision and will be blown like a reed in the wind. It's time to man up and stay true to your word!

This roller coaster we're on changes all the time. Keeping one eye on the rear view mirror to keep grounded (learning from the past) and the other looking forward so you can navigate around the upcoming pot holes.

Coach Steve, hereÂ’s the soap box back Â….

'clap'

[cbird65]

Day 83 and I feel a rant coming -

Over the last week or two I have seen a number of caves. "I had a couple too many during my first week or two of my quit. I slipped up, I was stressed out, I saw a buddy and he had a dip in and without thinking I asked him for one, blah blah blah blah!!!-

First - what are doing drinking anyway- get serious or get out- Are you setting a pattern of behavior by caving every time adversity faces you? “Buddy” really – NO FRIEND of mine would even consider offering me a dip of Copenstanken !

Get real guys – go back to “Hell week” and relive that experience in your head . If that’s not enough, how about all the other physical ailments Ms. Niccy has thrown at us over the last 80 + days.

Still not convinced, revisit that discussion in your head and heart about quitting in the first place - If you havenÂ’t had that discussion yet and are still quit, I employ you to do so otherwise there is no conviction in your decision and will be blown like a reed in the wind. It's time to man up and stay true to your word!

This roller coaster we're on changes all the time. Keeping one eye on the rear view mirror to keep grounded (learning from the past) and the other looking forward so you can navigate around the upcoming pot holes.

Coach Steve, hereÂ’s the soap box back Â….

[cbird65]

Day 70 - went on a mission to collect as many of my group's phone numbers this week- better than expected results but man oh man it took forever to manually input those into my phone-

If you are going to do a mass PM blast- I suggest you have your group call ur phone so all you have to do is personalize their number-

all of mine start KTC then their name or handle

[cbird65]

Day 68 and the plan of action is paying it forward-

Yes, I've posted to intro pages with the how to steps or tried to help the newbies navigate the dreaded posting process.

Yesterday I start a new mission with my group and am pleased with the response ~~~so far ~~ better than 50% have responded favorably but I am wanting more.

Now its time to get into the mix- I have a number of guys who I am/will be sending weekly if not daily PMs with nuggets of knowledge I've found on these pages but also to talk straight with them - sorry so sugar coating the plain truth that no matter how long we're quit we still -(say it together) ADDICTS- albeit recovering addicts

more later

[cbird65]

At a loss for words


We lost one of our guys over the weekend.  Was he a random roll poster, you ask.  No, in fact he never missed a day.  That’s right for 60 days like clockwork he posted.  POOF- He was gone. 

Who is to blame-  well the guy with the smoking gun is the usual suspect -  haven’t heard his side of the story yet so I will reserve comment-

Lesson-  commit yourself early on and get/give numbers.  Along with that number swap you also give permission for the other to pound you if you don’t post or ever consider caving.

THIS IS NOT A GAME BOYS! 

If you do not want to make that commitment- re-think why you are here in the first place

Alright CBird - I've read all your posts and have gained much. I am sending you a PM with my # but more importantly reply back with yours. You will become my #1 on the list when shit gets tough. Sending PM now....

Thanks for those words but you really need to set the bar a little higher-

Socrates, Plato, and Aristotle of KTC reside here

[Suck-It]

At a loss for words


We lost one of our guys over the weekend. Was he a random roll poster, you ask. No, in fact he never missed a day. ThatÂ’s right for 60 days like clockwork he posted. POOF- He was gone.

Who is to blame- well the guy with the smoking gun is the usual suspect - havenÂ’t heard his side of the story yet so I will reserve comment-

Lesson- commit yourself early on and get/give numbers. Along with that number swap you also give permission for the other to pound you if you donÂ’t post or ever consider caving.

THIS IS NOT A GAME BOYS!

If you do not want to make that commitment- re-think why you are here in the first place

Alright CBird - I've read all your posts and have gained much. I am sending you a PM with my # but more importantly reply back with yours. You will become my #1 on the list when shit gets tough. Sending PM now....

[cbird65]

At a loss for words


We lost one of our guys over the weekend. Was he a random roll poster, you ask. No, in fact he never missed a day. ThatÂ’s right for 60 days like clockwork he posted. POOF- He was gone.

Who is to blame- well the guy with the smoking gun is the usual suspect - havenÂ’t heard his side of the story yet so I will reserve comment-

Lesson- commit yourself early on and get/give numbers. Along with that number swap you also give permission for the other to pound you if you donÂ’t post or ever consider caving.

THIS IS NOT A GAME BOYS!

If you do not want to make that commitment- re-think why you are here in the first place