This topic might have been addressed at some point prior to my arrival, but I wanted some feedback. The topic is HOF speeches. My question is whether or not I should feel obligated to post one at or near day 100. And I bring this up not to belittle the speeches or question their worthiness. I already know, after reading so many, how valuable they are to our quits. But this has been eating at me as I near 100 days quit.
To me, Hall of Fame means a career of superiority. It means you are or were the best at your chosen field or profession. It means you weren't just rewarded for a "hot streak" but rather a long procession of winning seasons. I am not at all trying to buck this ridiculously awesome KTC staple or those that choose to post their HOF speech at day 100. Instead, I was looking for personal feelings toward this practice for those of us that don't want to do it so soon.
One day, maybe at day 100 but probably not, I WILL write a HOF speech. But what if I don't feel ready to do so at day 100? What if I don't yet feel worthy of HOF at day 100?Â
This site has been my lifeline. It probably even saved my life. I know I'm now quit. I know the bitch will enter my thoughts but never my body again. But I relish the thought of writing that speech. I relish, as I recently posted, crying my damn eyes out while putting into words taking my damn life back and all that it means to me. But after 16 years, 100 days was basically yesterday. I want to one day, but I'm not ready to write all of that down yet.
I would love to have your thoughts on that.
You're over thinking it.
Write one when you feel like it. This isn't major league baseball, where a group of sports writers and media members are going vote you in and there's some ceremony where your old coach or son gives a speech about you, before you take the Mic.
The only criteria for our Hall of Fame is to make it 100 days nic free. You do it, you're in. And, in my eyes, you deserve to be. Theres no illusions that after 100 days your "done". Infact its all over the site that nothing ends at 100 days.
Personally I think 100 days is almost like a goal or checkpoint in a LIFETIME of quit. When I first quit I thought 100 days was an impossibility. Fuck, 100 days seemed like 100 years. It was nice that after being told to just "quit for today" that their was always that nice round number of 100 and the hof to look forward too. Nobody said you had to have to make it 100 days AND be some kind of quit legend where everyone looked at you as "one of the best" in the quit field. Who is to judge that anyway? A guy makes it 100 days he's in. He's done something to be hella proud of. Who the fuck would tell him otherwise? You want to write a speech sucking your own dick a little bit and thanking all that have helped you to get to 100 days the minute the counter flips 100 days or whenever you feel like it...it doesn't matter. People are going to read it, dig it, support and congratulate you regardless.
This isn't a "career" where you one day hang up your quit and everyone judges how great your quit was. You're quits over when you fucking die. You wanna write a speech go ahead, who gives a flying fuck when. You don't want to write a speech, again, who gives a fuck. And I personally do feel you are belittling the process. Using the term "hot streak" implies that those who write one often fail, or aren't worthy? I don't get that.
Just keep that cancerous, addicting, controlling, and nasty shit out of your mother fucking mouth.
That's all that really matters. IMHO
Nope, not belittling the practice of speeches. LOVE IT, in fact. Been working towards it for 88 days. Can't wait to write one. I'm just not ready. The problem I have with your reply is the whole "who gives a fuck" angle. I believe this is individual to the quitter. I'm not disagreeing with your position, only offering a rebuttal. We're both offering opinions, after all.
If I wrote a HOF speech in a few days with a "who gives a fuck if anybody reads this" mindset, wouldn't I be saying that I don't really give a fuck about this quit or anybody that reads my ramblings? With that question, I'm also completely agreeing with you that I am HIGHLY overthinking this HOF speech. But so are you.
These speeches are personal yet public to our community. I do give a fuck what it says (when I'm ready to say it,) because what if my speech is the speech that saves somebody's life? I'm capable of writing something compelling enough to do just that. We all are.
I read a post just yesterday or the day before from a KTC quitter that was over 500 days quit and craving, and more than anything, I questioned how powerful my speech needed to be for ME to stay quit. In that moment, I didn't think about saving somebody, I thought about clicking on my own HOF speech when craving, sucking in a lot of air, and trying to remember the time when I wanted to quit that badly. Over 500 days!! I haven't had a crave bad enough to send packing in weeks and this guy nearly had to send out an SOS at over 500 days.
Now that I'm nearly 100 days, I don't ever think I'll earn the title of MVP, but I hope that HOF speech, whenever I write it, helps somebody save their own life. That's why it means a hell of a lot to me.